Ladies, where did you meet your AP?

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Anonymous wrote:Through work but we never worked at the same place.

We became work social-ish acquaintances (occasional lunches), then friends, then after about 4 years, emails turned to an intense emotional affair, which turned physical almost two years ago.

Both of us were what you might call ripe for affairs. We has tough home lives; his wife cut off all sexual contact after menopause, my husband lost sex drive and has big emotional and physical challenges. But neither of us was looking for an affair.

We weren't looking for it but it's impossible to imagine life without it at this point. Life without sex is soul crushing. I'd rather have to give up food and live on tasteless nutrition shakes than live without sex again.

Of course it's messy because you inevitably fall in love with the person who brings intimacy back to your life. But we're good at finding ways and times to be close. We're meeting later today in fact. Jumping out of my skin; it's been 9 days since the last time (had a couple of lunches though and talk every day) and that is far too long. Can't believe I made it years without intimacy before this.

Serious question: why are you still married?

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Through work but we never worked at the same place.

We became work social-ish acquaintances (occasional lunches), then friends, then after about 4 years, emails turned to an intense emotional affair, which turned physical almost two years ago.

Both of us were what you might call ripe for affairs. We has tough home lives; his wife cut off all sexual contact after menopause, my husband lost sex drive and has big emotional and physical challenges. But neither of us was looking for an affair.

We weren't looking for it but it's impossible to imagine life without it at this point. Life without sex is soul crushing. I'd rather have to give up food and live on tasteless nutrition shakes than live without sex again.

Of course it's messy because you inevitably fall in love with the person who brings intimacy back to your life. But we're good at finding ways and times to be close. We're meeting later today in fact. Jumping out of my skin; it's been 9 days since the last time (had a couple of lunches though and talk every day) and that is far too long. Can't believe I made it years without intimacy before this.

Serious question: why are you still married?

Kids. Extended families. Spouses who have needs that we fill. Decades of life built up that each would have to walk away from. Money. Fear of others' judgment.

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Anonymous wrote:Neighborhood/friends. I doubt I'd try a dating site. I do have my eye on somebody at work, but I think although the potential for complications is small (different divisions, equal in terms of level) it is probably a bad idea. Although he is soooo attractive.

This is the worse idea. Don't pop where you eat. Why would you want his wife to confront you.

Heavens. I'd hate to pop, where I eat or anywhere else.

You are funny. Here's your other "o."

The phrase is "don't poop where you sleep". Where did you get "eat" from?

I have always heard eat and not sleep. Oh well, it means the same thing and both are equally as gross.

Tell babies that. They poop, eat, and sleep all within one square foot. Little monsters.
Also, I've heard "eat" never sleep.

The actual saying is: don't poop at work

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Anonymous wrote:Neighborhood/friends. I doubt I'd try a dating site. I do have my eye on somebody at work, but I think although the potential for complications is small (different divisions, equal in terms of level) it is probably a bad idea. Although he is soooo attractive.

This is the worse idea. Don't pop where you eat. Why would you want his wife to confront you.

Heavens. I'd hate to pop, where I eat or anywhere else.

You are funny. Here's your other "o."

The phrase is "don't poop where you sleep". Where did you get "eat" from?

I have always heard eat and not sleep. Oh well, it means the same thing and both are equally as gross.

Tell babies that. They poop, eat, and sleep all within one square foot. Little monsters.
Also, I've heard "eat" never sleep.

The actual saying is: don't poop at work

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=don%27t%20shit%20where%20you%20eat&=true&defid=720678

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Through work but we never worked at the same place.

We became work social-ish acquaintances (occasional lunches), then friends, then after about 4 years, emails turned to an intense emotional affair, which turned physical almost two years ago.

Both of us were what you might call ripe for affairs. We has tough home lives; his wife cut off all sexual contact after menopause, my husband lost sex drive and has big emotional and physical challenges. But neither of us was looking for an affair.

We weren't looking for it but it's impossible to imagine life without it at this point. Life without sex is soul crushing. I'd rather have to give up food and live on tasteless nutrition shakes than live without sex again.

