anyone ever reached out to a family member who is cheating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask yourself - how will your sibling react when they find out about the cheating, and that you knew (or at least should've known) about it?

I'm sorry for the confusion... my sib is the one who told me about it.

Just be supportive of your sibling

This right here! Your first loyalty is to your sibling.

[Anonymous]

I didn’t. But our friendship took a hit. She doesn’t know I know, but I lost my trust in her and a lot of respect.

[Anonymous]

17:49 here. Does the sibling want you to get involved? My relative did not want us to. And now they’re still together. Be careful what you say to both bc if they stay together, your relationship may suffer if you’ve talked about the cheater negatively. It’s a bad spot to be in.

[Anonymous]

I wouldst be able to keep my mouth shut if I ever found out one of my bil was cheating on sisters. Heck no.

[Anonymous]

What is there even to do? Your sibling knows.... its her choice to stay or leave. Does her husband know that she knows? I’m confused on the details.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course I would say something.

Why do people walk around not talking about the elephant in the room. It's truly bizarre.

I've noticed that so much in these Family posts; posters constantly saying to MYOB. Gtfoh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course I would say something.

Why do people walk around not talking about the elephant in the room. It's truly bizarre.

Not her elephant.
That’s between the husband and wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course I would say something.

Why do people walk around not talking about the elephant in the room. It's truly bizarre.

What would you say? Try to counsel? Understand?

Hey I know you guys are going through some shit. What's up.

Hi. Wanna get a beer.

Hey wanna meet for lunch.

Do you people have no emotional intelligence or social skills?

Unless you are a marriage counselor stay out of it. Talk about boundary crossing.
Geeeeez

[Anonymous]

Stay out of it. I can’t believe this is even a question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t get involved the way you are thinking. I would talk to my sibling to find out why she thinks her husband is cheating. My guess is that she knows why. She needs to start reflecting on her own behavior— is she giving her husband what he needs, is she kind and loving to her husband? She needs to talk to her own spouse to find out what she can do to get him back, if she wants a marriage. A lot of times spouses cheat because the wife or husband is not having sex or is just plain mean. These are things your sister needs to reflect upon.

gaslighting much? why are you putting guilt with the one who was cheated on?? what if the wife is busy with kids and work and household without husband's help around. of course "satisfying spouse's needs" at the end of the day or even being nice to him is the last thing she wants to do at this point.



BTW, the OP never specified whether she was talking about a brother or sister, she said "sibling". it could be a brother and she was close with her SIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t get involved the way you are thinking. I would talk to my sibling to find out why she thinks her husband is cheating. My guess is that she knows why. She needs to start reflecting on her own behavior— is she giving her husband what he needs, is she kind and loving to her husband? She needs to talk to her own spouse to find out what she can do to get him back, if she wants a marriage. A lot of times spouses cheat because the wife or husband is not having sex or is just plain mean. These are things your sister needs to reflect upon.

gaslighting much? why are you putting guilt with the one who was cheated on?? what if the wife is busy with kids and work and household without husband's help around. of course "satisfying spouse's needs" at the end of the day or even being nice to him is the last thing she wants to do at this point.



BTW, the OP never specified whether she was talking about a brother or sister, she said "sibling". it could be a brother and she was close with her SIL.

So why would he want to be with someone who is mean to him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course I would say something.

Why do people walk around not talking about the elephant in the room. It's truly bizarre.

What would you say? Try to counsel? Understand?

Hey I know you guys are going through some shit. What's up.

Hi. Wanna get a beer.

Hey wanna meet for lunch.

Do you people have no emotional intelligence or social skills?

Unless you are a marriage counselor stay out of it. Talk about boundary crossing.
Geeeeez

No. We are a family... cancer, loss of job, divorce, addiction, kids with special needs. We talk and are supportive.

We are supportive even if you are stupid enough to cheat.

Why act like cheating is the 5th dimension... it happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course I would say something.

Why do people walk around not talking about the elephant in the room. It's truly bizarre.

What would you say? Try to counsel? Understand?

Hey I know you guys are going through some shit. What's up.

Hi. Wanna get a beer.

Hey wanna meet for lunch.

Do you people have no emotional intelligence or social skills?

Unless you are a marriage counselor stay out of it. Talk about boundary crossing.
Geeeeez

No. We are a family... cancer, loss of job, divorce, addiction, kids with special needs. We talk and are supportive.

We are supportive even if you are stupid enough to cheat.

Why act like cheating is the 5th dimension... it happens.

It happens, but it's not YOUR marriage. She or he is not cheating on you, they are cheating on their spouse.

You can talk and be supportive to your sibling, to the extent they want to talk.

[Anonymous]

You just can't wait to stir up the alligators and other swamp creatures and then say, "I was only trying to help.'. Keep you trap shut and MYOB!

[Anonymous]

If my sibling’s spouse was cheating, we would not be friends.