How to move on after long term relationship

[Anonymous]

This is my first break up. I’m not sure if this is even the correct place to post. I’m 24 and exiting a long term relationship. Any comments, thoughts, advice would be appreciated. I feel so alone even though I have the support of my family. I just need help going through this.

[Anonymous]

It's process. Whoever said "time heals all sounds was right".

-- go cold turkey, no social media connections
-- when the time comes, figure out what didn't work, why, and how you contributed
-- exercise
-- do things you always wanted to do
-- don't rush to get involved with someone else. Not fair to either of you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's process. Whoever said "time heals all sounds was right".

-- go cold turkey, no social media connections
-- when the time comes, figure out what didn't work, why, and how you contributed
-- exercise
-- do things you always wanted to do
-- don't rush to get involved with someone else. Not fair to either of you

Thank you! He has blocked me on social media. I already exercise about 3–5 times a week.

[Anonymous]

Did you live together?

Find friends or family to fill the void. Schedule happy hours. Text your mom good morning/how your day went. Plan a trip to see a long distance friend.

[Anonymous]

Get some d*ck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you live together?

Find friends or family to fill the void. Schedule happy hours. Text your mom good morning/how your day went. Plan a trip to see a long distance friend.

We did live together. Moving back in with my parents

[Anonymous]

Good advice so far! Just keep busy, and do all the stuff that maybe you weren't doing because your BF wasn't into it. Renew connections with friends that might have lapsed a bit. Keep up the exercise, and maybe try some new classes, etc. Spend a little time at some point figuring out what went wrong, so that when you date again, you're not making the same mistakes or picking the same type of person, if that didn't work for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Spend a little time at some point figuring out what went wrong, so that when you date again, you're not making the same mistakes or picking the same type of person, if that didn't work for you.

THIS!! <3

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good advice so far! Just keep busy, and do all the stuff that maybe you weren't doing because your BF wasn't into it. Renew connections with friends that might have lapsed a bit. Keep up the exercise, and maybe try some new classes, etc. Spend a little time at some point figuring out what went wrong, so that when you date again, you're not making the same mistakes or picking the same type of person, if that didn't work for you.

Thank you!,, I do a friend who our friendship leased a bit but I’m embarrassed to reach out because she never liked my ex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you live together?

Find friends or family to fill the void. Schedule happy hours. Text your mom good morning/how your day went. Plan a trip to see a long distance friend.

We did live together. Moving back in with my parents

I know a guy the same age who went through this. Went back home to regroup, then a few months later found a house to share with roommates, both men and women. He had his good and bad days, but having a new friends group helped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you live together?

Find friends or family to fill the void. Schedule happy hours. Text your mom good morning/how your day went. Plan a trip to see a long distance friend.

We did live together. Moving back in with my parents

I know a guy the same age who went through this. Went back home to regroup, then a few months later found a house to share with roommates, both men and women. He had his good and bad days, but having a new friends group helped.

Unfortunately I don’t think I’ll be moving out soon. I only make $2k a month. My ex made triple what I made and he paid more rent and bills than I did. I’m trying to find another job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get some d*ck.

Solid advice here. The more you get, the better your prospects are in the future for LTR's.

Have fun! Get some! Enjoy the rides!

[Anonymous]

Move. Find a room to rent, even with a futon on the floor. You are young, and can get a second job if needed. Like Don Draper told Peggy Olsen, "move forward."

[Anonymous]

Also, if your ex starts dating someone else right away, don't go through the, "I wasn't as important to them as I thought" pity party. It has nothing to do with what their feelings were towards you.

[Anonymous]

Lots of book on this subject.