I'm 50 & creating my first-ever online profile. What is your single most-important tip?

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Anonymous wrote:Are you hoping that this 1X date night will evolve to include once a week sex or are you mainly looking for male companionship to eat out, go to movies, maybe dancing etc with? Or are you looking for a once a week night out on the town followed by sex and nothing more?

You know you don't want the relationship to progress to the next level of LTR but what level of involvement are you looking for?

Thank you for the clarifying questions. I am looking for a guy who will want to go out at night once a week on some sort of date (arts, dining, rock climbing in the summer). Then we come home and have sex. Maybe spend the night, or not, depending on work schedules. Once or twice a year, we take a week-long trip together. If schedules allow, maybe we get together for a second time during the same week and cook a meal together, jog with his dog, whatever.

To the person who said seeing each other once a week is "boring" … That's about how much time I can spare on the regular. Serious question that I don't mean to sound defensive: are there really 50 year old women out there in DC who have a lot more time than that to socialize in the evening?

Um, yes. I am 48, no kids at home and can spend my evenings doing whatever, whenever. Are you unable to envisions situations different than yours?

That's fantastic. Do you have tweens or teens who live at home with you? If so, do they have no activities that require your presence/driving? Do you guys like to eat dinner together?

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Thank you for the clarifying questions. I am looking for a guy who will want to go out at night once a week on some sort of date (arts, dining, rock climbing in the summer). Then we come home and have sex. Maybe spend the night, or not, depending on work schedules. Once or twice a year, we take a week-long trip together. If schedules allow, maybe we get together for a second time during the same week and cook a meal together, jog with his dog, whatever.

To the person who said seeing each other once a week is "boring" … That's about how much time I can spare on the regular. Serious question that I don't mean to sound defensive: are there really 50 year old women out there in DC who have a lot more time than that to socialize in the evening?

I'm 54, male, will be divorced next year, and this sounds really awesome to me. Just what I will be looking for, too.

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To the person who said seeing each other once a week is "boring" … That's about how much time I can spare on the regular.

Well, it's not that seeing each other once a week is boring, it's the fact that you are letting someone (who potentially wants a romance with you) know that you'll be around only for 3-4 times a month. That's so dry and unromantic and makes it seem like there's nothing to really look forward to.
I don't know if you realize how hard it will be to connect with people who you see so sporadically.

Seems like you're looking more for a companionship. And that's probably an older age group or much older.

OP here, thank you.

I'm currently in a 2-year relationship where my partner and I see each other about once a week. We've had a very romantic relationship, but now he has to move to the west coast and I'm not able or inclined to do the same. It sounds like you're suggesting this kind of relationship is really unusual? I'd never thought so until this thread

Also — I'm 50. When you suggest that it's an "older age group" that might be into this arrangement, how much older than 50s were you thinking?

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The idea of having a scheduled dinner-movie-sex date once a week in a relationship that doesn't have much in the way of passion or a connection to each other sounds....I dunno....sort of sad.

I can see how you wound up in a relationship like that in your 50's but I don't know that it's the sort of thing that most people would actually seek out.

But maybe I'm an old romantic who isn't into the current trends.

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I see my SO about once per week on average due to various other responsibilities. It’s just worked out that way though, it’s not like it wasn’t discussed and agreed upon ahead of time. I’m of the opinion that you can’t always dictate and control every situation that comes your way. You may have to meet someone and see how things shake out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you didn't want sex maybe you could hire a male escort to take you out once a week?

Got heterosexuals?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you hoping that this 1X date night will evolve to include once a week sex or are you mainly looking for male companionship to eat out, go to movies, maybe dancing etc with? Or are you looking for a once a week night out on the town followed by sex and nothing more?

You know you don't want the relationship to progress to the next level of LTR but what level of involvement are you looking for?

Thank you for the clarifying questions. I am looking for a guy who will want to go out at night once a week on some sort of date (arts, dining, rock climbing in the summer). Then we come home and have sex. Maybe spend the night, or not, depending on work schedules. Once or twice a year, we take a week-long trip together. If schedules allow, maybe we get together for a second time during the same week and cook a meal together, jog with his dog, whatever.

To the person who said seeing each other once a week is "boring" … That's about how much time I can spare on the regular. Serious question that I don't mean to sound defensive: are there really 50 year old women out there in DC who have a lot more time than that to socialize in the evening?

