Don’t like my brothers’s new girlfriend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound awful. You can not like your brothers gf, but it sounds like you’re pisses that her “trying to hard” was in fact trying just right for everyone but you. Of course your brother was bugging her up if you’re so hyper critical. Why does his gf need to be bubbly? If he doesn’t object to her calling Ng him by a different nickname, why should you? It’s not even like you’re the parent who gave him his name; wtf is it to you?

My mom admitted the name thing bugged her, but then said if he doesn’t mind then she doesn’t mind.

[Anonymous]

I wonder if there will be a thread with the title-"How to deal with BF's mean sister".
Way to make her feel uncomfortable after she did her best to be pleasant and nice to everyone in your family. It's not easy being introduced to everyone at once, especially in a new relationship. Sheesh, you don't sound very gracious. You should thank you DH for trying to talk some sense into you.

[Anonymous]

She probably was trying hard. That's what you are supposed to do when you meet your boyfriend's family.

I'm sure the hostility you weren't hiding made her more than a bit nervous.

OP, just let this go. Be kind.

[Anonymous]

Cookies shaped like balloons taste just like cookies shaped like ornaments.

I thought Christmas Cookies were what you give people at this time of year.

[Anonymous]

Your brother sounds like he's really smitten and was telling all her accomplishments because he really wants all of you to love her too. I'm sure he realizes how close you were to his ex so he's overselling the new GF to try and win everyone over. And try to remember how hard it was the first time you met your DH's family. She was trying too hard because she was nervous. Give it some time. You don't have to be BFF's with this girl. What's important is if she and your brother have a healthy relationship and if he's happy. Sounds like he is.
I don't love my SIL. We have zero in common besides my brother. But they love eachother and have built a good life together. That's what matters. So I make an effort to know her and be a part of their lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She probably was trying hard. That's what you are supposed to do when you meet your boyfriend's family.

I'm sure the hostility you weren't hiding made her more than a bit nervous.

OP, just let this go. Be kind.

This is good advice, although it seems like quite a stretch for this OP.

[Anonymous]

I know someone who was frozen out by her sister in law from day 1... it sounded exactly like what you have just described- and I thought she was being overly dramatic and too sensitive when she was trying to explain this over a period of 5 years...including their marriage. The guy is now living with his mother and is steps away from his sister 's house.They are all so incestuous that the siblings live all next to each other and near Mom. He is about 38.

Yes, he left her because the sister and mother continually iced her out because his divorced father and his wife embraced her- and the guy acted like she should just deal with it. They were awful people (which there was no argument about- it was staggering to watch), whom we all just told her to ignore and be the bigger person.

After reading your post, I am sorry for my contribution to her pain. YOU are the problem. It is you. I hope the girlfriend wises up and moves on, or I hope your brother has some backbone. What is the chance of that?

[Anonymous]

OP you sound insufferable!

[Anonymous]

My goodness, you are a piece of work. I suppose it takes effort for you to be gracious, empathic and kind. Your jealousy is shining through, loud and clear. Though you’re probably a troll because IRL most people are more subtle about being an a$$h**e.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she the sitter?

No apparently she’s a NICU nurse which is awesome, but not after the fifth time he said it.

Look in the mirror.
Say that out loud.
Read your post out loud.

Get some help. Please.
Whatever you do, stay out of his relationships and start to work on your own.

[Anonymous]

You’re horrible. Meeting the family is incredibly stressful. Your brother loves her and you should be happy for him. That’s all that matters. This is not about you.

[Anonymous]

OP, if would be better if she wasn't your friend. Courteous, cordial, friendly (like a neighbor). No drama. No over-sharing. If this goes south - it's probably on you.

[Anonymous]

Ha ha, get over it. You will alinate your brother and his future wife if you don’t grow up.

[Anonymous]

She must be prettier and thinner than you.

[Anonymous]

Your brother's,GF deserves a much nicer Potential SIL then you.