What does your AP relationship look like?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The person that you're married to could be living a better life, but your draining it. Just move on so they can be happy.

Working on that. Kids involved. Spouse could have been working on our relationship but refused and refused sex for years now so this happened and now we’re workinf on delicately breaking up the marriage without too much damage to the kids.

PP do you realize how common this is? Your assumption and judgment is silly and naive. -NP

Your judgment is even more silly and naive, based upon what little you really know of PP's life and situation.

[Anonymous]

It is short, intense bursts of time with somebody.

I want to share everything with him, but since I don't see him often, and we avoid an electronic trail, I have to save it all up. Sometimes I forget things, miss things. I want to share the books I'm reading with him. Or TV I'm watching. Or things I've thought about. The things I'm trying to work out. My work goals. My problem children.

We have to allot time for sex and for conversation, which cuts into both. Sometimes I see him and can't touch him or have sex with him. He's right there, but inaccessible. And he and I have fantastic chemistry, which is something I don't have with my husband.

Its very very limited in time - Like a tiny mini vacation when I see him, but also like a mini marriage. I know about his health concerns, his family issues, his work issues. But I don't know about his finances or have any of the work/family responsibilities. He knows all about my kids, but doesn't have any direct contact or responsibility. I'm not sure he could even identify them in a crowd. It's birthday and vacation sex that I want to have instead of sex that I feel required to have. It's, for me, knowing for the first time what real longing for another person is. I can be open with him and not expect to get judged as I would by my kids and husband. It is feeling alive and liking who I am with him.

I've never had an overnight with him. I'm sure he snores and steals the covers and is generally a bed hog since he's significantly taller than I am. We would have been a great couple, but circumstances are such that we aren't a couple at all. We exist on little mini dates that are all free of responsibility and care and are simply tiny vacations from reality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is short, intense bursts of time with somebody.

I want to share everything with him, but since I don't see him often, and we avoid an electronic trail, I have to save it all up. Sometimes I forget things, miss things. I want to share the books I'm reading with him. Or TV I'm watching. Or things I've thought about. The things I'm trying to work out. My work goals. My problem children.

We have to allot time for sex and for conversation, which cuts into both. Sometimes I see him and can't touch him or have sex with him. He's right there, but inaccessible. And he and I have fantastic chemistry, which is something I don't have with my husband.

Its very very limited in time - Like a tiny mini vacation when I see him, but also like a mini marriage. I know about his health concerns, his family issues, his work issues. But I don't know about his finances or have any of the work/family responsibilities. He knows all about my kids, but doesn't have any direct contact or responsibility. I'm not sure he could even identify them in a crowd. It's birthday and vacation sex that I want to have instead of sex that I feel required to have. It's, for me, knowing for the first time what real longing for another person is. I can be open with him and not expect to get judged as I would by my kids and husband. It is feeling alive and liking who I am with him.

I've never had an overnight with him. I'm sure he snores and steals the covers and is generally a bed hog since he's significantly taller than I am. We would have been a great couple, but circumstances are such that we aren't a couple at all. We exist on little mini dates that are all free of responsibility and care and are simply tiny vacations from reality.

You are a selfish and entitled brat. And a horrible mother and human being.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is short, intense bursts of time with somebody.

I want to share everything with him, but since I don't see him often, and we avoid an electronic trail, I have to save it all up. Sometimes I forget things, miss things. I want to share the books I'm reading with him. Or TV I'm watching. Or things I've thought about. The things I'm trying to work out. My work goals. My problem children.

We have to allot time for sex and for conversation, which cuts into both. Sometimes I see him and can't touch him or have sex with him. He's right there, but inaccessible. And he and I have fantastic chemistry, which is something I don't have with my husband.

Its very very limited in time - Like a tiny mini vacation when I see him, but also like a mini marriage. I know about his health concerns, his family issues, his work issues. But I don't know about his finances or have any of the work/family responsibilities. He knows all about my kids, but doesn't have any direct contact or responsibility. I'm not sure he could even identify them in a crowd. It's birthday and vacation sex that I want to have instead of sex that I feel required to have. It's, for me, knowing for the first time what real longing for another person is. I can be open with him and not expect to get judged as I would by my kids and husband. It is feeling alive and liking who I am with him.

I've never had an overnight with him. I'm sure he snores and steals the covers and is generally a bed hog since he's significantly taller than I am. We would have been a great couple, but circumstances are such that we aren't a couple at all. We exist on little mini dates that are all free of responsibility and care and are simply tiny vacations from reality.

You are a selfish and entitled brat. And a horrible mother and human being.

You beat me to the punch. Or she's a sociopath.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are a selfish and entitled brat. And a horrible mother and human being.

And yet somehow you’ve managed to happily live and comfortably survive despite the PP’s indiscretions.
I suspect you can still continue to do so even with this newfound information of her affair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The person that you're married to could be living a better life, but your draining it. Just move on so they can be happy.

Lol are you serious?
Are really you that dense?
I don’t care about the happiness of the person I’m married to genius.
I’m selfish and self-centered, the only person whose happiness I care about is me.
My happiness is all that matters that’s why I’m having an affair in the first place DUH!!!

l

Nope, that’s why your spouse is having an affair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is short, intense bursts of time with somebody.

I want to share everything with him, but since I don't see him often, and we avoid an electronic trail, I have to save it all up. Sometimes I forget things, miss things. I want to share the books I'm reading with him. Or TV I'm watching. Or things I've thought about. The things I'm trying to work out. My work goals. My problem children.

We have to allot time for sex and for conversation, which cuts into both. Sometimes I see him and can't touch him or have sex with him. He's right there, but inaccessible. And he and I have fantastic chemistry, which is something I don't have with my husband.