Um, yes. I am 48, no kids at home and can spend my evenings doing whatever, whenever. Are you unable to envisions situations different than yours?

That's fantastic. Do you have tweens or teens who live at home with you? If so, do they have no activities that require your presence/driving? Do you guys like to eat dinner together?

Please read what I wrote, again. The answer is right there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you hoping that this 1X date night will evolve to include once a week sex or are you mainly looking for male companionship to eat out, go to movies, maybe dancing etc with? Or are you looking for a once a week night out on the town followed by sex and nothing more?

You know you don't want the relationship to progress to the next level of LTR but what level of involvement are you looking for?

Thank you for the clarifying questions. I am looking for a guy who will want to go out at night once a week on some sort of date (arts, dining, rock climbing in the summer). Then we come home and have sex. Maybe spend the night, or not, depending on work schedules. Once or twice a year, we take a week-long trip together. If schedules allow, maybe we get together for a second time during the same week and cook a meal together, jog with his dog, whatever.

To the person who said seeing each other once a week is "boring" … That's about how much time I can spare on the regular. Serious question that I don't mean to sound defensive: are there really 50 year old women out there in DC who have a lot more time than that to socialize in the evening?

Um, yes. I am 48, no kids at home and can spend my evenings doing whatever, whenever. Are you unable to envisions situations different than yours?

That's fantastic. Do you have tweens or teens who live at home with you? If so, do they have no activities that require your presence/driving? Do you guys like to eat dinner together?

Reading is fundamental.

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Here is what I would do: I would write what you wrote here....something like

"I am a 50 something woman who is looking for regular companionship and maybe more. I want someone who is ...... What I would like to do is an evening out: Arts, movie, dining; maybe more adventurous when weather is appropriate. Then, together time at your place or mine. While right now I only have about one day a week free, we can see what happens."

I would get flattering pictures.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no clue how to create a profile to hopefully attract what I want, which is a regular date night (1x a week, max) with the same guy

(if it matters … I absolutely do not want a committed LTR that leads to, or feels just like, a marriage. I also won't do hookups, or 1st date/2nd date sex.)

Again, I'm 50 y.o., live in DC. Help?

Take an extreme close-up of your eyeball

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you hoping that this 1X date night will evolve to include once a week sex or are you mainly looking for male companionship to eat out, go to movies, maybe dancing etc with? Or are you looking for a once a week night out on the town followed by sex and nothing more?

You know you don't want the relationship to progress to the next level of LTR but what level of involvement are you looking for?

Thank you for the clarifying questions. I am looking for a guy who will want to go out at night once a week on some sort of date (arts, dining, rock climbing in the summer). Then we come home and have sex. Maybe spend the night, or not, depending on work schedules. Once or twice a year, we take a week-long trip together. If schedules allow, maybe we get together for a second time during the same week and cook a meal together, jog with his dog, whatever.

To the person who said seeing each other once a week is "boring" … That's about how much time I can spare on the regular. Serious question that I don't mean to sound defensive: are there really 50 year old women out there in DC who have a lot more time than that to socialize in the evening?

I’m 53 F and would also like this scenario! I’ve been on the dating apps for 2 mos and I have only managed one date, which was bad, though. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are looking for something non exclusive and a guy who will do dinner and sex once a week, you can probably find that. It is more friends with benefits you want. No commitment, no relationship just an evening of companionship and sex. Make that clear in your profile and I am sure you will find some takers. You will likely find you get a lot of older guys responding,

I agree. Just state you want a fwb with a single guy and I think you will be every popular. There are huge amount s of divorced men who would love to have 1 or 3 fwb in their lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are looking for something non exclusive and a guy who will do dinner and sex once a week, you can probably find that. It is more friends with benefits you want. No commitment, no relationship just an evening of companionship and sex. Make that clear in your profile and I am sure you will find some takers. You will likely find you get a lot of older guys responding,

I agree. Just state you want a fwb with a single guy and I think you will be every popular. There are huge amount s of divorced men who would love to have 1 or 3 fwb in their lives.

eh, they aren't going to want to take her out though. Maybe they'll do that the first couple of times but then it'll be all about getting back to the bedroom for some hanky panky.

Why would a guy invest any emotional energy/effort into what amounts to a no strings attached, casual sex FWB arrangement?

[Anonymous]

Two words: Male Prostitute

[Anonymous]

It may easier to find a girlfriend to hang out with for activities. Then have a guy on speed dial for booty calls.