Do you make lunch for guys who are just your friends? E

[Anonymous]

Why do you ask, op?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If we were working on a project together and I thought he wouldn't get lunch otherwise and he was generally thoughtful or kind to me, then yes. Otherwise no. Treat people the way you want to be treated and sometimes that means doing something nice just for the sake of doing something nice.

That’s a load of BS you can come off your high horse. You aren’t fooling anyone everyone knows you are sleeping together.

Why would pp lie on an anonymous forum, Mrs Kravitz?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If we were working on a project together and I thought he wouldn't get lunch otherwise and he was generally thoughtful or kind to me, then yes. Otherwise no. Treat people the way you want to be treated and sometimes that means doing something nice just for the sake of doing something nice.

That’s a load of BS you can come off your high horse. You aren’t fooling anyone everyone knows you are sleeping together.

Why would pp lie on an anonymous forum, Mrs Kravitz?

Probably because he/she is so far down the bunny trail you believe your poop doesn’t stink like most people having affairs do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you ask, op?

Fiancé and his lunch time buddy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If we were working on a project together and I thought he wouldn't get lunch otherwise and he was generally thoughtful or kind to me, then yes. Otherwise no. Treat people the way you want to be treated and sometimes that means doing something nice just for the sake of doing something nice.

That’s a load of BS you can come off your high horse. You aren’t fooling anyone everyone knows you are sleeping together.

or in the near future.

Right. No way is pp that socially unaware.

[Anonymous]

Sure, I work in a situation where finding time to run to the kitchen to microwave something is challenging. If I manage to find time and I can tell my coworker won’t then I’ll offer, and vice versa.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sure, I work in a situation where finding time to run to the kitchen to microwave something is challenging. If I manage to find time and I can tell my coworker won’t then I’ll offer, and vice versa.

All your coworkers or just one?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sure, I work in a situation where finding time to run to the kitchen to microwave something is challenging. If I manage to find time and I can tell my coworker won’t then I’ll offer, and vice versa.

What situation is that? Saving lives, trading floor, call center?

I guess to OP, the question is do folks they work with do the same for same gender folks? So if fiancé isn’t making lunch for his male buddies at work and if his coworker isn’t making lunch for her female co-workers you have your answer. Personally, I would think it was strange if they weren’t dating or married but I will give the benefit of the doubt if this was really a thing at the office that other people do too for people they aren’t sleeping with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure, I work in a situation where finding time to run to the kitchen to microwave something is challenging. If I manage to find time and I can tell my coworker won’t then I’ll offer, and vice versa.

What situation is that? Saving lives, trading floor, call center?

I guess to OP, the question is do folks they work with do the same for same gender folks? So if fiancé isn’t making lunch for his male buddies at work and if his coworker isn’t making lunch for her female co-workers you have your answer. Personally, I would think it was strange if they weren’t dating or married but I will give the benefit of the doubt if this was really a thing at the office that other people do too for people they aren’t sleeping with.

I don’t work in his office, but he was unable to come up with an examples like you mentioned when asked?

[Anonymous]

I’ve brought lunch to colleagues before. In my old office, there was a group of us who regularly picked up lunch for each other if we were on deadlines and couldn’t go out.

I think if you notice that two people spend a ton of time together at work and put energy into doing things that seem intimate, such as microwaving one another’s food, it’s likely that they are intimate in other ways.

That said, this is the first time I e heard of a microwave as a smoking gun for an affair. Usually they just go out to lunch together alone an inappropriate amount

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sure, I work in a situation where finding time to run to the kitchen to microwave something is challenging. If I manage to find time and I can tell my coworker won’t then I’ll offer, and vice versa.

Hmm my job involves saving actual lives and still the only lunchtime warm ups involve couples. The only exception is if someone buys lunch / dinner for everyone .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve brought lunch to colleagues before. In my old office, there was a group of us who regularly picked up lunch for each other if we were on deadlines and couldn’t go out.

I think if you notice that two people spend a ton of time together at work and put energy into doing things that seem intimate, such as microwaving one another’s food, it’s likely that they are intimate in other ways.

That said, this is the first time I e heard of a microwave as a smoking gun for an affair. Usually they just go out to lunch together alone an inappropriate amount

Op here maybe I’m overreacting but I have had a weird feeling about him and her for the last 3 months basically since he started working at that office. I’m in a demanding program and we don’t have a lot of time together. I’ve been making him lunch. Last week he told me not to bother, but come to find out she got lunch for him. Today she warmed up the lunch I made for him. Maybe I’m crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve brought lunch to colleagues before. In my old office, there was a group of us who regularly picked up lunch for each other if we were on deadlines and couldn’t go out.

I think if you notice that two people spend a ton of time together at work and put energy into doing things that seem intimate, such as microwaving one another’s food, it’s likely that they are intimate in other ways.

That said, this is the first time I e heard of a microwave as a smoking gun for an affair. Usually they just go out to lunch together alone an inappropriate amount

Op here maybe I’m overreacting but I have had a weird feeling about him and her for the last 3 months basically since he started working at that office. I’m in a demanding program and we don’t have a lot of time together. I’ve been making him lunch. Last week he told me not to bother, but come to find out she got lunch for him. Today she warmed up the lunch I made for him. Maybe I’m crazy.

Have you ever felt this way about another friendship he’s had? Or is it just this one setting off alarm bells? If the latter, trust your gut.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve brought lunch to colleagues before. In my old office, there was a group of us who regularly picked up lunch for each other if we were on deadlines and couldn’t go out.

I think if you notice that two people spend a ton of time together at work and put energy into doing things that seem intimate, such as microwaving one another’s food, it’s likely that they are intimate in other ways.

That said, this is the first time I e heard of a microwave as a smoking gun for an affair. Usually they just go out to lunch together alone an inappropriate amount

Op here maybe I’m overreacting but I have had a weird feeling about him and her for the last 3 months basically since he started working at that office. I’m in a demanding program and we don’t have a lot of time together. I’ve been making him lunch. Last week he told me not to bother, but come to find out she got lunch for him. Today she warmed up the lunch I made for him. Maybe I’m crazy.

Have you ever felt this way about another friendship he’s had? Or is it just this one setting off alarm bells? If the latter, trust your gut.

No. I’m not the jealous type. He’s got other female friends and it’s not a problem for me. We are spending less time together. I’m doing the bedroom I can on that front.

[Anonymous]

Warming up a colleague's lunch? No. Making a colleague's lunch? Hell no.

Maybe if I was a secretary or something, but in a professional environment? Of course not.

Agree that if you see something like that then they're intimate in other ways (or the woman wants to be).