ONS- was it what you expected?

[Anonymous]

I had one in college. I did try to and think I did please her. Never saw her again as I was on a trip to a friends house. I still think about her. Nice figure and soft skin. I hope she is doing well.

[Anonymous]

It depended on my mood and whether the guy was really into it. Generally, I had two reasons. Either I was single, busy, and felt needy, or I was in a bad relationship and wanted to use the experience to put emotional distance between myself and my partner.

I can only remember a couple of experiences when I didn't get what I was looking for. One guy turned out to actually be afraid of my lust. The other guy didn't last long enough to call it sex.

My husband of many years started out as an ONS during a needy period.

[Anonymous]

From one perspective, felt good that I could actually pick up a girl but not one of my greatest memories. Actually like to know someone better before seeing them naked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was younger and promiscuous, I had them. It's not just the sex - it's the whole experience. In one instance, I was at a reception for my department at my university and I met a man who was also in the department but in a different subsection from me (think American politics vs. international relations). The conversation was thrilling and he was very attractive. We got tipsy on free reception booze and one thing led to another. In the morning, we agreed that it had been fun but that life circumstances were not such that pursuing a relationship would be good for either of us (end of semester, leaving campus, me going abroad the following semester). We parted civilly and I never saw him again. The sex was probably average, but the rest of the situation was exciting and fun.

This. I've had plenty and it's the whole experience which also impacts the sex too. The unknown, etc.

Kind of like that old movie Before Sunrise. It's the premise itself that is exciting and wild. I had one of those when I was traveling abroad once. Met a woman and we had a great night out, then back at my hotel and it was rushed but wild sex as I had to be out the door at 7am to head to the airport.

[Anonymous]

Had my fair share. Enjoyed each of them. DH never had any, sadly.

[Anonymous]

Had one after my divorce. Wanted to get that monkey off my back. I agree with posters above, the scene/experience was what was exciting. The sex...not so memorable.

[Anonymous]

I sort of had one...was in a foreign country for two weeks when I was 16. Had a huge crush on a guy I met there (he was 19) and toward the end of the trip we got drunk and hooked up. The next night we did to and then I flew back to America. / never saw him or communicated with him again. So it was a 2 night stand. I was a virgin (had actually never kissed) and didn’t go all the way, but we did end up naked and pretty heavy given that I had no experience. It was all a little overwhelming at the time but has become a fun memory with time. I ended up meeting my husband young so I’m glad to have had some experience with another person. Also, my fling is still pretty much the hottest person I’ve met in person so it’s an ego boost to have hooked up with him. He’s not high profile, but for awhile he was easy to find on the Internet because he went on to become a professional athlete.

[Anonymous]

A few in college. I was in a frat so I had lots of opportunities and enjoyed the game. Always seemed to be me doing all the work. One was memorable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you think about it, from a biological viewpoint, ONS is a contruct that is male-centric.

Right. So much less of an opportunity for us to trap him and have a lot of babies, right.

[Anonymous]

DW in her 40s here. Had some ONS during grad school, nothing too exciting and some pretty disappointing. After being married for 10 years, found myself with a co-worker ONS. It was amazing , the best sex of my life, and now he is my AP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was younger and promiscuous, I had them. It's not just the sex - it's the whole experience. In one instance, I was at a reception for my department at my university and I met a man who was also in the department but in a different subsection from me (think American politics vs. international relations). The conversation was thrilling and he was very attractive. We got tipsy on free reception booze and one thing led to another. In the morning, we agreed that it had been fun but that life circumstances were not such that pursuing a relationship would be good for either of us (end of semester, leaving campus, me going abroad the following semester). We parted civilly and I never saw him again. The sex was probably average, but the rest of the situation was exciting and fun.

ITA. And because you barely know the person, the entire experience is whatever you want to project onto it. I’m happily married but sure wouldn’t mind a ONS now and then, for me or for DH. Unfortunately DH will never agree to that

[Anonymous]

I thought we were in love. It was like magic. I couldn't wait to unwrap her, like a special birthday present.

When it finally happened, "she" had a penis.

It wasn't at all like I expected, and boy did my ass hurt for days afterward.

[Anonymous]

I've had many and don't regret any of them. The women all brought their A game as far as sex and we did our best to live up to all the texting and talk that preceded getting together. They all make for great memories.

[Anonymous]

I lost my virginity on a ONS. I was an old virgin at 23 and decided to just let it happen. Everything about it was pretty disappointing and I’m sure the guy I was with would say the same thing.

[Anonymous]

I had a few. Once the guy didn’t complete. I have no idea why. Anyone?