Its very very limited in time - Like a tiny mini vacation when I see him, but also like a mini marriage. I know about his health concerns, his family issues, his work issues. But I don't know about his finances or have any of the work/family responsibilities. He knows all about my kids, but doesn't have any direct contact or responsibility. I'm not sure he could even identify them in a crowd. It's birthday and vacation sex that I want to have instead of sex that I feel required to have. It's, for me, knowing for the first time what real longing for another person is. I can be open with him and not expect to get judged as I would by my kids and husband. It is feeling alive and liking who I am with him.

I've never had an overnight with him. I'm sure he snores and steals the covers and is generally a bed hog since he's significantly taller than I am. We would have been a great couple, but circumstances are such that we aren't a couple at all. We exist on little mini dates that are all free of responsibility and care and are simply tiny vacations from reality.

You are a selfish and entitled brat. And a horrible mother and human being.

Sounds like someone is jealous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is short, intense bursts of time with somebody.

I want to share everything with him, but since I don't see him often, and we avoid an electronic trail, I have to save it all up. Sometimes I forget things, miss things. I want to share the books I'm reading with him. Or TV I'm watching. Or things I've thought about. The things I'm trying to work out. My work goals. My problem children.

We have to allot time for sex and for conversation, which cuts into both. Sometimes I see him and can't touch him or have sex with him. He's right there, but inaccessible. And he and I have fantastic chemistry, which is something I don't have with my husband.

Its very very limited in time - Like a tiny mini vacation when I see him, but also like a mini marriage. I know about his health concerns, his family issues, his work issues. But I don't know about his finances or have any of the work/family responsibilities. He knows all about my kids, but doesn't have any direct contact or responsibility. I'm not sure he could even identify them in a crowd. It's birthday and vacation sex that I want to have instead of sex that I feel required to have. It's, for me, knowing for the first time what real longing for another person is. I can be open with him and not expect to get judged as I would by my kids and husband. It is feeling alive and liking who I am with him.

I've never had an overnight with him. I'm sure he snores and steals the covers and is generally a bed hog since he's significantly taller than I am. We would have been a great couple, but circumstances are such that we aren't a couple at all. We exist on little mini dates that are all free of responsibility and care and are simply tiny vacations from reality.

You are a selfish and entitled brat. And a horrible mother and human being.

Sounds like someone is jealous.

Sounds like one was raised right, while one wasn't.

Seems like it would be better to divorce then date. Why be married and live a sick lifestyle?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
It is short, intense bursts of time with somebody.

I want to share everything with him, but since I don't see him often, and we avoid an electronic trail, I have to save it all up. Sometimes I forget things, miss things. I want to share the books I'm reading with him. Or TV I'm watching. Or things I've thought about. The things I'm trying to work out. My work goals. My problem children.

We have to allot time for sex and for conversation, which cuts into both. Sometimes I see him and can't touch him or have sex with him. He's right there, but inaccessible. And he and I have fantastic chemistry, which is something I don't have with my husband.

Its very very limited in time - Like a tiny mini vacation when I see him, but also like a mini marriage. I know about his health concerns, his family issues, his work issues. But I don't know about his finances or have any of the work/family responsibilities. He knows all about my kids, but doesn't have any direct contact or responsibility. I'm not sure he could even identify them in a crowd. It's birthday and vacation sex that I want to have instead of sex that I feel required to have. It's, for me, knowing for the first time what real longing for another person is. I can be open with him and not expect to get judged as I would by my kids and husband. It is feeling alive and liking who I am with him.

I've never had an overnight with him. I'm sure he snores and steals the covers and is generally a bed hog since he's significantly taller than I am. We would have been a great couple, but circumstances are such that we aren't a couple at all. We exist on little mini dates that are all free of responsibility and care and are simply tiny vacations from reality.


You are a selfish and entitled brat. And a horrible mother and human being.


You beat me to the punch. Or she's a sociopath.

Oh my god I just threw up in my mouth. Could you be more self-centered and selfish? Your poor husband and kids. I feel so so so sorry for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The person that you're married to could be living a better life, but your draining it. Just move on so they can be happy.

Lol are you serious?
Are really you that dense?
I don’t care about the happiness of the person I’m married to genius.
I’m selfish and self-centered, the only person whose happiness I care about is me.
My happiness is all that matters that’s why I’m having an affair in the first place DUH!!!

l

Nope, that’s why your spouse is having an affair.

Lol - actually I was paraphrasing the attitude of all my friends who cheat on their wives.
They know they're selfish sons-of-bitches and they know they are too greedy to just let their wife go to live a better wife.
Nobody having an affair is totally ignorant or unconscionable they are just too self-centered to care.

[Anonymous]

whores being whores in this thread. man, you cheaters are so gross

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The person that you're married to could be living a better life, but your draining it. Just move on so they can be happy.

Lol are you serious?
Are really you that dense?
I don’t care about the happiness of the person I’m married to genius.
I’m selfish and self-centered, the only person whose happiness I care about is me.
My happiness is all that matters that’s why I’m having an affair in the first place DUH!!!

l

Nope, that’s why your spouse is having an affair.

Lol - actually I was paraphrasing the attitude of all my friends who cheat on their wives.
They know they're selfish sons-of-bitches and they know they are too greedy to just let their wife go to live a better wife.
Nobody having an affair is totally ignorant or unconscionable they are just too self-centered to care.

**And I used the term "friends" loosely so don't start with that shit about how awful I am.

[Anonymous]

The best part is that when these cheaters eventually get caught, they will either leave or blame it on issues in their marriage.

"It was a mistake and I feel terrible for it."

[Anonymous]

OP asked. I told. Don't read it if it is going to upset you. Really.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP asked. I told. Don't read it if it is going to upset you. Really.

Yes but now is a good time to clean up your act.