People in couples: would you hang out with a single person?
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Anonymous
| Yes of course. My best friend is a single woman and we regularly have her over for dinner. |
Anonymous
| all the time. we have a bunch of couples and kids who hang out regularly and one parents is single. Makes no difference. Also a lot of my closest girlfriends are childfree and/single. I love spending time with them and hope they never feel unwelcome at "couple" or family activities. |
Anonymous
There is this. But as a person in the single or just 'dating' category for a long while I noticed my friends would not make any sort of effort to hang out solo. It was both or no go. |
Anonymous
| It has made absolutely no difference to my life. I got divorced last year and still hang out with the same friends. |
Anonymous
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Fwiw, I'm a divorced dad. Since my divorce, I've had several parties at my house, at which I invited various couples that I know through my son's school. I've also had some of them over for dinner. They've never invited me to anything back. Part of that is likely because I'm not especially likeable. (I'm nice and kind but not especially charasmatic.) Part of that is likely that they tend to be very busy. But another part of that could be the reticence to hang out with single people, especially single guys. This is in contrast to my squash buddies that frequently invite me to stuff, as well as other single parents. I think there is something about the parental-couple dynamic that makes it a bit more awkward.
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Anonymous
| Of course. |
Anonymous
It’s different for guys. Especially the older ones. I was surprised at how different it was post divorce. No wonder guys try and get remarried. |
Anonymous
| A friend of mine recently divorced, and DH and I hang out with her as a couple/family all the time. I also hang out with her 1:1, and we also have a group of women that all hang out. TBH, even when she was married often for one reason or the other it would end up just her coming to hang out with DH...so it's not much of a transition. In retrospect, maybe that should have been a clue to their marital issues... |
Anonymous
| Of course! |
Anonymous
| Yes, I do. Most of the women I know who aren’t married also don’t have kids, so they don’t have the same commitments I do and we have less in common. It doesn’t mean, we couldn’t be friends, it simply means we’d have to have other shared interests. So, given it seems you have kids, I don’t know why your marital status would get in the way. |
Anonymous
| I've been divorced for about 3 years and have remained close with all of my friends. But I have noticed that I don't have the opportunity to host/attend couple-type dinner or cocktail parties like I did pre-divorce. I find that I have to make more of an effort to get together for night time events, and when I do it ends up being a "girls night" kind of thing, rather than a couples thing. So yes, I have noticed a difference. |
Anonymous
| Of course! We might try to set you up.... |
Anonymous
Of course we do. I never let people down, single or not 
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Anonymous
| Anecdotally OP, as a single mom I had a really hard time making friends. Most of my friends aren’t parents as a result. I think it was a combination of me being young (24 when ds was born), and single. Particularly in the DC area most moms were in their mid 30s and had no interest in being my friend. It’s not that I’m not likeable, it’s that they are cliquey. I moved when ds was 3 to DC, and once school started it got easier (I chose a school that’s not exclusive and where the DCUM crowd would never consider - it’s warm and welcoming though and ds has thrived), but I also made a lot of non-parent friends over time. |
Anonymous
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I have friends who are single, divorced , widowed, and married.
Sometimes I find it easier to be friends with people who are single, especially if they have kids. |