How old were you when you stopped worrying because you realized that it does not make any sense.
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Regardless if you worry or not, the pregnancy will go the way it will go, regardless of your worries, a kid will turn the way he she will, regardless of your worries you will get older, you will get uglier, you will get sick and you will die...
no amount of worrying will stop any of this. Things go well and not so well, it is a cycle, no amount of worries ever made a difference. I am not saying don't act, don't try to do the best to prevent preventable but this is not the same as worrying. It is sort of like a surgeon during the operation, what difference it is if he worries or not, if any, worrying can mess up his ability to do things right, it also stresses him so it impact his own life, maybe work in general and maybe family. A good doctor focuses on the task at hand with cool head, with max focus and with all the effort. That's what I am talking about. There is so much that can go wrong that it is even impossible to factor in all possible cases. Even if the operation is perfect, something in the body can turn on, off and it ends up badly so why worry about partial scenario, worse case scenario instead of accepting thigs as they come. Eventually we have to, yes? We have to accept what happens and take it from there. |
Anonymous
| Meditation got me to a place where I was able to turn off the worry. It's about training your brain. It was hard at first but it's hardly strenuous or painful, it's drug free and has completely changed my life. |
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Law school. As someone with pretty bad anxiety, this was really difficult to do. But I knew if I let the stress consume me I’d fail. I was one of the most relaxed people walking into the bar exam. My friends couldn’t understand my blasé attitude. But I knew I had studied my absolute hardest and whatever will be, will be. I passed and knew I passed as I left the exam hall.
Course, now I’m a mom working full time and take lexapro. I don’t have the same amount of time to focus on my mental health, so the medication help cover the worst of it. |
Anonymous
| I think approaching 40, I stopped worrying and have been more relaxed person since. |
Anonymous
This |
Anonymous
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It’s a constant practice. I practice mindfulness meditation several times a day. And I remember that worry is really just imagination gone wrong. Control is an illusion. We do the best we can to make good decisions and release the rest. I worry about my kids so much more as young adults than I ever did when they were little. And I’m fully aware that it’s a control issue. When I feel worry creeping in, I make a conscious decision to focus my breath. I love Thich Nhat Hanh! - “Breathing in I know that I am breathing in. Breathing out I know that I am breathing out. Dwelling happily in the present moment, I know this is the only moment “
It’s a constant practice. My family is my everything. |
Anonymous
| I am 48 and still worry, but I've mellowed some. I used to freak out for hours about minor things. Now I meditate and am realizing that you are not your thoughts, you are the observer of your thoughts. I think something, and put it in a category like "thoughts about the past" or "thoughts about the future". Worries don't have a hold over you and can't scare you if it's just another thought that will come and go like the others. |
Anonymous
| I was a huge worrier as a kid. Honestly, what got me to stop was the death of my mother when i was a teenager. I realized so many things are out of our control and that what people call "catastrophes" or "worst-case scenarios" really aren't. It made me a bit nihilistic actually. But I don't worry so much. |
Anonymous
| 49. My Cancer reset my perspective |
Anonymous
| I think that having things go wrong and losing a lot combined with trying to detox my life physically and emotionally has really helped me. After awhile it just felt like we could handle the things that life was throwing at us. Also challenging my thinking g helps - like if I worry about money it’s good to look at what if anything g is grounded in reality. |
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Thank you for this. |
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In my early 40s. I became very Zen and realized that things would happen to & around me and that there was very little I could control. Whether I worried about something in advance or not, those things still happened and life went on.
I don't worry much anymore, and when I do it's easier to recognize and tell myself - that's worrying, and it's not helping you cope. I make the best choice in the moment and with any regrets, I remind myself that I had to make a decision and went with my best judgement. No guilt either. |
Anonymous
| In my 60's and I'm just honing my extra great skill in worrying. It gets better every year, in fact I should teach a class on how to do it right. As a bonus, I could provide respondents with a handy guide of extra shit to worry about- stuff no one ever thought of on their own. I am very talented and creative. |
Anonymous
This. I still worry sometimes but I realise it will only makes things worse. A lot of the time I have to remind myself to let go. Do what I can however there are some things you have no control over so just deal with it when and if it happens. Thoughts about the past, are unproductive. The past is gone and reliving bad memories is only upsetting yourself, it's best to let the worry go. Thoughts about the future, you don't really know what is going to happen which is why mindfulness is quite important to me. Bringing myself back to the now. I can take care of my health, organise my finances but at some point I have to not think about how things will go as who knows what is going to happen. |
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In my 50s and still working on it.
I have learned not to plan too much or too far ahead of.time, because my plans almost never world out the way I want That's helped with some of the worry. |