Do you judge a woman by her husband?

[Anonymous]

Not seeing how the wife or husband could be judged for baldness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you want a dude to do about his bald spot? A toupee? Please.

We've gone far past that. Every junior congressman has graduated to hair replacement surgery. All I'm saying is if a woman can have a c-section scar you can do something about that hairline.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Either their husbands are catches and I am impressed and respect them more. Or if their husbands are losers you know they have self esteem so I lose respect for them.

[Anonymous]

Most men are starting to bald and gain some weight by 40-50.

[Anonymous]

A man (of any physique) with a fat wife is much worse. Men have many qualities that make them a catch (money, humor, personality, etc.). Men are typically judged on how attractive their wives are. Women are judged on whether or not they have a "good man"...and that can mean a lot of things.

Just the facts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm really surprised at how many women I see with frumpy-looking men in my area. The husbands are overweight with bald spots and paunches. They're not even 40!

I just look at them and wonder why the woman married him...but I'm not going to say anything to her about it.

Men don't wear makeup and spanx. Go to the pool on a hot day and it all equals out. I don't even recognize some of my neighbors' wives at the pool.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm really surprised at how many women I see with frumpy-looking men in my area. The husbands are overweight with bald spots and paunches. They're not even 40!

I just look at them and wonder why the woman married him...but I'm not going to say anything to her about it.

Men don't wear makeup and spanx. Go to the pool on a hot day and it all equals out. I don't even recognize some of my neighbors' wives at the pool.

...and wigs/hair extensions

Sorry OP, you got this one wrong.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They probably didn’t look like that when they got married.

This. DH has put 30 pounds over the years. At the time we started dating he had more hair than a guy in his 25 and made the time to work out at the gym 3 x week.
Please don’t judge me by the way my husband looks.

Exactly this. When we married my husband was in great shape and liked being active. I had no idea he was going to become an overweight slobby type who didn't take any pride in his appearance - I'm not happy about it either. But at some point you can't MAKE a person prioritize that stuff if they don't

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My male neighbor is the biggest jerk around. He's been rude to everyone on the street (and it's a short cul de sac so everyone talks) including me, twice. His wife has to be a special kind of stupid to have married him, and stay with him. I could never take her seriously. So yes, I do judge her.

What does he do that irks you so much? I suspect that DH isn’t liked very much by neighbors because he’s not afraid to tell people their grass needs mowing, they need HOA approval, etc.

PP, why does your husband feel the need to get in your neighbors business? Why not mind his own business and let the HOA take care of the situation if it is really that dire? This doesn’t embarrass you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most men are starting to bald and gain some weight by 40-50.

Most people gain some weight by 40 or 50.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What do you want a dude to do about his bald spot? A toupee? Please.

We've gone far past that. Every junior congressman has graduated to hair replacement surgery. All I'm saying is if a woman can have a c-section scar you can do something about that hairline.

Wow. I don't know what it is about this hair obsession with some folks. Men lose their hair. Period. It is the lucky man who doesn't. Not all women think it is unattractive, as long as they keep it short and tidy and don't do a comb-over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you want a dude to do about his bald spot? A toupee? Please.

No, just shave it all off. My boyfriend went bald young and just shaves his head. It works for him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What do you want a dude to do about his bald spot? A toupee? Please.

No, just shave it all off. My boyfriend went bald young and just shaves his head. It works for him.

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I admire men who take this approach -- it usually goes hand in hand with getting in shape, to avoid the fat-and-bald twofer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They settled for these dorks because they wanted to start pumping out babies.

I believe this is a really valid reason the amount of woman that state their reason for marriage is just wanting a family. Many guys with dumpy woman cause they wanted children.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I judge everyone on the company they keep. It’s a reflection of their values. But I rarely judge someone on their appearances, so I wouldn’t bat an eye at a frumpy dh. I work full time, have kids and know how hard getting to the gym is.