Why are the overwhelming number of non-binary people biologically female?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a substitute teachers who works in various high schools and something I've noticed but don't understand is why the overwhelming (like 99%) of kids who call themselves non-binary are girls. When you read articles about gender fluidity or non-binarism, you will see an equal number of examples of biological males to females. But in the real world this just isn't the case. I discussed this with a friend who is a lesbian who has a theory about this, but I'm curious as to what others think the reason is.

Girls tend to me more fad-oriented and gullible than boys.

Wow. Way to completely insult girls in a very deep way AND make the male experience reductive. Well-done. My hat is off to this cutting and insightful comment.

[Anonymous]

Patriarchy. Women get fed up and drop out of the rat race of dealing with men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a substitute teachers who works in various high schools and something I've noticed but don't understand is why the overwhelming (like 99%) of kids who call themselves non-binary are girls. When you read articles about gender fluidity or non-binarism, you will see an equal number of examples of biological males to females. But in the real world this just isn't the case. I discussed this with a friend who is a lesbian who has a theory about this, but I'm curious as to what others think the reason is.

Girls tend to me more fad-oriented and gullible than boys.

Wow. Way to completely insult girls in a very deep way AND make the male experience reductive. Well-done. My hat is off to this cutting and insightful comment.

Women's fashion changes every season. A man can put on a suit, or any clothes actually, that he bought 5 years ago and it will not look out of fashion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a fad.

Dear god I hope so. Wake me when it’s over.
Signed,
A 51 year old woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because in some ways it still sucks to be female in this society -- you get judged a lot more on your appearance, your behavior is more strictly regulated by parents, a spouse, etc; you are less well respected often by your boss, etc. You get paid less, you have to do all the housework in many cultures.

And in other ways it doesn't -- women are more educated than men; make up at least 60% of university students; have a lower rate of on-the-job fatalities by far; and work less dangerous jobs for less overtime. They have the luxury of time to experiment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a substitute teachers who works in various high schools and something I've noticed but don't understand is why the overwhelming (like 99%) of kids who call themselves non-binary are girls. When you read articles about gender fluidity or non-binarism, you will see an equal number of examples of biological males to females. But in the real world this just isn't the case. I discussed this with a friend who is a lesbian who has a theory about this, but I'm curious as to what others think the reason is.

Girls tend to me more fad-oriented and gullible than boys.

Wow. Way to completely insult girls in a very deep way AND make the male experience reductive. Well-done. My hat is off to this cutting and insightful comment.

Women's fashion changes every season. A man can put on a suit, or any clothes actually, that he bought 5 years ago and it will not look out of fashion.

Some of us women aren’t slaves to trends. The majority of my clothing stands the test of time. I never buy into stupid things like silk cargo pants or bubble hens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Patriarchy. Women get fed up and drop out of the rat race of dealing with men.

But why would so many of them want to look masculine?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even though we have made long strides in how LGBTQ people are viewed, girls still have more leeway for experimentation than boys.

A young woman who experimented in high school and college but ultimately decides to settle down with a partner of the opposite sex will have very little difficulty doing so.

A young man who does the same and is forthcoming with this information will have a harder time finding a woman who will accept his past experimentation and want to settle down with him.

Men think it's hot and secretly keep the hope that their wife will want a three-some in the back of their mind.

Women think it's odd and gross and secretly think that past experimentation between two guys means the guy is a little bit gay even if he says he's not now that he's older.

My DD loved superheros when she was younger but this was before there was a push to have girl clothes with superheros on them, so she wore boy's shirts most days. No one said anything. A little boy in 3rd grade came to school for their halloween party as a nurse (like his mom - wearing scrubs and fake badge that said Nurse Bobby) and he was teased nonstop. He's 19 now and it's still something he's known for. Boys can't win!

This. Society let’s girls push boundaries unlike boys. And girls are generally more fad driven.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because in some ways it still sucks to be female in this society -- you get judged a lot more on your appearance, your behavior is more strictly regulated by parents, a spouse, etc; you are less well respected often by your boss, etc. You get paid less, you have to do all the housework in many cultures.

I think that a lot of thinking you're male may be about wanting to experience male privilege on some level. What's sad is the idea that boys think you have to "be a girl" to experiment with hair, makeup, clothes, and women may think you have to 'be a boy' in order to experience being powerful, successful and respected. What needs to change isn't your gender but these ridiculous gender norms.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I honestly think because the pressure is so great to be a feminine-looking girl that if you don't feel you can measure up to that, you have to strongly and deliberately opt-out. So it's easier to just signal "non-conform" than to want to conform but not feel you are able to measure up.

This too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a substitute teachers who works in various high schools and something I've noticed but don't understand is why the overwhelming (like 99%) of kids who call themselves non-binary are girls. When you read articles about gender fluidity or non-binarism, you will see an equal number of examples of biological males to females. But in the real world this just isn't the case. I discussed this with a friend who is a lesbian who has a theory about this, but I'm curious as to what others think the reason is.

Girls tend to me more fad-oriented and gullible than boys.

This, in a few years, maybe more, there will be something new.

[Anonymous]

Because biologically female sexuality is often more malleable and less pronounced until a woman enters her 20ies. So, in a way, it is true - many young women are, indeed, bi /pansexual, or really kind of none-sexual. Low libido in women is the topic of a good many topics here on DCUM. Many girls base affection not on attraction of bodies, but that of souls. That, as we can all appreciate, can be directed towards a person of any sex.

[Anonymous]

I've noticed this too with the young kids (elementary and mid school) who are gender non-conforming. They are almost all girls (who now identify as boys) and, notably, they almost all have older brothers. Hmmm....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Patriarchy. Women get fed up and drop out of the rat race of dealing with men.

But why would so many of them want to look masculine?

Looking masculine in our society = short hair (often), no makeup, pants and non-form fitting clothes, comfortable shoes.

See what I mean? It’s a lot easier to look butch than it is to dress to impress men in a societally proscribed way. And when you get tired of dealing with men, you may no longer fell like shaving your legs and wearing heels.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because in some ways it still sucks to be female in this society -- you get judged a lot more on your appearance, your behavior is more strictly regulated by parents, a spouse, etc; you are less well respected often by your boss, etc. You get paid less, you have to do all the housework in many cultures.

And in other ways it doesn't -- women are more educated than men; make up at least 60% of university students; have a lower rate of on-the-job fatalities by far; and work less dangerous jobs for less overtime. They have the luxury of time to experiment.

Do you have a cite for this? I think the last time I looked, the two professions with highest rates of injuries were elder-care and logging. There are a lot more women in elder-care than there are men in logging nowadays. I don’t think I’ve ever seen stats on OT work by gender and would be dubious of those stats even if collected, as many “pink collar” jobs are misclassified as overtime-exempt despite being low wage.