Conflicted about attending child's recital, help me decide DCUM

[Anonymous]

5 min away -- I think it would be awesome if you went.

[Anonymous]

Take the one year old already bathed and in his pajamas.

If this school is like my kids' school, you may have to park a few blocks away if you don't get there early.

If you don't go, ask if they have a video or ask him to perform his song for you at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:5 min away -- I think it would be awesome if you went.

+1 If you're feeling well enough, stop by and leave if your kids get fussy. It's only 5 minutes away. NBD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's really not your fault that you don't want to go, or that you don't go. Usually adults do the inviting of other adults. Children learn this. All children learn this, though, may get their feelings hurt learning this - that it's better not to put people, especially adults on the spot. Adults have a hard time saying no to kids. Op, just because you feel sorry for this child, doesn't change the life lesson. Go if you want. Don't go if you don't want to.

You really think that it will be good for OP to not go so that this kid can learn the important life lesson of not inviting adults to things?

Holy hell lady, what is wrong with you? Do you also kick puppies?

This kid sounds like a nice little boy who has gotten attached to a neighborhood mom because he doesn’t have a mother of his own. I’d say he’s had plenty of life lessons already.

[Anonymous]

Tough call, OP. Can you go early before it starts and say hi to him so he knows you showed up and then leave early if you need to? I’d probably try to go but have the kids in pajamas, bottles of milk and snacks etc in the double stroller and make it as easy on them and me as possible but still able to bail if necessary. Kids might fall asleep. Is it 5 min away walking or driving? Either way, I’d probably walk if it’s safe to do so. Try and proceed they way you’d want someone to do so for your own child if you died.

[Anonymous]

Am I the only one that thinks it's weird that a grown man is going to a "sports practice" that clearly isn't involving coaching his kid? How important could that possibly be?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:5 min away -- I think it would be awesome if you went.

+1 If you're feeling well enough, stop by and leave if your kids get fussy. It's only 5 minutes away. NBD.

This. And don't go for the whole thing. Just take kids in their pjs for the last 20 mins.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one that thinks it's weird that a grown man is going to a "sports practice" that clearly isn't involving coaching his kid? How important could that possibly be?

He plays on a team and they have practice tonight - I'm failing to see what is strange about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's really not your fault that you don't want to go, or that you don't go. Usually adults do the inviting of other adults. Children learn this. All children learn this, though, may get their feelings hurt learning this - that it's better not to put people, especially adults on the spot. Adults have a hard time saying no to kids. Op, just because you feel sorry for this child, doesn't change the life lesson. Go if you want. Don't go if you don't want to.

You really think that it will be good for OP to not go so that this kid can learn the important life lesson of not inviting adults to things?

Holy hell lady, what is wrong with you? Do you also kick puppies?

This kid sounds like a nice little boy who has gotten attached to a neighborhood mom because he doesn’t have a mother of his own. I’d say he’s had plenty of life lessons already.

This is OP. I haven't decided yet as I haven't been feeling that good (I have hyperemesis) but if I choose not to go it will NOT be to send this message and I will, as others have suggested ask him all about it and continue to remain engaged in his life. Nothing about this is about sending a life lesson! It is just bad timing.

[Anonymous]

I'd go.

[Anonymous]

You don't have to go. But I would for sure. It would make this boy really happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one that thinks it's weird that a grown man is going to a "sports practice" that clearly isn't involving coaching his kid? How important could that possibly be?

He plays on a team and they have practice tonight - I'm failing to see what is strange about this.

+1. Every thursday. Not unexpected or something that takes him away an unreasonable amount of time.

-OP

[Anonymous]

What would you feel better about tomorrow morning - going or staying home?

[Anonymous]

Thumps up to you OP, whether you make it or not. And if you don't, then definitely ask about it.

(Though I admit to hoping that you can. I lost my dad to cancer when I was 5, and it was the extended quasi-family of other kids and their parents who remained very close that helped me with a sense of security and comfort. I don't remember a lot of details of what they did, but do remember feeling that they were there.)

[Anonymous]

I’d try to go.