Ladies, where did you meet your AP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am single but I have a married FWB. I met him on craigslist before they shut it down. He is discreet, professional, and everything that I need. I don't ask questions.

You might try Tinder too. You would be amazed at who you run into on there.

Stay out of the school crowd, it's too messy. Also, there are a few nice happy hour places are DC.

There are certain rules of engagement with a FWB, learn those and have fun.

Is he able to see you whenever you want? Do you talk?

[Anonymous]

I met him at work. I wasn't really looking for anything at all but it almost felt like love at first sight. The feeling was mutual. I am married, he is not. We are in different divisions and occasionally meet like once a month.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how many people are SEEKING out affairs. It's a whole other level of affair.

Did you think they happened as a coincidence. I would think that most guys that are open to an affair are actively looking for them. Married men are very aggressive when it comes to arranging an affair. They have a goal and they will reach the target no matter what it takes. They could teach a few of the single men on how to attract and go after a woman.

Who the crap are you talking about? Most married guys I know are too busy killing themselves at work to come complicate their lives with an affair.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how many people are SEEKING out affairs. It's a whole other level of affair.

Did you think they happened as a coincidence. I would think that most guys that are open to an affair are actively looking for them. Married men are very aggressive when it comes to arranging an affair. They have a goal and they will reach the target no matter what it takes. They could teach a few of the single men on how to attract and go after a woman.

Who the crap are you talking about? Most married guys I know are too busy killing themselves at work to come complicate their lives with an affair.

Oh honey. You must not be very attractive.

[Anonymous]

Reddit

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Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how many people are SEEKING out affairs. It's a whole other level of affair.

Did you think they happened as a coincidence. I would think that most guys that are open to an affair are actively looking for them. Married men are very aggressive when it comes to arranging an affair. They have a goal and they will reach the target no matter what it takes. They could teach a few of the single men on how to attract and go after a woman.

Who the crap are you talking about? Most married guys I know are too busy killing themselves at work to come complicate their lives with an affair.

Oh honey. You must not be very attractive.

Oh, it is the “oh honey” poster. Loser poster alert.

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Anonymous wrote:Neighborhood/friends. I doubt I'd try a dating site. I do have my eye on somebody at work, but I think although the potential for complications is small (different divisions, equal in terms of level) it is probably a bad idea. Although he is soooo attractive.

This is the worse idea. Don't pop where you eat. Why would you want his wife to confront you.

Heavens. I'd hate to pop, where I eat or anywhere else.

You are funny. Here's your other "o."

The phrase is "don't poop where you sleep". Where did you get "eat" from?

I have always heard eat and not sleep. Oh well, it means the same thing and both are equally as gross.

Tell babies that. They poop, eat, and sleep all within one square foot. Little monsters.
Also, I've heard "eat" never sleep.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how many people are SEEKING out affairs. It's a whole other level of affair.

Did you think they happened as a coincidence. I would think that most guys that are open to an affair are actively looking for them. Married men are very aggressive when it comes to arranging an affair. They have a goal and they will reach the target no matter what it takes. They could teach a few of the single men on how to attract and go after a woman.

I don't think most people are necessarily looking for affairs. Some maybe. But for most people, their marriage and family life has become soul-sucking, for whatever reason, and then they meet this new interesting person who is in a similar situation. And suddenly, life is in color again.

I certainly didn't go out of my way to seek out an affair. But if you look at the big picture you can see and understand what was happening to me and my husband at that time and the years preceding it, and you wouldn't be surprised that I had an affair. It's an escape, a fantasy, a glorious mess.

And the person I had an affair with -- he was not seeking an affair either. Truly, he was not grooming me or attempting to seduce me. Definitely not aggressively pushing an affair on me. He probably put the brakes on more than I did.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how many people are SEEKING out affairs. It's a whole other level of affair.

Did you think they happened as a coincidence. I would think that most guys that are open to an affair are actively looking for them. Married men are very aggressive when it comes to arranging an affair. They have a goal and they will reach the target no matter what it takes. They could teach a few of the single men on how to attract and go after a woman.

Who the crap are you talking about? Most married guys I know are too busy killing themselves at work to come complicate their lives with an affair.

Oh honey. You must not be very attractive.

Oh, it is the “oh honey” poster. Loser poster alert.

+1,000,000

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how many people are SEEKING out affairs. It's a whole other level of affair.

Did you think they happened as a coincidence. I would think that most guys that are open to an affair are actively looking for them. Married men are very aggressive when it comes to arranging an affair. They have a goal and they will reach the target no matter what it takes. They could teach a few of the single men on how to attract and go after a woman.

I don't think most people are necessarily looking for affairs. Some maybe. But for most people, their marriage and family life has become soul-sucking, for whatever reason, and then they meet this new interesting person who is in a similar situation. And suddenly, life is in color again.

