A shocking number of women are harassed, ignored, or mistreated during childbirth

[Anonymous]

I’m not a Black woman. But this message is to white women on how to be allies: just listen. Don’t chime in with your story of mistreatment.

Yes, it’s happening to women who aren’t WOC — but it’s far more prevalent, more systemic, more painful within communities of color, compounded by a frighteningly high mortality rate among Black moms regardless of income, education, age, weight, etc.

Listen and share.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not a Black woman. But this message is to white women on how to be allies: just listen. Don’t chime in with your story of mistreatment.

Yes, it’s happening to women who aren’t WOC — but it’s far more prevalent, more systemic, more painful within communities of color, compounded by a frighteningly high mortality rate among Black moms regardless of income, education, age, weight, etc.

Listen and share.

Sounds one sided. White people can complain too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not a Black woman. But this message is to white women on how to be allies: just listen. Don’t chime in with your story of mistreatment.

Yes, it’s happening to women who aren’t WOC — but it’s far more prevalent, more systemic, more painful within communities of color, compounded by a frighteningly high mortality rate among Black moms regardless of income, education, age, weight, etc.

Listen and share.

Sounds one sided. White people can complain too.

This article is specially about how women of color experience shocking mistreatment at a much higher rate than non-WOC. How about not making this about white women?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not a Black woman. But this message is to white women on how to be allies: just listen. Don’t chime in with your story of mistreatment.

Yes, it’s happening to women who aren’t WOC — but it’s far more prevalent, more systemic, more painful within communities of color, compounded by a frighteningly high mortality rate among Black moms regardless of income, education, age, weight, etc.

Listen and share.

Listen and share, except if you are a white woman? I posted my previous story of mistreatment to help illustrate the fact that no one, regardless if you are white, rich, have support staff, can speak the language of health care providers, are a native English speaker, etc. is immune from abusive treatment. Yes, women of color are more susceptible. But we all—regardless of race—have a responsibility to speak out and use our voices to let people know this treatment is unacceptable, and to support and validate any woman who has been mistreated during birth. Don’t ever silence anyone who has been mistreated during one of the most vulnerable times of their life and is trying to raise their voice to help others. We all need to lock arms and say, this should not happen to anyone, and demand better care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not a Black woman. But this message is to white women on how to be allies: just listen. Don’t chime in with your story of mistreatment.

Yes, it’s happening to women who aren’t WOC — but it’s far more prevalent, more systemic, more painful within communities of color, compounded by a frighteningly high mortality rate among Black moms regardless of income, education, age, weight, etc.

Listen and share.

Listen and share, except if you are a white woman? I posted my previous story of mistreatment to help illustrate the fact that no one, regardless if you are white, rich, have support staff, can speak the language of health care providers, are a native English speaker, etc. is immune from abusive treatment. Yes, women of color are more susceptible. But we all—regardless of race—have a responsibility to speak out and use our voices to let people know this treatment is unacceptable, and to support and validate any woman who has been mistreated during birth. Don’t ever silence anyone who has been mistreated during one of the most vulnerable times of their life and is trying to raise their voice to help others. We all need to lock arms and say, this should not happen to anyone, and demand better care.

"It happened to me too" is a well-known way to derail conversations about racism.

You want to be an ally? Then be an ally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not a Black woman. But this message is to white women on how to be allies: just listen. Don’t chime in with your story of mistreatment.

Yes, it’s happening to women who aren’t WOC — but it’s far more prevalent, more systemic, more painful within communities of color, compounded by a frighteningly high mortality rate among Black moms regardless of income, education, age, weight, etc.

Listen and share.

Sounds one sided. White people can complain too.

This article is specially about how women of color experience shocking mistreatment at a much higher rate than non-WOC. How about not making this about white women?

NP. I'm a white woman and to an extent, some of those mistreatments happened to me (ignoring my requests, ignoring me for hours, etc.). But I also had complications and had upwards of 20 medical people in the room with me at one point.

I think this article is missing the point, actually. Medical mistreatment is not the same thing as poor outcomes, and I think Vox is doing a disservice to equate them. Having another person with you, an advocate, is always a good idea. But having a poor outcome is something else - the NYT article showing the difference in maternal outcomes was not about differences in treatment. That's part of the picture but not the largest part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not a Black woman. But this message is to white women on how to be allies: just listen. Don’t chime in with your story of mistreatment.

Yes, it’s happening to women who aren’t WOC — but it’s far more prevalent, more systemic, more painful within communities of color, compounded by a frighteningly high mortality rate among Black moms regardless of income, education, age, weight, etc.

Listen and share.

Listen and share, except if you are a white woman? I posted my previous story of mistreatment to help illustrate the fact that no one, regardless if you are white, rich, have support staff, can speak the language of health care providers, are a native English speaker, etc. is immune from abusive treatment. Yes, women of color are more susceptible. But we all—regardless of race—have a responsibility to speak out and use our voices to let people know this treatment is unacceptable, and to support and validate any woman who has been mistreated during birth. Don’t ever silence anyone who has been mistreated during one of the most vulnerable times of their life and is trying to raise their voice to help others. We all need to lock arms and say, this should not happen to anyone, and demand better care.

