what do your kids call adults (Ms First Name, Ms Last Name, etc.)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Last name till adult says otherwise in less they are close friends of ours and then first name. Ms. First name is more a Southern thing. No its not confusing to have different last names. We do.

ugh, this just reminded me how much it sucks when wives don't take their husbands names

And you reminded me how much people suck that you wouldn't say husbands won't take their wives names.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last name till adult says otherwise in less they are close friends of ours and then first name. Ms. First name is more a Southern thing. No its not confusing to have different last names. We do.

ugh, this just reminded me how much it sucks when wives don't take their husbands names

Right? They also want to be able to vote and have their own credit cards!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last name till adult says otherwise in less they are close friends of ours and then first name. Ms. First name is more a Southern thing. No its not confusing to have different last names. We do.

ugh, this just reminded me how much it sucks when wives don't take their husbands names

How much DOES it suck when wives don't take their husbands' names, PP? Tell us all about it.

Signed,

Didn't take his last name and he gave our children MY last name because it's cooler than his

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:women whose kids have different last names, when you are addressed as mrs. child's name, do you correct them or just ignore it and continue the conversation normally?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last name till adult says otherwise in less they are close friends of ours and then first name. Ms. First name is more a Southern thing. No its not confusing to have different last names. We do.

ugh, this just reminded me how much it sucks when wives don't take their husbands names

It's even worse when husbands don't take their wives' last names!

OP, in this area, I think that Mr./Ms. Firstname for family friends is quite normal, but there are definitely also the people who want the kids to use their first name, as well as the people who insist on Mr./Ms. Lastname on grounds that Mr./Ms. Firstname is only suitable for the mint julep set.

And then there's Larla's Mom/Larla's Dad, which I personally am ok with.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:women whose kids have different last names, when you are addressed as mrs. child's name, do you correct them or just ignore it and continue the conversation normally?

Depends on who's doing it, and under what circumstances.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:women whose kids have different last names, when you are addressed as mrs. child's name, do you correct them or just ignore it and continue the conversation normally?

Depends on who's doing it, and under what circumstances.

Yeah, what are some examples of one scenario vs another?

[Anonymous]

We started out with Ms. First Name because my husband is from the South. Then kids went to a Quaker school where the custom is first name for adults, so that it where we ended up. Oldest kid is about to go to Catholic high school, so she will have to get used to Mr. and Mrs. Last Name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH grew up saying Mr./Mrs./Ms. First Name, and that how he taught DD. I actually grew up calling adults by their first names.

That’s such an odd formulation.....where do he grow up, the Deep South?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:women whose kids have different last names, when you are addressed as mrs. child's name, do you correct them or just ignore it and continue the conversation normally?

Depends on who's doing it, and under what circumstances.

Yeah, what are some examples of one scenario vs another?

I'm not the PP, but usually when I'm addressed with my child's last name, it's been a doctor's office calling to confirm an appointment. In those circumstances, I don't correct them because I truly don't care, just want to confirm the appointment and get off the phone as quickly as possible. There is an admin person at school who consistently calls me the wrong name all together - she knows who I am and who my kid is but for whatever reasons cannot keep it in her head that my name is (not my real name) Marianne and not Mary. I do not correct her because it doesn't matter.

[Anonymous]

So what are the circumstances where you correct someone? those are less often, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Close family friends- Aunt/Uncle

When they were very young (daycare)- Mr./Ms. First name

K and up- Mr./Ms. Last name unless instructed otherwise

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So what are the circumstances where you correct someone? those are less often, right?

When there will be an on-going relationship. Or when someone introduces me as Larla WrongLastName. Or when people are doing it in the full knowledge that that's not my name.

[Anonymous]

I generally prefer first names. I grew up with the Mrs. last name stuff, but I feel like it puts such a divide between kids and adults. I get that it's a respect thing for some people, but unless the other parents ask that my kids not call them by their first name they will.

And if someone's kid calls me Ms. last name (Which I much prefer over Miss or Mrs., especially since I'm not married) I generally go with it, but if I see them a lot, I tell them it's OK to use my first name.

[Anonymous]

I teach my kids to call adults Mr. or Ms. (or Miss or Mrs.) Last Name. My kids are in their older teens now, and they've always been taught that, even at age 3.

I've found that a lot of kids call me Ms. First Name; this is on their own, I don't invite them. It bothers me, and it gives me the impression that their parents are doing a terrible job in raising them, but I don't correct them. It's not my place to teach them manners.