Dating in the DMV vs. other parts of the Country

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married now, but I found it very easy. There are tons of great men out there. I’m attractive, but had practically no career, and I still had no problems.

You just have to learn where to find them, put yourself in positions where you can meet them, and be fun/friendly/outgoing. I know people say women who can’t find men have standards that are way too high, but l had even multimillionaires who were interested. You just have to go places in real life where they’ll be, online isn’t the best place to find rich guys.

Congratulations on your gold digging prowess, hope you landed the big one.

Oh sheesh. Income played very little role in my decision, I was just saying that whatever you want, it’s out there. You just have to look for it.

My point is, just be the opposite of the stereotypical Washingtonian. Be friendly. Drum up small talk with everyone, even if they aren’t someone you are interested in, because they may have a friend/son/nephew. Have an identity outside of work. Cultivate interests and hobbies outside of your career. Be kind; I met one millionaire because I stopped to help him catch his escaped dog. Don’t rely on apps or websites for dating, because that’s not a good way to meet people, and it sets up unrealistic expectations. Stop treating dating like you’re ordering a meal off of a menu. I see it sort of like investing- yea, you can pay an outside service, or look online. But my best investments have come from actually going out and doing the legwork, or even just chatting up strangers in real life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married now, but I found it very easy. There are tons of great men out there. I’m attractive, but had practically no career, and I still had no problems.

You just have to learn where to find them, put yourself in positions where you can meet them, and be fun/friendly/outgoing. I know people say women who can’t find men have standards that are way too high, but l had even multimillionaires who were interested. You just have to go places in real life where they’ll be, online isn’t the best place to find rich guys.

Congratulations on your gold digging prowess, hope you landed the big one.

Oh sheesh. Income played very little role in my decision, I was just saying that whatever you want, it’s out there. You just have to look for it.

My point is, just be the opposite of the stereotypical Washingtonian. Be friendly. Drum up small talk with everyone, even if they aren’t someone you are interested in, because they may have a friend/son/nephew. Have an identity outside of work. Cultivate interests and hobbies outside of your career. Be kind; I met one millionaire because I stopped to help him catch his escaped dog. Don’t rely on apps or websites for dating, because that’s not a good way to meet people, and it sets up unrealistic expectations. Stop treating dating like you’re ordering a meal off of a menu. I see it sort of like investing- yea, you can pay an outside service, or look online. But my best investments have come from actually going out and doing the legwork, or even just chatting up strangers in real life.

Man here. I like you. Excellent advice. Swapping statistics (height, weight, income level) with strangers on the internet is just silly.

[Anonymous]

I think the issue is that there are more highly education, attractive women in DC than other places - so there's a lot of competition. There was a WAPO dating article years ago where they sent reports to Alaska as it has the most available men, and DC had the most available women to see if they could find someone elsewhere, but it was a quick trip so no they didn't.

I'm married, but honestly if I was single and it had been multiple years without a second date, I'd probably move. The numbers just aren't in our favor here.

I did find my DH while dating in DC years ago, but I'm attracted to liberal nerds who are nice guys, have great senses of humor, and who rock "dad bods" even before becoming a parent (I promise I'm not a troll) and there's a few of those here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the issue is that there are more highly educated***, attractive women in DC than other places - so there's a lot of competition. There was a WAPO dating article years ago where they sent reports to Alaska as it has the most available men, and DC had the most available women to see if they could find someone elsewhere, but it was a quick trip so no they didn't.

I'm married, but honestly if I was single and it had been multiple years without a second date, I'd probably move. The numbers just aren't in our favor here.

I did find my DH while dating in DC years ago, but I'm attracted to liberal nerds who are nice guys, have great senses of humor, and who rock "dad bods" even before becoming a parent (I promise I'm not a troll) and there's a few of those here.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Some insecure men are threatened by women with successful careers,

And even more women can’t deal with the fact that men just don’t care what a woman’s job is until it’s time to do a joint 1040. Save the resume for a job hunt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Some insecure men are threatened by women with successful careers,

And even more women can’t deal with the fact that men just don’t care what a woman’s job is until it’s time to do a joint 1040. Save the resume for a job hunt.

