anyone ever reached out to a family member who is cheating?

[Anonymous]

Or just MYOB?

My inlaw is cheating on my sibling. My inlaw and I had a pretty close relationship, as we shared a similar hobby that kept us texting back and forth periodically. I feel like I should reach out and say "WTF are you doing, fix this!!!", but then again, it's not my business, right? If my sib was doing it, I wouldn't hesitate to knock some sense.

[Anonymous]

MYOB!

[Anonymous]

Ask yourself - how will your sibling react when they find out about the cheating, and that you knew (or at least should've known) about it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask yourself - how will your sibling react when they find out about the cheating, and that you knew (or at least should've known) about it?

I'm sorry for the confusion... my sib is the one who told me about it.

[Anonymous]

Yes, of course I would say something.

Why do people walk around not talking about the elephant in the room. It's truly bizarre.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course I would say something.

Why do people walk around not talking about the elephant in the room. It's truly bizarre.

What would you say? Try to counsel? Understand?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course I would say something.

Why do people walk around not talking about the elephant in the room. It's truly bizarre.

What would you say? Try to counsel? Understand?

Hey I know you guys are going through some shit. What's up.

Hi. Wanna get a beer.

Hey wanna meet for lunch.

Do you people have no emotional intelligence or social skills?

[Anonymous]

Don't get involved in other people's marriages.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t get involved the way you are thinking. I would talk to my sibling to find out why she thinks her husband is cheating. My guess is that she knows why. She needs to start reflecting on her own behavior— is she giving her husband what he needs, is she kind and loving to her husband? She needs to talk to her own spouse to find out what she can do to get him back, if she wants a marriage. A lot of times spouses cheat because the wife or husband is not having sex or is just plain mean. These are things your sister needs to reflect upon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t get involved the way you are thinking. I would talk to my sibling to find out why she thinks her husband is cheating. My guess is that she knows why. She needs to start reflecting on her own behavior— is she giving her husband what he needs, is she kind and loving to her husband? She needs to talk to her own spouse to find out what she can do to get him back, if she wants a marriage. A lot of times spouses cheat because the wife or husband is not having sex or is just plain mean. These are things your sister needs to reflect upon.

STFU! Busybody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course I would say something.

Why do people walk around not talking about the elephant in the room. It's truly bizarre.

What would you say? Try to counsel? Understand?

"Is the sex that much better with the OW?"

[Anonymous]

If he's cheating he doesn't care (or she) and isn't going to listen to you. It cannot be fixed as he left the marriage. Help your sibling with an exit plan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t get involved the way you are thinking. I would talk to my sibling to find out why she thinks her husband is cheating. My guess is that she knows why. She needs to start reflecting on her own behavior— is she giving her husband what he needs, is she kind and loving to her husband? She needs to talk to her own spouse to find out what she can do to get him back, if she wants a marriage. A lot of times spouses cheat because the wife or husband is not having sex or is just plain mean. These are things your sister needs to reflect upon.

STFU! Busybody.

Oh. OK. If you say so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask yourself - how will your sibling react when they find out about the cheating, and that you knew (or at least should've known) about it?

I'm sorry for the confusion... my sib is the one who told me about it.

Just be supportive of your sibling

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t get involved the way you are thinking. I would talk to my sibling to find out why she thinks her husband is cheating. My guess is that she knows why. She needs to start reflecting on her own behavior— is she giving her husband what he needs, is she kind and loving to her husband? She needs to talk to her own spouse to find out what she can do to get him back, if she wants a marriage. A lot of times spouses cheat because the wife or husband is not having sex or is just plain mean. These are things your sister needs to reflect upon.

Oh yes, by all means find out what the woman has done to drive the poor innocent man to screw someone else, and then help her fix that deficit in herself so he doesn’t have to cheat anymore.

OP, since your sibling knows, I would stay out of it, but I would also pull back significantly on my interactions with the in-law. If asked, I would just say that you know and you’re uncomfortable with what they are doing to your sibling. But that’s me; cheating is a shitty, cowardly act imo and I have no patience for anyone who does it.