Dating in the DMV vs. other parts of the Country

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My single friends in other major cities are struggling. They are all fit, attractive and have at least a master’s degree

with me and my guy friends, what makes us really hot for a woman is her master's degree

TWO masters! It’s better than a girl who gives hummers.

[Anonymous]

It's a numbers thing. There are no factories or manufacturing here, so most jobs require a college degree. Statistically, this area has the highest % of adults with a college degree, masters, and PhD; also for POC.

But women get more university degrees. The typical university is 55-65% female. So since most jobs here require a college degree, most people working in them are women. Those women probably also want to date a man with a college degree. There just aren't as many of them out there. Those who are know they can play the field, especially if they are dating women in their late 20's/or early 30's.

If you want a real disparity, try being an educated black woman in Atlanta -- the men who fit the same profile are few and far between and they know it. They do very well on the dating scene.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the issue is that there are more highly education, attractive women in DC than other places - so there's a lot of competition. There was a WAPO dating article years ago where they sent reports to Alaska as it has the most available men, and DC had the most available women to see if they could find someone elsewhere, but it was a quick trip so no they didn't.

I'm married, but honestly if I was single and it had been multiple years without a second date, I'd probably move. The numbers just aren't in our favor here.

I did find my DH while dating in DC years ago, but I'm attracted to liberal nerds who are nice guys, have great senses of humor, and who rock "dad bods" even before becoming a parent (I promise I'm not a troll) and there's a few of those here.

PP here who also lived in a SE city. Yes - I felt like I was at an advantage numbers wise. There simply weren't a ton of highly educated single women without kids in their thirties. So the competition for men in their thirties and forties was less high. One guy even told me that - he said "I want to date a professional woman without kids but you are like a unicorn in this dating market - there aren't many who fit that description.." But - I like the guys in DC better.

[Anonymous]

Those women probably also want to date a man with a college degree. There just aren't as many of them out there

Plenty of single guys with degrees here. But also with the required salary, pedigree, advanced degrees, cell phone plan, above-average height, and all the rest: not as many.

[Anonymous]

If you have trouble dating as a man in this area, you need to examine yourself and what you are doing wrong. The women to men ratio in this area is more favorable to men than most anywhere else in the country. As a single man, I'm loving it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My single friends in other major cities are struggling. They are all fit, attractive and have at least a master’s degree

with me and my guy friends, what makes us really hot for a woman is her master's degree

I agree. All my men friends agree. A woman with a master's degree is sooo hotttt! I don't even care if she refuses to perform oral as long as she has that kind of education. It's the first thing we all look for, before beauty, personality, or sexual compatability.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My single friends in other major cities are struggling. They are all fit, attractive and have at least a master’s degree

Funny. I spend half my time in two different cities. Men are practically knocking down my door in Philadelphia - good looking, white, college educated. In D.C. I think the imbalance of women-to-men and people being stressed out by COL makes it harder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My single friends in other major cities are struggling. They are all fit, attractive and have at least a master’s degree

with me and my guy friends, what makes us really hot for a woman is her master's degree

TWO masters! It’s better than a girl who gives hummers.

To Master's degrees is a woman not smart enough to get the first PhD, or the second PhD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had the best luck in the Bay Area. Lots of Asian and Indian girls, and lots of girls with daddy issues.

Yeah, but then you end up with the divorced gold diggers going after old divorced white men, which isn't always a goal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Those women probably also want to date a man with a college degree. There just aren't as many of them out there

Plenty of single guys with degrees here. But also with the required salary, pedigree, advanced degrees, cell phone plan, above-average height, and all the rest: not as many.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married now, but I found it very easy. There are tons of great men out there. I’m attractive, but had practically no career, and I still had no problems.

You just have to learn where to find them, put yourself in positions where you can meet them, and be fun/friendly/outgoing. I know people say women who can’t find men have standards that are way too high, but l had even multimillionaires who were interested. You just have to go places in real life where they’ll be, online isn’t the best place to find rich guys.

Some insecure men are threatened by women with successful careers, which may eclipse their own or require lots of time and effort. I wasn't one of those women but have seen it in some of my friends

LOL sure keep telling yourself that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My single friends in other major cities are struggling. They are all fit, attractive and have at least a master’s degree

Funny. I spend half my time in two different cities. Men are practically knocking down my door in Philadelphia - good looking, white, college educated. In D.C. I think the imbalance of women-to-men and people being stressed out by COL makes it harder.

Women set the dating culture. Women in DC are very unfriendly unless you have a prestigious job, make a lot of money or are famous. I see my friends just ignore guys they think are below them. It’s the culture here. You can not marry/date someone who you or others see as equal or below you(school, job, etc). I had a friend, she would only date a catholic guy who was a doctor or lawyer and graduated from one of 5 schools. Not to be mean but she was definitely not the most attractive head turning girl. Still single and complaining about how DC men suck.
It’s like this, the few men who meet all the requirements have women throwing themselves at them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My single friends in other major cities are struggling. They are all fit, attractive and have at least a master’s degree

with me and my guy friends, what makes us really hot for a woman is her master's degree

TWO masters! It’s better than a girl who gives hummers.

To Master's degrees is a woman not smart enough to get the first PhD, or the second PhD.

And to think I settled for a woman with no Master’s Degree. Sure there’s a lot of sex with a hot, smart, charming woman, but what good is that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you have trouble dating as a man in this area, you need to examine yourself and what you are doing wrong. The women to men ratio in this area is more favorable to men than most anywhere else in the country. As a single man, I'm loving it.

There are so man variables to this that the numbers don't really matter.

[Anonymous]

It's not so much that it's harder to date in DC, it's that there's no real incentive to settle. In other parts of the country, the eligible pool is smaller, and people are aware of that. So one-toothed Cleetus at the country & western bar doesn't seem like such a bad option. In DC, there is always the chance an even better match will be around the corner, so people are less wiling to date people who are simply "okay" but not a particularly great match. It's not just about attractiveness or wealth/status, either, but about having a complementary personality and life goals.

From my sample pool of friends and coworkers, the relationships that began in DC seem to be much deeper and more dynamic than relationships that began elsewhere. The bar to entry was higher, and the quality shows.