I dont understand my wife's sex drive....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's about ready to start her period, so she's horny

This x 1000. Enjoy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here makes sense! A week of sex, 3 weeks off...her cycle..she is on birth control that eliminates her period so I didn't make that connection.

But the BC should actually eliminate these hormonal swings .... because she isn't ovulating.

I don't think it eliminates all of the hormonal fluctuation, though.

[Anonymous]

Do you ever initiate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is me right now and I am mid-cycle and my SO is out of town! I keep sending sending him sexy messages and he is worked up too. JUST THREE MORE DAYS.

PM me and I'll help you through this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here makes sense! A week of sex, 3 weeks off...her cycle..she is on birth control that eliminates her period so I didn't make that connection.

It seems colossally unfair to cater only to HER hormones. What about YOUR hormones? You’re a guy right, so your testosterone is flowing 24x7x365 and you pretty much want sex every day, right?

Maybe compromise and go every other day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's about ready to start her period, so she's horny

This x 1000. Enjoy!

So which is more commonly associated with increased libido: right near the beginning of her period (end of cycle) or right near ovulation (early/mid cycle?)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here makes sense! A week of sex, 3 weeks off...her cycle..she is on birth control that eliminates her period so I didn't make that connection.

It seems colossally unfair to cater only to HER hormones. What about YOUR hormones? You’re a guy right, so your testosterone is flowing 24x7x365 and you pretty much want sex every day, right?

Maybe compromise and go every other day.

Compromise is so...rapey.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's about ready to start her period, so she's horny

This x 1000. Enjoy!

So which is more commonly associated with increased libido: right near the beginning of her period (end of cycle) or right near ovulation (early/mid cycle?)

End of cycle is most common, based on my experience and what I hear. I agree, it doesn't seem to make sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here makes sense! A week of sex, 3 weeks off...her cycle..she is on birth control that eliminates her period so I didn't make that connection.

But the BC should actually eliminate these hormonal swings .... because she isn't ovulating.

Nope, can confirm hormones still swing.

[Anonymous]

She might have a small innocent crush on someone else and you’re just reaping the benefits...

[Anonymous]

I'm super horny when I'm pregnant. Like out of control horny. Need it twice a day kind of horny.

Then the baby is born and I couldn't care less for a year. Even sexy thoughts feel repulsive. It's totally hormones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here makes sense! A week of sex, 3 weeks off...her cycle..she is on birth control that eliminates her period so I didn't make that connection.

It seems colossally unfair to cater only to HER hormones. What about YOUR hormones? You’re a guy right, so your testosterone is flowing 24x7x365 and you pretty much want sex every day, right?

Maybe compromise and go every other day.

Compromise is so...rapey.

Well I suppose if you feel one shouldn’t compromise when it comes to sex, then he should just get a girlfriend or 2 for the low interest parts of his wife’s cycle. I mean, you don’t expect him to compromise, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's about ready to start her period, so she's horny

This x 1000. Enjoy!

So which is more commonly associated with increased libido: right near the beginning of her period (end of cycle) or right near ovulation (early/mid cycle?)

I have not heard of this end of cycle horny-ness, except maybe knowing the period is coming and that my DH will not want to do it on heavy days might make me initiate in that time frame. For me it’s definitely early cycle/ovulation. I just think about sex multiple times a day in that window whereas after ovulation - not thinking about it at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's about ready to start her period, so she's horny

This x 1000. Enjoy!

So which is more commonly associated with increased libido: right near the beginning of her period (end of cycle) or right near ovulation (early/mid cycle?)

I have not heard of this end of cycle horny-ness, except maybe knowing the period is coming and that my DH will not want to do it on heavy days might make me initiate in that time frame. For me it’s definitely early cycle/ovulation. I just think about sex multiple times a day in that window whereas after ovulation - not thinking about it at all.

I think I've heard of sort of two different mechanisms at work. I might get this wrong since it's half remembered, but mid-cycle it's more of a hormonal shift having to do with the evolutionary benefits of a woman being horny when she's most likely to conceive. The end-cycle is more of a mechanical situation. Water retention kind of engorges the erogenous areas in a way that makes some women more interested in sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's about ready to start her period, so she's horny

This x 1000. Enjoy!

So which is more commonly associated with increased libido: right near the beginning of her period (end of cycle) or right near ovulation (early/mid cycle?)

I have not heard of this end of cycle horny-ness, except maybe knowing the period is coming and that my DH will not want to do it on heavy days might make me initiate in that time frame. For me it’s definitely early cycle/ovulation. I just think about sex multiple times a day in that window whereas after ovulation - not thinking about it at all.

I think I've heard of sort of two different mechanisms at work. I might get this wrong since it's half remembered, but mid-cycle it's more of a hormonal shift having to do with the evolutionary benefits of a woman being horny when she's most likely to conceive. The end-cycle is more of a mechanical situation. Water retention kind of engorges the erogenous areas in a way that makes some women more interested in sex.

You had me at engorged.