My ex is now engaged to the woman he was cheating on me with

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, rest assured, they will get what they deserve. I've seen it time and time again.

I’ve also seen it work out many times. *shrug* move on. Nothing you can do.

[Anonymous]

My best friends husband cheated on her. He left her for the OW (after begging forgiveness and her refusing).

Then he was diagnosed with a very horrible form of cancer. (He told my H and some other coworkers) He did not tell the OW... then proposed. He told her 9 months into the engagement. (Again, he bragged to his coworkers.)

He was bed ridden 1 year after the marriage and has been a burden ever since.

I see her all the time, she looks haggard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My best friends husband cheated on her. He left her for the OW (after begging forgiveness and her refusing).

Then he was diagnosed with a very horrible form of cancer. (He told my H and some other coworkers) He did not tell the OW... then proposed. He told her 9 months into the engagement. (Again, he bragged to his coworkers.)

He was bed ridden 1 year after the marriage and has been a burden ever since.

I see her all the time, she looks haggard.

This is not a good story. The punishment for cheating isn't cancer, or caring for a cancer patient.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry OP. That sucks. It’s ok to be sad.

[Anonymous]

As they say "if they'll do it with you, they'll do it to you." OW will have that hanging over her head for as long as their relationship lasts. So sorry, OP. I know it isn't easy. Being sad is a normal part of the grieving process. It's understandable to grieve the end of your marriage even if he is an ass. There are lots of online support groups. It might help to join one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry. You deserve better. He will cheat on her too.

+1.

[Anonymous]

If your marriage was so great, then why did he stray? Perhaps he and OW are a better match together like Charles and Camilla.

[Anonymous]

I just don't get how people do this. Like what do they say when someone asks how they first met.

How will the best man speech at the wedding go? "I knew Larla was a real classy broad when I saw what a wonderful homewrecker she could be".

What will be going through their minds as they vow to be faithful and honor eachother? We already know he doesn't put any stock into his vows.

I wonder if they know how many people are probably judging them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your marriage was so great, then why did he stray? Perhaps he and OW are a better match together like Charles and Camilla.

Yep. Hard for people to accept but sometimes this is absolutely true.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry OP.

Once a cheater, always a cheater. You are well rid of him and she will unfortunately learn the hard way.

And you will be happy again, and this will just be an unpleasant memory and not a raw wound. Hang in there. Be kind to yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your marriage was so great, then why did he stray? Perhaps he and OW are a better match together like Charles and Camilla.

Yep. Hard for people to accept but sometimes this is absolutely true.

Sometimes, sure. But usually not. Second marriages don't have a great rate of success in general.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your marriage was so great, then why did he stray? Perhaps he and OW are a better match together like Charles and Camilla.

Yep. Hard for people to accept but sometimes this is absolutely true.

Yes usually selfish jerks are better off with each other than with an actual good person.

[Anonymous]

Same thing happened to me. They have a kid now. As far as I know they’re still together, but it’s only been 4 years since they got married, so we’ll see.

I’m sorry — I know it’s hard to see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Title says it all. I just feel sad.

You’re not sad about their marriage. You’re sad about what you thought you had with him. Be happy he’s out of your life. If you don’t share children, be doubly happy that you never have to deal with him again. Throw a party with those who really matter and celebrate your ‘loss’ and fake it until you make it. If all of this is too soon for you, read chumplady.com.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your marriage was so great, then why did he stray? Perhaps he and OW are a better match together like Charles and Camilla.

It's funny that you think he is true to Camilla.