Of course it's messy because you inevitably fall in love with the person who brings intimacy back to your life. But we're good at finding ways and times to be close. We're meeting later today in fact. Jumping out of my skin; it's been 9 days since the last time (had a couple of lunches though and talk every day) and that is far too long. Can't believe I made it years without intimacy before this.

Rediscovering sex after being in a sexless marriage for 20+ year... Was fun. Great Sex. Like teenagers.. mine didn’t last. But now I have a better appreciation for what I have been missing.. And I want to get a divorce so that I can find a partner to spend the rest of my life with.

I hate to say it but that is very sexy.

[Anonymous]

Through a friend. He was hot, younger and married with small kids. I was older and over my DH. He looked starved for affection, and was. Like putty in my hands.

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Anonymous wrote:Through work but we never worked at the same place.

We became work social-ish acquaintances (occasional lunches), then friends, then after about 4 years, emails turned to an intense emotional affair, which turned physical almost two years ago.

Both of us were what you might call ripe for affairs. We has tough home lives; his wife cut off all sexual contact after menopause, my husband lost sex drive and has big emotional and physical challenges. But neither of us was looking for an affair.

We weren't looking for it but it's impossible to imagine life without it at this point. Life without sex is soul crushing. I'd rather have to give up food and live on tasteless nutrition shakes than live without sex again.

Of course it's messy because you inevitably fall in love with the person who brings intimacy back to your life. But we're good at finding ways and times to be close. We're meeting later today in fact. Jumping out of my skin; it's been 9 days since the last time (had a couple of lunches though and talk every day) and that is far too long. Can't believe I made it years without intimacy before this.

For me.. My Kids. I make this huge sacrifice that they will never appreciate

Serious question: why are you still married?

Kids. Extended families. Spouses who have needs that we fill. Decades of life built up that each would have to walk away from. Money. Fear of others' judgment.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how many people are SEEKING out affairs. It's a whole other level of affair.

Did you think they happened as a coincidence. I would think that most guys that are open to an affair are actively looking for them. Married men are very aggressive when it comes to arranging an affair. They have a goal and they will reach the target no matter what it takes. They could teach a few of the single men on how to attract and go after a woman.

I don't think most people are necessarily looking for affairs. Some maybe. But for most people, their marriage and family life has become soul-sucking, for whatever reason, and then they meet this new interesting person who is in a similar situation. And suddenly, life is in color again.

I certainly didn't go out of my way to seek out an affair. But if you look at the big picture you can see and understand what was happening to me and my husband at that time and the years preceding it, and you wouldn't be surprised that I had an affair. It's an escape, a fantasy, a glorious mess.

And the person I had an affair with -- he was not seeking an affair either. Truly, he was not grooming me or attempting to seduce me. Definitely not aggressively pushing an affair on me. He probably put the brakes on more than I did.

You’re delusional. Plenty of people, especially men, actually seek out affairs. And their life at home may be great and not soul sucking at all. They are just selfish people who want it all. And they are aggressive and they pursue affair partners, sometimes more than one, and over and over. I know several people like this unfortunately.

Stop making it all sound so tame. That may have been the case for you in particular but that’s definitely not everyone’s story or necessarily even the norm.

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Anonymous wrote:Through work but we never worked at the same place.

We became work social-ish acquaintances (occasional lunches), then friends, then after about 4 years, emails turned to an intense emotional affair, which turned physical almost two years ago.

Both of us were what you might call ripe for affairs. We has tough home lives; his wife cut off all sexual contact after menopause, my husband lost sex drive and has big emotional and physical challenges. But neither of us was looking for an affair.

We weren't looking for it but it's impossible to imagine life without it at this point. Life without sex is soul crushing. I'd rather have to give up food and live on tasteless nutrition shakes than live without sex again.

Of course it's messy because you inevitably fall in love with the person who brings intimacy back to your life. But we're good at finding ways and times to be close. We're meeting later today in fact. Jumping out of my skin; it's been 9 days since the last time (had a couple of lunches though and talk every day) and that is far too long. Can't believe I made it years without intimacy before this.

For me.. My Kids. I make this huge sacrifice that they will never appreciate

Serious question: why are you still married?

