How much of a concern is an arrest for assault and battery?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it was A&B towards a woman, ANY woman, I'd leave and never return.

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Arrest but no conviction could well indicate a false accusation. It happens.

Or a diversionary program for first time offenders with a minimal offense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you had to find this out by digging as opposed to him telling you, it's a pretty bad sign.

If it was 10 years ago and wasn’t domestic violence, get over it. Shall we dredge up every stupid thing we all did in college? Are you a saint yourself?

Surely you don’t think everyone gets arrested for assault and battery?

[Anonymous]

Depends on who it was on. If the assault and battery was against a cop, then he deserves a medal. Because this is a liberal D.C. Board, so we hate all cops.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you had to find this out by digging as opposed to him telling you, it's a pretty bad sign.

If it was 10 years ago and wasn’t domestic violence, get over it. Shall we dredge up every stupid thing we all did in college? Are you a saint yourself?

Surely you don’t think everyone gets arrested for assault and battery?

I’m a woman and I’ve been in a bar fight or two in college. Just never been caught or charged. I dare say there are plenty of us out there who grew up to be fine upstanding citizens after our wilder days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you had to find this out by digging as opposed to him telling you, it's a pretty bad sign.

If it was 10 years ago and wasn’t domestic violence, get over it. Shall we dredge up every stupid thing we all did in college? Are you a saint yourself?

Surely you don’t think everyone gets arrested for assault and battery?

I’m a woman and I’ve been in a bar fight or two in college. Just never been caught or charged. I dare say there are plenty of us out there who grew up to be fine upstanding citizens after our wilder days.

And there are just as many if not more who managed to have fun without getting into bar fights.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you had to find this out by digging as opposed to him telling you, it's a pretty bad sign.

If it was 10 years ago and wasn’t domestic violence, get over it. Shall we dredge up every stupid thing we all did in college? Are you a saint yourself?

Surely you don’t think everyone gets arrested for assault and battery?

I’m a woman and I’ve been in a bar fight or two in college. Just never been caught or charged. I dare say there are plenty of us out there who grew up to be fine upstanding citizens after our wilder days.

And there are just as many if not more who managed to have fun without getting into bar fights.

Never been in a bar fight. Managed to have fun w/o it. Also, I’m an AA woman and figure a judge wouldn’t buy my argument that I was going to turn out to be a fine upstanding citizen anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you had to find this out by digging as opposed to him telling you, it's a pretty bad sign.

If it was 10 years ago and wasn’t domestic violence, get over it. Shall we dredge up every stupid thing we all did in college? Are you a saint yourself?

Surely you don’t think everyone gets arrested for assault and battery?

I’m a woman and I’ve been in a bar fight or two in college. Just never been caught or charged. I dare say there are plenty of us out there who grew up to be fine upstanding citizens after our wilder days.

+1 A couple of friends from high school committed several felonies, and both went on to be very successful. One is quite involved in philanthropy and the other volunteers for a big brother type organization. I sometimes wonder how their lives would have been different if they were caught.

[Anonymous]

An arrest is simply an officer’s personal opinion that someone has done something wrong.

I am surprised that you found that out.
Usually arrests do not show up in background checks -
Only convictions, mostly felonies.

Anyway, I was arrested in ‘04 for DV after getting into a fight w/an ex boyfriend.
I was young + stupid and learned a ton from my actions.

I work at a public school and it has never shown up in any fingerprint check that has been done.
I spent a night in jail, to “cool off,” but was never prosecuted nor convicted.
I never even went to court to face a judge.

Maybe that is what occurred with this person.
Sometimes people are arrested, taken to jail to cool off, then let go and a lesson is learned hopefully!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An arrest is simply an officer’s personal opinion that someone has done something wrong.

I am surprised that you found that out.
Usually arrests do not show up in background checks -
Only convictions, mostly felonies.

Anyway, I was arrested in ‘04 for DV after getting into a fight w/an ex boyfriend.
I was young + stupid and learned a ton from my actions.

I work at a public school and it has never shown up in any fingerprint check that has been done.
I spent a night in jail, to “cool off,” but was never prosecuted nor convicted.
I never even went to court to face a judge.

Maybe that is what occurred with this person.
Sometimes people are arrested, taken to jail to cool off, then let go and a lesson is learned hopefully!!

This is a good point, where did you see/find out he was arrested? Only convictions go on your record in most states.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An arrest is simply an officer’s personal opinion that someone has done something wrong.

I am surprised that you found that out.
Usually arrests do not show up in background checks -
Only convictions, mostly felonies.

Anyway, I was arrested in ‘04 for DV after getting into a fight w/an ex boyfriend.
I was young + stupid and learned a ton from my actions.

I work at a public school and it has never shown up in any fingerprint check that has been done.
I spent a night in jail, to “cool off,” but was never prosecuted nor convicted.
I never even went to court to face a judge.

Maybe that is what occurred with this person.
Sometimes people are arrested, taken to jail to cool off, then let go and a lesson is learned hopefully!!

The background check mom over in the MD Schools forum will have a cow when she reads this.

[Anonymous]

If charges are filed they will show on a record, even if hey do not result in a conviction. If you are arrested but no charges are filed that will not show up anywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An arrest is simply an officer’s personal opinion that someone has done something wrong.

I am surprised that you found that out.
Usually arrests do not show up in background checks -
Only convictions, mostly felonies.

Anyway, I was arrested in ‘04 for DV after getting into a fight w/an ex boyfriend.
I was young + stupid and learned a ton from my actions.

I work at a public school and it has never shown up in any fingerprint check that has been done.
I spent a night in jail, to “cool off,” but was never prosecuted nor convicted.
I never even went to court to face a judge.

Maybe that is what occurred with this person.
Sometimes people are arrested, taken to jail to cool off, then let go and a lesson is learned hopefully!!

Friends of mine got in a huge screaming match (no violence) and neighbors called the cops. Both of them were arrested and spent the night in jail. Neither was guilty of anything except yelling, but this is standard procedure in DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An arrest is simply an officer’s personal opinion that someone has done something wrong.

I am surprised that you found that out.
Usually arrests do not show up in background checks -
Only convictions, mostly felonies.

Anyway, I was arrested in ‘04 for DV after getting into a fight w/an ex boyfriend.
I was young + stupid and learned a ton from my actions.

I work at a public school and it has never shown up in any fingerprint check that has been done.
I spent a night in jail, to “cool off,” but was never prosecuted nor convicted.
I never even went to court to face a judge.

Maybe that is what occurred with this person.
Sometimes people are arrested, taken to jail to cool off, then let go and a lesson is learned hopefully!!

Friends of mine got in a huge screaming match (no violence) and neighbors called the cops. Both of them were arrested and spent the night in jail. Neither was guilty of anything except yelling, but this is standard procedure in DC.

I don't care enough about it to double check the veracity of this, but I've been told by an attorney that any time the police are called for a domestic situation in DC they are required to make an arrest, even if it is the neighbors or other non-eyewitnesses making the call.

I don't know if he was eventually arrested or not, but a guy I personally witnessed trying to break up a fight on the metro was then accused of starting it by one of the real culprits and it looked like the police planned to arrest both of them.

On the other hand, you could be dating a violent guy with a temper. Use your best judgment.

[Anonymous]

It would be a dealbreaker for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it was A&B towards a woman, ANY woman, I'd leave and never return.

If it was a bar fight as mentioned above - get an explanation.

Why the double standard?