I certainly didn't go out of my way to seek out an affair. But if you look at the big picture you can see and understand what was happening to me and my husband at that time and the years preceding it, and you wouldn't be surprised that I had an affair. It's an escape, a fantasy, a glorious mess.

And the person I had an affair with -- he was not seeking an affair either. Truly, he was not grooming me or attempting to seduce me. Definitely not aggressively pushing an affair on me. He probably put the brakes on more than I did.

What do you mean? Did he resist your attempts to go physical?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how many people are SEEKING out affairs. It's a whole other level of affair.

Did you think they happened as a coincidence. I would think that most guys that are open to an affair are actively looking for them. Married men are very aggressive when it comes to arranging an affair. They have a goal and they will reach the target no matter what it takes. They could teach a few of the single men on how to attract and go after a woman.

I don't think most people are necessarily looking for affairs. Some maybe. But for most people, their marriage and family life has become soul-sucking, for whatever reason, and then they meet this new interesting person who is in a similar situation. And suddenly, life is in color again.

I certainly didn't go out of my way to seek out an affair. But if you look at the big picture you can see and understand what was happening to me and my husband at that time and the years preceding it, and you wouldn't be surprised that I had an affair. It's an escape, a fantasy, a glorious mess.

And the person I had an affair with -- he was not seeking an affair either. Truly, he was not grooming me or attempting to seduce me. Definitely not aggressively pushing an affair on me. He probably put the brakes on more than I did.

What do you mean? Did he resist your attempts to go physical?

No, not at all. He made that happen. But he didn't inititate the physical until I told him how I felt. He'd been feeling the same thing but was planning on telling me after the project was over (and we wouldn't be in daily contact). I went ahead mid-project and I told him how I felt. He was definitely more cognizant of what the consequences were than I was, and was acting accordingly.

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Through work but we never worked at the same place.

We became work social-ish acquaintances (occasional lunches), then friends, then after about 4 years, emails turned to an intense emotional affair, which turned physical almost two years ago.

Both of us were what you might call ripe for affairs. We has tough home lives; his wife cut off all sexual contact after menopause, my husband lost sex drive and has big emotional and physical challenges. But neither of us was looking for an affair.

We weren't looking for it but it's impossible to imagine life without it at this point. Life without sex is soul crushing. I'd rather have to give up food and live on tasteless nutrition shakes than live without sex again.

Of course it's messy because you inevitably fall in love with the person who brings intimacy back to your life. But we're good at finding ways and times to be close. We're meeting later today in fact. Jumping out of my skin; it's been 9 days since the last time (had a couple of lunches though and talk every day) and that is far too long. Can't believe I made it years without intimacy before this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Through work but we never worked at the same place.

We became work social-ish acquaintances (occasional lunches), then friends, then after about 4 years, emails turned to an intense emotional affair, which turned physical almost two years ago.

Both of us were what you might call ripe for affairs. We has tough home lives; his wife cut off all sexual contact after menopause, my husband lost sex drive and has big emotional and physical challenges. But neither of us was looking for an affair.

We weren't looking for it but it's impossible to imagine life without it at this point. Life without sex is soul crushing. I'd rather have to give up food and live on tasteless nutrition shakes than live without sex again.

Of course it's messy because you inevitably fall in love with the person who brings intimacy back to your life. But we're good at finding ways and times to be close. We're meeting later today in fact. Jumping out of my skin; it's been 9 days since the last time (had a couple of lunches though and talk every day) and that is far too long. Can't believe I made it years without intimacy before this.

I hate to say it but that is very sexy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reddit

How? What sub reddit?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Through work but we never worked at the same place.

We became work social-ish acquaintances (occasional lunches), then friends, then after about 4 years, emails turned to an intense emotional affair, which turned physical almost two years ago.

Both of us were what you might call ripe for affairs. We has tough home lives; his wife cut off all sexual contact after menopause, my husband lost sex drive and has big emotional and physical challenges. But neither of us was looking for an affair.

We weren't looking for it but it's impossible to imagine life without it at this point. Life without sex is soul crushing. I'd rather have to give up food and live on tasteless nutrition shakes than live without sex again.

Of course it's messy because you inevitably fall in love with the person who brings intimacy back to your life. But we're good at finding ways and times to be close. We're meeting later today in fact. Jumping out of my skin; it's been 9 days since the last time (had a couple of lunches though and talk every day) and that is far too long. Can't believe I made it years without intimacy before this.

I hate to say it but that is very sexy.

It's incredibly sexy. We talked about our fantasies and preferences on the phone for a few weeks between confessing our romantic interest and our first time alone together. It's made a huge difference in how we are. We talk about our lives a lot, but we talk intensely about sex at least a few times per week and by the time we're alone we're like hurricanes colliding.

Never experienced anything like this before. It's like life started.