Kids. Extended families. Spouses who have needs that we fill. Decades of life built up that each would have to walk away from. Money. Fear of others' judgment.

You’re affair martyrs??? Lol give me a break. Poor you, no choice but to destroy your marriage vows and be a liar to everyone you know.

Having an affair is the ultimate sham. You present one face to the world but you’re really someone different. You should own up to what you’re doing, put the truth out there, and face the consequences. Otherwise you’re just a sneaky COWARD.

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Yes, I am a sneaky coward

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I am a sneaky coward

And PP is a judgy biyotch. PP: Sorry your husband cheated on you, but you can't possibly know the various individual circumstances that lead some to consider outsourcing. Starvation, for instance, can drive people to extremes.

[Anonymous]

“Ladies”?

Hardly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how many people are SEEKING out affairs. It's a whole other level of affair.

Did you think they happened as a coincidence. I would think that most guys that are open to an affair are actively looking for them. Married men are very aggressive when it comes to arranging an affair. They have a goal and they will reach the target no matter what it takes. They could teach a few of the single men on how to attract and go after a woman.

I don't think most people are necessarily looking for affairs. Some maybe. But for most people, their marriage and family life has become soul-sucking, for whatever reason, and then they meet this new interesting person who is in a similar situation. And suddenly, life is in color again.

I certainly didn't go out of my way to seek out an affair. But if you look at the big picture you can see and understand what was happening to me and my husband at that time and the years preceding it, and you wouldn't be surprised that I had an affair. It's an escape, a fantasy, a glorious mess.

And the person I had an affair with -- he was not seeking an affair either. Truly, he was not grooming me or attempting to seduce me. Definitely not aggressively pushing an affair on me. He probably put the brakes on more than I did.

You’re delusional. Plenty of people, especially men, actually seek out affairs. And their life at home may be great and not soul sucking at all. They are just selfish people who want it all. And they are aggressive and they pursue affair partners, sometimes more than one, and over and over. I know several people like this unfortunately.

Stop making it all sound so tame. That may have been the case for you in particular but that’s definitely not everyone’s story or necessarily even the norm.

I'm certainly not arguing that nobody sets out looking for an affair. I just don't think that is the way it happens most of the time. I know of nobody in the or to find an affair category, and several in the whoops it just happened category. Well, OK, maybe one revenge affair. I think she was seeking out her affair.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Through work but we never worked at the same place.

We became work social-ish acquaintances (occasional lunches), then friends, then after about 4 years, emails turned to an intense emotional affair, which turned physical almost two years ago.

Both of us were what you might call ripe for affairs. We has tough home lives; his wife cut off all sexual contact after menopause, my husband lost sex drive and has big emotional and physical challenges. But neither of us was looking for an affair.

We weren't looking for it but it's impossible to imagine life without it at this point. Life without sex is soul crushing. I'd rather have to give up food and live on tasteless nutrition shakes than live without sex again.

Of course it's messy because you inevitably fall in love with the person who brings intimacy back to your life. But we're good at finding ways and times to be close. We're meeting later today in fact. Jumping out of my skin; it's been 9 days since the last time (had a couple of lunches though and talk every day) and that is far too long. Can't believe I made it years without intimacy before this.

For me.. My Kids. I make this huge sacrifice that they will never appreciate

Serious question: why are you still married?

Kids. Extended families. Spouses who have needs that we fill. Decades of life built up that each would have to walk away from. Money. Fear of others' judgment.

You’re affair martyrs??? Lol give me a break. Poor you, no choice but to destroy your marriage vows and be a liar to everyone you know.

Having an affair is the ultimate sham. You present one face to the world but you’re really someone different. You should own up to what you’re doing, put the truth out there, and face the consequences. Otherwise you’re just a sneaky COWARD.

I actually tried and it was my DW that stopped and created the distance... Not Me! After several “discussions”, she didn’t live up to what a normal role for a DW. I wanted to be a great dad and I have been. There is so much more that will not share because I don’t want people that I know who might be reading this board to know things that they don’t need to know. Bottom line is unless you have walk in my footsteps and know what I have endorsed.. Do not judge me.