Entering 5th grade and hairy - do I intervene?

[Anonymous]

buy Nair hair removal face cream. Show her how to do it. Do now before school school starts. Make her feel beautiful. Have a mani pedi with her and a nice hair cut and get ready for back to school. She needs your guidance. Kids are cruel. 6th grade teacher who commented is clueless about remarks kids make to each other. I have three daughters and they all need grooming help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:buy Nair hair removal face cream. Show her how to do it. Do now before school school starts. Make her feel beautiful. Have a mani pedi with her and a nice hair cut and get ready for back to school. She needs your guidance. Kids are cruel. 6th grade teacher who commented is clueless about remarks kids make to each other. I have three daughters and they all need grooming help.

13:34 and 18:41 also had similar experiences with lack of kids caring about a classmate’s body hair. Not all sixth graders are horrible little monsters relentlessly seeking out some vulnerability to savage their classmates over. If your community is like that, there’s a parenting problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:buy Nair hair removal face cream. Show her how to do it. Do now before school school starts. Make her feel beautiful. Have a mani pedi with her and a nice hair cut and get ready for back to school. She needs your guidance. Kids are cruel. 6th grade teacher who commented is clueless about remarks kids make to each other. I have three daughters and they all need grooming help.

13:34 and 18:41 also had similar experiences with lack of kids caring about a classmate’s body hair. Not all sixth graders are horrible little monsters relentlessly seeking out some vulnerability to savage their classmates over. If your community is like that, there’s a parenting problem.

This reply is ridiculous. There are 600 kids per grade in my child's middle school. Apparently every family in this "community" raised their kids the same way and we're either all good or all bad at it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here- thank you all for the advice and support. I love the idea of having a cabinet with everything she needs when she needs it.

Include the dermaplane razors. I've been using the ones they sell at Sephora. Cheap and works great. Easy to use. And the hair does not grow back course.

[Anonymous]

I draw the line at bikini line caring for kids. Seriously if there's a hair issue, just wear boy short bottoms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Related, my mother didn’t want me to shave. Thought I was too young. I was teased at school. My mom made a huge fuss over it. Gave me razors for Christmas telling me I could now shave.

This is all very controlling, right?

Yes, very controlling. My friend's mom wouldn't let her shave when everyone else was, then she finally allowed her to do it and announced to me that my friend could shave on Fridays.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you help her without embarrassing her--and do it before it's an issue at school.

My mom didn't explain anything to me or try to help me or provide information. The first information I received was at the end of 5th grade-- a couple of b*tches behind me in line started saying "what is that smell? Who smells?" until the entire class got in on it. I learned on my own to shower and wear deodorant daily after that, but other kids continued to say it to me for another few years because it was entertaining.

*Don't* let it get to the point where other students say something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. I teach sixth grade. The girls are all over the place in physical development and caring. She’ll either notice and care enough to handle it, notice and not care, or not notice and not care.

This may be true but boys will be relentless with making fun of her behind her back. Do her a favor and deal with it. As a guy I never made fun of anyone mostly because I was just an average kid. Years later and I still remember how cruel others would be to other kids, including girls. Kids are the worst.

No they won't. FTMP, they are not paying enough attention to a girl's leg or lip to tease her. Not at this age. This is your own insecurities talking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you help her without embarrassing her--and do it before it's an issue at school.

My mom didn't explain anything to me or try to help me or provide information. The first information I received was at the end of 5th grade-- a couple of b*tches behind me in line started saying "what is that smell? Who smells?" until the entire class got in on it. I learned on my own to shower and wear deodorant daily after that, but other kids continued to say it to me for another few years because it was entertaining.

*Don't* let it get to the point where other students say something.

Body odor is different than body hair.

[Anonymous]

“Sweetheart, I feel uncomfortable with how your body looks. I’m going to show you how to change it so you look more normal and attractive. You’ll need to do this the rest of your life, but you’ll thank me for it some day.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you help her without embarrassing her--and do it before it's an issue at school.

My mom didn't explain anything to me or try to help me or provide information. The first information I received was at the end of 5th grade-- a couple of b*tches behind me in line started saying "what is that smell? Who smells?" until the entire class got in on it. I learned on my own to shower and wear deodorant daily after that, but other kids continued to say it to me for another few years because it was entertaining.

*Don't* let it get to the point where other students say something.

Body odor is different than body hair.

...but it's the same thing in the sense that parents need to help in advance.

[Anonymous]

I think some schools have a bullying culture and some don't. I have two kids and we moved a lot so between them we been at 3 elementary schools and 3 middle schools. Bullying like people are describing in this thread was not really happening about bodies. One of my kids was bullied because he answered questions in science class and always raised his hand in there. That is pretty much it.

On the flip side, I worked at a middle school that had terrible bullying, like a girl in a wheelchair was bullied for being in a wheelchair kind of bullying.

If your school doesn't have a culture of bullying, this will be a non issue, OP. If your daughter's friends and other kids are rude and have low self esteem, then yep, you might get some bullying but I doubt it will be about body hair.

GL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I draw the line at bikini line caring for kids. Seriously if there's a hair issue, just wear boy short bottoms.

You are insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Sweetheart, I feel uncomfortable with how your body looks. I’m going to show you how to change it so you look more normal and attractive. You’ll need to do this the rest of your life, but you’ll thank me for it some day.”

F that noise. Body hair is normal. Don't put your own body shame on your daughters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“Sweetheart, I feel uncomfortable with how your body looks. I’m going to show you how to change it so you look more normal and attractive. You’ll need to do this the rest of your life, but you’ll thank me for it some day.”

F that noise. Body hair is normal. Don't put your own body shame on your daughters.

You missed pp's sarcasm.