Sisters with totally different body types

[Anonymous]

I have a similar situation but I have boys.... I know it is not as big a deal with boys. Mine are the same age as your girls. My younger one is tall and very thin. My older one is athletic but short for his age and muscular. People often ask if they are twins and I’m sure the younger one will be taller than the older one relatively soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both my mother and my MIL are commenting on how chubby my 2.5 month old baby is. She's 90th percentile for height and 75th for weight, and the pediatrician says she's perfect. I really worry about the world she has entered.

I agree also that you need to shut it down. I'm trying to do the same.

Oh, babies are different because they are supposed to be chubby! And they can’t understand anyway. Let it go until she is a year or so at least.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both my mother and my MIL are commenting on how chubby my 2.5 month old baby is. She's 90th percentile for height and 75th for weight, and the pediatrician says she's perfect. I really worry about the world she has entered.

I agree also that you need to shut it down. I'm trying to do the same.

Oh, babies are different because they are supposed to be chubby! And they can’t understand anyway. Let it go until she is a year or so at least.

I disagree-set the precedent that policing their GC’s weight is unacceptable. It doesn’t stop and only escalates as they get older.

[Anonymous]

Ugh. This is terrible for them. You are doing all the right things. Not a sibling comparison, but I was often compared to my mother, by her and other relatives. I was thicker as a kid (but not overweight) and my mother as a child/teen/adult, was always very thin and tall. But a lot of my struggle I believe came from my own mother not accepting my shape and her language toward my body. It was very damaging to me and how I viewed myself as a teen and young adult. Also was very damaging to my relationship with my mother.

[Anonymous]

This happened to me. I was the chubby older one.(which I really wasn't, I had a round face and wasn't stick skinny, which was a requirement in the 70s and 80s). Sister was beautiful, skinny one. My sister is stunningly beautiful, no joke. It was also relatives that made comments. This still affects me. I lost around 5kg at 15, 16 and was super skinny ever since. As you can see, I am approaching 50 and these things are still in my head, I managed to be confident and try not to let it affect me now, but still a sore spot. Sister is now chubby, still beautiful, and yet I resent being put on a diet when I was 2 by mom, I resent having the fake compliment how I was "healthy looking," shelled out non stop. It is a toxic cycle that stays with you for the rest of your life. Please cut off any such comment right away. You have no idea how your younger will turn out, but damage by idiotic comments will stay with her forever, like it has stayed with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both my mother and my MIL are commenting on how chubby my 2.5 month old baby is. She's 90th percentile for height and 75th for weight, and the pediatrician says she's perfect. I really worry about the world she has entered.

I agree also that you need to shut it down. I'm trying to do the same.

Oh, babies are different because they are supposed to be chubby! And they can’t understand anyway. Let it go until she is a year or so at least.

I disagree-set the precedent that policing their GC’s weight is unacceptable. It doesn’t stop and only escalates as they get older.

DP. Overly sensitive!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both my mother and my MIL are commenting on how chubby my 2.5 month old baby is. She's 90th percentile for height and 75th for weight, and the pediatrician says she's perfect. I really worry about the world she has entered.

I agree also that you need to shut it down. I'm trying to do the same.

Oh, babies are different because they are supposed to be chubby! And they can’t understand anyway. Let it go until she is a year or so at least.

I disagree-set the precedent that policing their GC’s weight is unacceptable. It doesn’t stop and only escalates as they get older.

DP. Overly sensitive!

Absolutely. Chubby babies are the ideal. You’re being ridiculous.