Kids trading stuff at school - Need Advice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There was almost, if not exact, same post a couple of months ago.

+1
Wondering if it is the same dramatic and over reacting poster of "horrible bday party behavior" thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A parent sent me an e-mail because her son, Larlo, said my DS took his toy out of his backpack. My DS told me that Larlo said he could take the toy and trade him for something. The parent went on that this is Larlo's very favorite toy and would I please talk to my DS about returning it? Of course we will return it. But I am irritated. If this toy was so special, why is Larlo allowed to take it to school?

I just need advice on how to respond to this parent. I don't want to be rude/snarky but at the same time I don't want my DS to take all the blame for this when clearly the toy should never have been brought to school. How would you respond? TIA!

First, why are you irritated? Why is it your business that Larlo took his toy to school? Perhaps his mom told him no and the kid put it in his backpack anyway? I have a feeling your son wanted the toy and coerced the kid to "give" it to him. I would focus on your kid and tell him not to do that in the future.

To answer your question: Respond by saying, "of course! my son will bring the toy back on Tuesday"

[Anonymous]

The few times my kid traded toys the other parent reached out to ask if it was okay. People without income really cant buy toys. I question everything my kid brings home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There was almost, if not exact, same post a couple of months ago.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/772737.page

Received an email from the parent of one of DS’ friends. The two kids each brought a toy to school and proceeded to trade. The mother of DS’ friend is irritated that the kids traded and wants her son’s toy back. In her email she accused my son of taking her son’s toy without actually trading something for it (untrue according to my son). She also emphasized how special her son’s toy is and that trading should not happen again in the future.

I’m irked at this email. We do not encourage toy trading (or bringing toys to school for that matter but apparently DS has been sneaking things in his pockets and/or backpack). DS knows that if he loses a toy or gives it away that it is likely gone and will not be replaced. If he chooses to give it away that is his decision. The teacher has also emphasized that things you care about (aside from your child ) should not be sent to school because they could be lost or damaged.

I need some unbiased feedback here. I have to see this mom occasionally and would like to remain friendly with her but her email was accusatory and made it sound like she thinks my kid stole her kid’s toy and that’s i need to somehow police what’s happening at school. I’m irritated.

Must be a really board and inexperienced troll!