
Thanks - it's good to get external validation. MIL seems pleasant and normal, so I'm often caught off-guard. As soon as I relax, she corners me and says crazy and insulting things (in her "I'm going to speak so quietly that you'll have to strain to listen to me" voice). Like the time she wanted to hang up a lovely professional photo we had taken of DD. Except she decided not to display it, in the end, because in the photo DD looked like (and I quote) "kidnapping bait". I have a friend who has a truly disturbed and toxic MIL. Sometimes I think I would prefer that to the stealth poison thing my MIL has going on. |
My monster in law likes to pretend I a not even talking or in the room. Even if I directly address her like "Oh (name) this chicken salad is delicious" She ignores the compliment and that I was even talking. It's comical at this point. |
My MIL was staying with us, and was alone in our apt. all day while DH and I were at work. So, I get back from work to find out that she has polished all of my silver with pieces of lime!
I had never heard of this before, so I looked it up online and it turns out that lime actually ruins the silver and creates pock marks. I was livid! |
According to my mother in law, I caused my child's severe acid reflux because:
1) I had a breast reduction surgery 2) I had a dog that I brought into our family She told my husband that! |
Mine told my DH (when we got engaged) that he should make sure my name wasn't on the deed of our house because she didn't know if he could trust me. She advised him to keep all our money separate as I was possibly just after his money. Right.
Fast forward a few years. I single handedly supported our family for over a year after he was laid off from his job, and I am by far the bigger earner in our family (I make literally 5x what he makes). I am dying to ask her...Should I take his name off the deed to the house? Or separate our bank accounts? How do I know he's not just after my money? Bitch. |
My MIL told my 5 year old daughter that it was her own fault that she gets colds and has asthma because her mother lets her go barefoot in the house. |
My MIL comes to my house and brings a cooler to take any leftovers and raids my fridge and pantry. It was worse in the beginning, she used to say stuff like, oh what a pretty vase, can I have it? UGH! After 10 years, she now leaves the cooler in the car and only takes things if I offer it to her....we have come a long way (bc I am the bitchy daughter in law that doesnt let it go) but she still gets on my nerves along with my own mom.
My mom brings food to my house all the time and is the complete opposite - but she always makes comments how she knew how to raise her kids right and I have no control over my son whenever he doesnt feel like being smothered my her. |
Mine got really, really angry at DH when he told her he planned to spend his birthday with me (oh, and I was 8 months pregnant) rather than with her and his dad. She bitched him out that he wasn't spending his birthday with his "real family".
I feel so loved and welcomed by them. |
I was all set to put in a story but after reading everyone else's posts I don't have a good one. I'm feeling pretty lucky now. |
My MIL is sure we're going to h*ll because I let the kids watch Harry Potter. |
Wait, I thought of one although it's nothing in comparison. MIL talks to me through the baby when I'm doing something she doesn't like.
"Maybe next mama will do it THIS way." "Maybe next time mama will heat up my food in the microwave." "Maybe next time mama will use more soap in the bath." I have not resorted to answering her through the baby, but it has been tempting. I just ignore her which probably makes her even madder. |
DD was a preemie. MIL was angry that we refused to fly out of the country with DD to visit her. I told MIL she just came home from the NICU last week and only weighs 4 lbs, plane travel is not an option right now. Her response, we were overreacting. DH was also a preemie and only 4lbs and she flew to visit her husband's family. DH has his birth certificate, he weighed 8 lbs at birth. |
Maybe she confused pounds with kilograms. My mother did, and when she finally came all relaxed to visit DC after he left the NICU, her jaw dropped at how frail and tiny he was. She literally shook all through that memorable evening... My sweet mother-in-law is a charming lady. My mother is something else ENTIRELY. |
Christ almighty where do these people come from?
My MIL has her annoying points (doesn't everyone) but I feel like I hit the jackpot after reading these. Hands down, however, the winner so far is the loaded handgun poster. I would have gone APESHIT! That is putting it mildly. |
My MIL expects to be driven around (or have one of our cars handed to her for weeks on end when she visits), to have us pay for everything, and not to lift a finger to help us when she's in town. And she makes me miserable. But I don't think she has a loaded handgun. ![]() |