"It happened to me too" is a well-known way to derail conversations about racism.

You want to be an ally? Then be an ally.

Is this article about medical mistreatment, recognizing and addressing it, or is it about racism?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not a Black woman. But this message is to white women on how to be allies: just listen. Don’t chime in with your story of mistreatment.

Yes, it’s happening to women who aren’t WOC — but it’s far more prevalent, more systemic, more painful within communities of color, compounded by a frighteningly high mortality rate among Black moms regardless of income, education, age, weight, etc.

Listen and share.

Listen and share, except if you are a white woman? I posted my previous story of mistreatment to help illustrate the fact that no one, regardless if you are white, rich, have support staff, can speak the language of health care providers, are a native English speaker, etc. is immune from abusive treatment. Yes, women of color are more susceptible. But we all—regardless of race—have a responsibility to speak out and use our voices to let people know this treatment is unacceptable, and to support and validate any woman who has been mistreated during birth. Don’t ever silence anyone who has been mistreated during one of the most vulnerable times of their life and is trying to raise their voice to help others. We all need to lock arms and say, this should not happen to anyone, and demand better care.

"It happened to me too" is a well-known way to derail conversations about racism.

You want to be an ally? Then be an ally.

Seriously just go away. I’m not even white and I am sick of this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not a Black woman. But this message is to white women on how to be allies: just listen. Don’t chime in with your story of mistreatment.

Yes, it’s happening to women who aren’t WOC — but it’s far more prevalent, more systemic, more painful within communities of color, compounded by a frighteningly high mortality rate among Black moms regardless of income, education, age, weight, etc.

Listen and share.

Sounds one sided. White people can complain too.

Agree. Why try to silence women being mistreated? That’s horrible.

[Anonymous]

This was the headline: A shocking number of women are harassed, ignored, or mistreated during childbirth

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This was the headline: A shocking number of women are harassed, ignored, or mistreated during childbirth

Read the linked article.

https://www.vox.com/2019/6/10/18628073/maternal-mistreatment-women-of-color

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not a Black woman. But this message is to white women on how to be allies: just listen. Don’t chime in with your story of mistreatment.

Yes, it’s happening to women who aren’t WOC — but it’s far more prevalent, more systemic, more painful within communities of color, compounded by a frighteningly high mortality rate among Black moms regardless of income, education, age, weight, etc.

Listen and share.

Listen and share, except if you are a white woman? I posted my previous story of mistreatment to help illustrate the fact that no one, regardless if you are white, rich, have support staff, can speak the language of health care providers, are a native English speaker, etc. is immune from abusive treatment. Yes, women of color are more susceptible. But we all—regardless of race—have a responsibility to speak out and use our voices to let people know this treatment is unacceptable, and to support and validate any woman who has been mistreated during birth. Don’t ever silence anyone who has been mistreated during one of the most vulnerable times of their life and is trying to raise their voice to help others. We all need to lock arms and say, this should not happen to anyone, and demand better care.

"It happened to me too" is a well-known way to derail conversations about racism.

You want to be an ally? Then be an ally.

Is this article about medical mistreatment, recognizing and addressing it, or is it about racism?

Here's the article for you to read: https://www.vox.com/2019/6/10/18628073/maternal-mistreatment-women-of-color

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not a Black woman. But this message is to white women on how to be allies: just listen. Don’t chime in with your story of mistreatment.

Yes, it’s happening to women who aren’t WOC — but it’s far more prevalent, more systemic, more painful within communities of color, compounded by a frighteningly high mortality rate among Black moms regardless of income, education, age, weight, etc.

Listen and share.

Listen and share, except if you are a white woman? I posted my previous story of mistreatment to help illustrate the fact that no one, regardless if you are white, rich, have support staff, can speak the language of health care providers, are a native English speaker, etc. is immune from abusive treatment. Yes, women of color are more susceptible. But we all—regardless of race—have a responsibility to speak out and use our voices to let people know this treatment is unacceptable, and to support and validate any woman who has been mistreated during birth. Don’t ever silence anyone who has been mistreated during one of the most vulnerable times of their life and is trying to raise their voice to help others. We all need to lock arms and say, this should not happen to anyone, and demand better care.

"It happened to me too" is a well-known way to derail conversations about racism.

You want to be an ally? Then be an ally.

Is this article about medical mistreatment, recognizing and addressing it, or is it about racism?

Here's the article for you to read: https://www.vox.com/2019/6/10/18628073/maternal-mistreatment-women-of-color

I read it. You didn't answer the question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This was the headline: A shocking number of women are harassed, ignored, or mistreated during childbirth

+1

No where in the hideline does it say it's only about Black women. One of the black midwives at my practice was dismissal me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not a Black woman. But this message is to white women on how to be allies: just listen. Don’t chime in with your story of mistreatment.

Yes, it’s happening to women who aren’t WOC — but it’s far more prevalent, more systemic, more painful within communities of color, compounded by a frighteningly high mortality rate among Black moms regardless of income, education, age, weight, etc.

Listen and share.

Sorry, no. These issues are systemic, so everyone faces them -- although like all things, they fall disproportionately on poor women and minorities. It doesn't help anyone to restrain speaking openly.