Dead bedroom: DH never initiates, but is always receptive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP i am in a similar boat - met my DH about 6 years ago and now we are married and the previous exotic / long sex has turned into “I’m too tired” from him and me having to initiate and sometimes getting rejected. My heart broke on Valentine’s Day when after a nice date that I had to arrange my DH rejected me for sex.... he stayed up watching movies on his smartphone instead.

It is hard to be a woman with a higher sex drive - I am craving intimacy and would love to have sex once a week or even every day but it is once a month for me now —- I am pretty sure my DH who is 10 years older than me enjoys masturbating instead of having sexual with me and that sucks!!

Hang in there. I have no advice but can commiserate.

I'm sorry That is really terrible.

[Anonymous]

Wait - you don’t even have the kid yet and you are complaining about intimacy and him falling asleep at 7? It’s not going to get better...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP i am in a similar boat - met my DH about 6 years ago and now we are married and the previous exotic / long sex has turned into “I’m too tired” from him and me having to initiate and sometimes getting rejected. My heart broke on Valentine’s Day when after a nice date that I had to arrange my DH rejected me for sex.... he stayed up watching movies on his smartphone instead.

It is hard to be a woman with a higher sex drive - I am craving intimacy and would love to have sex once a week or even every day but it is once a month for me now —- I am pretty sure my DH who is 10 years older than me enjoys masturbating instead of having sexual with me and that sucks!!

Hang in there. I have no advice but can commiserate.

You need a younger man!

Maybe I do.... now I have to get angry for sex to get it after being rejected too much but that’s no fun either .... It’s so hard to tell if you are sexually matched or not in the courtship stages.....

In hindsight a red flag should have been my DH telling me how he and an ex-girlfriend “never had sex” near the end of their relationship...

[Anonymous]

Why are you having a baby with him...or how?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you having a baby with him...or how?

That's a really stupid question. They have sex multiple times per week and she didn't say their marriage was bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP i am in a similar boat - met my DH about 6 years ago and now we are married and the previous exotic / long sex has turned into “I’m too tired” from him and me having to initiate and sometimes getting rejected. My heart broke on Valentine’s Day when after a nice date that I had to arrange my DH rejected me for sex.... he stayed up watching movies on his smartphone instead.

It is hard to be a woman with a higher sex drive - I am craving intimacy and would love to have sex once a week or even every day but it is once a month for me now —- I am pretty sure my DH who is 10 years older than me enjoys masturbating instead of having sexual with me and that sucks!!

Hang in there. I have no advice but can commiserate.

I think a lot of women make men jump through a lot of hoops(long foreplay, only do it a certain way, only touch me this way, this is the only way I like, take a shower/brush your teeth, everything has to be prefect, etc) to have sex. It works for a little while but in the long run people lose interest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like low testosterone

Sounds like it’s getting up at 4 am every day. I know next you will say he is gay?

[Anonymous]

PP complaining about long foreplay, I feel bad for you and your wife. That’s the good stuff for both of you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he doesn't like pregnancy sex but won't tell you.

+1

[Anonymous]

OP, prior to the pregnancy (obviously) did you gain a lot of weight?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP i am in a similar boat - met my DH about 6 years ago and now we are married and the previous exotic / long sex has turned into “I’m too tired” from him and me having to initiate and sometimes getting rejected. My heart broke on Valentine’s Day when after a nice date that I had to arrange my DH rejected me for sex.... he stayed up watching movies on his smartphone instead.

It is hard to be a woman with a higher sex drive - I am craving intimacy and would love to have sex once a week or even every day but it is once a month for me now —- I am pretty sure my DH who is 10 years older than me enjoys masturbating instead of having sexual with me and that sucks!!

Hang in there. I have no advice but can commiserate.

You need a younger man!

No kidding. This is what happens when you marry an ad dude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, prior to the pregnancy (obviously) did you gain a lot of weight?

No not at all, I was a normal weight and a little on the smaller side.

I’ve gained (maybe) 20 lbs with this pregnancy and am 8 weeks away from delivering. But obviously I’m round right now so intimacy has been difficult to find comfortable positions. Acid reflux and morning sickness didn’t help at all. I actually had to stop him once or twice.

I’m hoping things will pick up after I deliver, have healed, and lost some of the baby weight.

[Anonymous]

Could he be using porn? Is he on antidepressants ?

[Anonymous]

If he is getting up at 4 am he is probably exhausted at night.

[Anonymous]

The fact that you need to be “clean” and can’t handle morning breath is interesting to me. I don’t think that’s common among people who have been together 5 years