Stepmom sent me used scarf for Christmas? Ok to walk away from evil Stepmom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Place the scarf on your dog, take a picture and put that on social media. Better yet, do a side by side photo with SM wearing it. Enjoy.

Who has time for this?

Send a thank you text and walk away. Dad is the real problem.

[Anonymous]

If you "typically don't care" then why do you know the origin and back story of this rare scarf?

If you care about your dad's well-being while he undergoes cancer treatment, why would share gift exchange drama with him? Do you really think ScarfGate is something he cares about at this point in his life?

The love of a woman's life is dying of cancer and you are critiquing her gifting? How old are you?

[Anonymous]

Take a photo of yourself wearing it, and post your thank you to her on facebook under the pictures of her wearing it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you "typically don't care" then why do you know the origin and back story of this rare scarf?

If you care about your dad's well-being while he undergoes cancer treatment, why would share gift exchange drama with him? Do you really think ScarfGate is something he cares about at this point in his life?

The love of a woman's life is dying of cancer and you are critiquing her gifting? How old are you?

This is wrong. Look, everybody has a lot going on. But that doesn’t mean OP can’t be hurt about it. Also, dad doesn’t have cancer (DH does). And no one said anything about dying. This is supposed to be a space for advice. Not a
Place for you to flame OP for having feelings/being hurt/venting. Sorry, OP. Ignore the harsh comments.

[Anonymous]

You can walk away but by losing her you lose him.

My dad is a big tough strong guy and I never knew how weak he was until he remarried after my mum passed away. She runs the show; we never get to see him alone/any issues he brings up come from her financial interests and not the grandkids, etc.

If you want to keep knowing her, you will need to put up with her a little. I'd just address it as needed "love the scarf- I saw it in your facebook photos and had no idea one day it will be mine- thanks!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Take a photo of yourself wearing it, and post your thank you to her on facebook under the pictures of her wearing it.

That’s one way to do it but only if you think she would care about the faux pas. Then toss it.

[Anonymous]

She probably does all of this so you will walk away from your dad and he will change his will to cut you out completely.

[Anonymous]

You dad can send you gifts. My mom is like that to me but generous with boyfriends family. I pulled back and gave up.

[Anonymous]

OP be glad she is your stepmom and not your mom doing this—mine found a key chain on the floor, gave it to my son and told him that since I don’t be able to afford the luxury car itself I could look at the keychain and dream ... and she is loaded.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think if you read this board, you’ll find that if your reaction to any gift is anything less than sincere gratitude, you’ll be called a horrible, ungrateful person who doesn’t deserve anything. Or it’s your problem because you should just laugh it off.

But! Those people are wrong. Drop your stepmother. Her actions show you aren’t her priority, so don’t make her yours.

Agree. DCUM is fake af.

[Anonymous]

Send her a thank you note saying it looks just as lovely with your hair/eye color as it does with hers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She probably does all of this so you will walk away from your dad and he will change his will to cut you out completely.

Yup. Don't put any further energy into thinking about her or her stupid games. I would donate the scarf to a charity. That way you're making lemonade out of a lemon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t this something to laugh at? It happens in my family and we just joke about it.

Agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Place the scarf on your dog, take a picture and put that on social media. Better yet, do a side by side photo with SM wearing it. Enjoy.

Great idea!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Place the scarf on your dog, take a picture and put that on social media. Better yet, do a side by side photo with SM wearing it. Enjoy.

Great idea!!

Do a whole series of pictures with witty captions. Put it on the mail box, elf on the shelf, the bushes.

"Thank God this used scarf is given to me by my Step-Mom. I was lucky that she did not birth me!"