How to move on after long term relationship

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Move. Find a room to rent, even with a futon on the floor. You are young, and can get a second job if needed. Like Don Draper told Peggy Olsen, "move forward."

OP needs self care right now

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get some d*ck.

Solid advice here. The more you get, the better your prospects are in the future for LTR's.

Have fun! Get some! Enjoy the rides!

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That’s just filling a void (no pun intended) and OP is vulnerable. Rebounds aren’t actually productive IME.

Stay busy, get out and about, focus on getting different areas of your life together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is my first break up. I’m not sure if this is even the correct place to post. I’m 24 and exiting a long term relationship. Any comments, thoughts, advice would be appreciated. I feel so alone even though I have the support of my family. I just need help going through this.

Why did you break up?

[Anonymous]

One important thing to keep in mind OP: —>>

There are no shortcuts.

Meaning in order to properly heal and thus truly move on, you will have to deal w/your pain head-on.
You need to let your mind/body/soul grieve fully.

It will be painful, but worth it in the end.
Don’t try getting rid of the pain earlier by doing anything destructive such as drinking too much or rushing out to meet other people.

Doing so will only prolong your healing.

Hugs to you.
I wish you only the best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One important thing to keep in mind OP: —>>

There are no shortcuts.

Meaning in order to properly heal and thus truly move on, you will have to deal w/your pain head-on.
You need to let your mind/body/soul grieve fully.

It will be painful, but worth it in the end.
Don’t try getting rid of the pain earlier by doing anything destructive such as drinking too much or rushing out to meet other people.

Doing so will only prolong your healing.

Hugs to you.
I wish you only the best.

Thank you so much ? I appreciate the advice.

[Anonymous]

Ignore the question mark^^ it was supposed to Ben a smiley face.

[Anonymous]

A woman once told me, The best way to get over a man is to get under another man. I'm not sure if that helps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A woman once told me, The best way to get over a man is to get under another man. I'm not sure if that helps.

Did you ever actually listen to this? Did it work? In my experience it doesn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A woman once told me, The best way to get over a man is to get under another man. I'm not sure if that helps.

Did you ever actually listen to this? Did it work? In my experience it doesn’t.

I am a man and it didn't work for me and has not for friends. You wind up meeting a really nice person, but aren't ready for getting involved with someone and then comparing everything the new person does to the ex. Would have been better off working on myself.

[Anonymous]

Op here. Definitely not ready to hook up with someone. Like PP, I need to work on myself.

[Anonymous]

OP, it will be hard, especially after living together. And there is a lesson for you: never live with a man unless he already proposed or it's clearly close to that.

You've heard this so many times, I'm sure, but time does heal. Get busy with hobbies and classes, use your parents help with rent to save some money. Travel.
Just in case - block your ex on social media and your phone - you don't want to be available if he ever changes his mind or gets curious, you are letting go of your past too!

One day you'll realize that he wasn't all that special if he didn't see you as a girl to keep. Good luck, stay strong!

[Anonymous]

Relax as it’s just part of growing up and figuring out what is important to you. Take some time to catch your breath but do your best to avoid looking back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A woman once told me, The best way to get over a man is to get under another man. I'm not sure if that helps.

Did you ever actually listen to this? Did it work? In my experience it doesn’t.

Works for me. When I break up with a woman, I try to have a date with a new one already lined up. I want to move on quickly as possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A woman once told me, The best way to get over a man is to get under another man. I'm not sure if that helps.

Did you ever actually listen to this? Did it work? In my experience it doesn’t.

but, you did it didn't you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One important thing to keep in mind OP: —>>

There are no shortcuts.

Meaning in order to properly heal and thus truly move on, you will have to deal w/your pain head-on.
You need to let your mind/body/soul grieve fully.

It will be painful, but worth it in the end.
Don’t try getting rid of the pain earlier by doing anything destructive such as drinking too much or rushing out to meet other people.

Doing so will only prolong your healing.

Hugs to you.
I wish you only the best.

This. Acknowledging that it will hurt helps. At least it helped me. I always felt I had to get better and get over it fast, or I was a loser.

After The last one, I specifically took a break from dating and got therapy to figure out why I was choosing the wrong men. Not saying you need that. You are young, I was not.

Create new rituals. If coffee and a newspaper on Sunday mornings were your thing as a couple, start hiking on Sunday mornings instead. That type of thing.new rituals and new schedules help.