I want to meet someone on line, but cannot contact them!

[Anonymous]

Maybe OP is a trump political appointee and doesn’t want the hate mail and news reports!!!!

[Anonymous]

A social media presence is kind of different from online dating. Online dating can be done very anonymously. I have a profile. My pics are private so can't be seen unless I intentionally send them and I have no identifying info on my profile. If I reach out, I still tend to get a response.

Social media is usually more like instagram, Facebook, Twitter etc.

[Anonymous]

I believe that most people on on-line dating sites are men. Therefore, if you are woman and are reaching out to men with a well written introduction as to why your profile does not contain photos and why you are contacting him privately, you should get responses most of the time.

The advice in the previous posts is great regarding how to set up your profile and I suggest settting up an email address you only use for the dating website. Avoid user names like "IamwatchingU" or "Bunnybunner69" (which is my personnal favorite and taken) or the like and you will be good to go.

[Anonymous]

if you are woman and are reaching out to men with a well written introduction as to why your profile does not contain photos and why you are contacting him privately, you should get responses most of the time.

I believe (my guess is) you’re wrong. If you’re doing anything other than posting a normal profile, including a photo showing more than just your head, I’m ignoring. There are plenty of interesting and pretty women who don’t make this process unusually difficult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A social media presence is kind of different from online dating. Online dating can be done very anonymously. I have a profile. My pics are private so can't be seen unless I intentionally send them and I have no identifying info on my profile. If I reach out, I still tend to get a response.

Social media is usually more like instagram, Facebook, Twitter etc.

+1. I have a cousin who is a Secret Service agent and a friend of mine (female) who works for the NSA and I know both of them have used dating sites. Most of these rules are in place to prevent YOU from expressing opinions that don't agree with agency doctrine and/or sensitive to the agencies reputation. They aren't in place to prevent single people from meeting and dating others in their personal life.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, but sending a private message and you have no photo, a guy will think you are desperate. Too hard, too many other women to contact. Too easy to swipe.

OP, sorry, but you will be celibate while you keep this job unless you can get out in the real world. Just too many hot women in this area. And, if you have baggage, like saddlebags and kids, forget it. Just being real here.

[Anonymous]

Agree that you're making it too complicated.

Ex BF was CIA and we met online. He did not have great pictures, but we quickly took it offline. He had very little social media presence, but he did have online dating profiles. Unless you are currently under cover, you should be able to post a picture and a benign description.

[Anonymous]

I do not respond to men who do not have multiple pictures. None says, married or hideous. One says, not them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, I would like to get on a dating website, but my job doesn’t allow me to have a public social media presence. I have friends on the website, do you think they could communicate with a person for me? There is one guy with a cool profile, and if I were to see him in public I would talk to him. Maybe my friend could just say hey, I have a friend..... meet her at ..... He would have nothing to lose.

It is really hard to meet people without an online presence. I am busy and cannot get out there all the time. My job isn’t changing soon. Assuming my friend would even do this, am I nuts? Any suggestions?

Okay first of all...


Second of all, 99.9999% of people online don't use their real names or divulge any personal information (i.e. not having an identifiable public social media presence).
If you follow that popular/conventional protocol in creating a profile you should be fine. The only thing that would alert anyone that it's you is pictures and you can simply indicate that you don't wish to post a picture but will be willing to share one upon getting to know someone. Having your friends do the communicating for you is just...

Yeah.

[Anonymous]

OP is Trump person who is too scared to get on line! Didn't someone from the Trump administration have their dating profile exposed?

[Anonymous]

The guy may think you are either a scammer or someone playing around w/him so I wouldn’t recommend it at all.