It's not so much that as the fact that many women here have great careers. You have to distinguish yourself somehow. Being a WoC is different, I will admit that, if you are not looking to date outside of your race.

[Anonymous]

I think there are many more gay men here than anywhere else. Also because of the huge immigrant population we have many short people around here. I'm always shocked when I go to other cities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married now, but I found it very easy. There are tons of great men out there. I’m attractive, but had practically no career, and I still had no problems.

You just have to learn where to find them, put yourself in positions where you can meet them, and be fun/friendly/outgoing. I know people say women who can’t find men have standards that are way too high, but l had even multimillionaires who were interested. You just have to go places in real life where they’ll be, online isn’t the best place to find rich guys.

Congratulations on your gold digging prowess, hope you landed the big one.

Oh sheesh. Income played very little role in my decision, I was just saying that whatever you want, it’s out there. You just have to look for it.

My point is, just be the opposite of the stereotypical Washingtonian. Be friendly. Drum up small talk with everyone, even if they aren’t someone you are interested in, because they may have a friend/son/nephew. Have an identity outside of work. Cultivate interests and hobbies outside of your career. Be kind; I met one millionaire because I stopped to help him catch his escaped dog. Don’t rely on apps or websites for dating, because that’s not a good way to meet people, and it sets up unrealistic expectations. Stop treating dating like you’re ordering a meal off of a menu. I see it sort of like investing- yea, you can pay an outside service, or look online. But my best investments have come from actually going out and doing the legwork, or even just chatting up strangers in real life.

Man here. I like you. Excellent advice. Swapping statistics (height, weight, income level) with strangers on the internet is just silly.

PP here, thanks! I agree swapping stats is silly. By far, the most interesting and eligible men I've met are those I met in real life. It's amazing how many cool people you can meet just by actually interacting with people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My single friends in other major cities are struggling. They are all fit, attractive and have at least a master’s degree

Tell them to keep their eyes open for blue color men also.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My single friends in other major cities are struggling. They are all fit, attractive and have at least a master’s degree

with me and my guy friends, what makes us really hot for a woman is her master's degree

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My single friends in other major cities are struggling. They are all fit, attractive and have at least a master’s degree

with me and my guy friends, what makes us really hot for a woman is her master's degree

Stop being an idiot.

[Anonymous]

I had the best luck in the Bay Area. Lots of Asian and Indian girls, and lots of girls with daddy issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married now, but I found it very easy. There are tons of great men out there. I’m attractive, but had practically no career, and I still had no problems.

You just have to learn where to find them, put yourself in positions where you can meet them, and be fun/friendly/outgoing. I know people say women who can’t find men have standards that are way too high, but l had even multimillionaires who were interested. You just have to go places in real life where they’ll be, online isn’t the best place to find rich guys.

Congratulations on your gold digging prowess, hope you landed the big one.

Oh sheesh. Income played very little role in my decision, I was just saying that whatever you want, it’s out there. You just have to look for it.

My point is, just be the opposite of the stereotypical Washingtonian. Be friendly. Drum up small talk with everyone, even if they aren’t someone you are interested in, because they may have a friend/son/nephew. Have an identity outside of work. Cultivate interests and hobbies outside of your career. Be kind; I met one millionaire because I stopped to help him catch his escaped dog. Don’t rely on apps or websites for dating, because that’s not a good way to meet people, and it sets up unrealistic expectations. Stop treating dating like you’re ordering a meal off of a menu. I see it sort of like investing- yea, you can pay an outside service, or look online. But my best investments have come from actually going out and doing the legwork, or even just chatting up strangers in real life.

This. And talk to guys who might not normally seem like what you're looking for. The shy government attorney I met at a friend's birthday ended up owning a $5 million house in Aspen!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had the best luck in the Bay Area. Lots of Asian and Indian girls, and lots of girls with daddy issues.

Maybe it helped that the area had a high percentage of gay men and incels?