To the Men out there.... What can I do...

[Anonymous]

I tend to think that the people who jump on every one who mentions the love languages and tells them that that is “pop psych crap” Probably aren’t that familiar with what the love languages actually are. It’s basically just a more structured way of evaluating what your partner prioritizes and help you to brainstorm ways to express affection that will really resonate.

As an example, my mom and dad fell in love because they share the love language of physical touch. They ended up divorced because their other to love languages were very different (my mom valued words of affirmation and my dad values gifts). As a result, my dad would spend a ton of time carefully finding the perfect present for my mom only for her to bitch and complain and he found it incredibly hurtful. Likewise, my mom would go out of her way to fish for compliments and if he didn’t respond the way she wanted, she would feel hurt and betrayed.

For me, it is helpful to acknowledge that one of my kids also values touch highly and the other one is a gift person. I try to be extra careful to fill both of those needs so that they get the love they want in a way that connects with them.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, honesty.

[Anonymous]

You really should ask your DH, not "men" of dcum.

[Anonymous]

Get a boobjob

[Anonymous]

Surprise him in the shower.
Rub his back.
Rub his front.

[Anonymous]

If he’s a reader, read the book he’s reading and engage in dialogue. Blow jobs, sex, showers are great too, but you’ve got to engage his mind to maintain the fire.

Chemistry is mainly animal with a peppering of mutual intellectual pursuits.

[Anonymous]

tell him you are sorry about your actions last year, that you love him and lots of sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You really should ask your DH, not "men" of dcum.

The board has spoken.

[Anonymous]

Spend a weekend doing whatever he wants. Tell him how much you appreciate him,. Tell him he is a great dad and husband and that are lucky. Compliment him. Make it all about him for a couple days.

[Anonymous]

With my spouse, admiration, affection, attention, good food and sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

To answer this first, you need to know what his top 2 love languages are.

No, no, no, men don't care about that shit.

Initiate sex yourself. Enthusiastically accept when he initiates.

+1 We don't have a frickin "love language."

+2

When my wife told me that there's no sex and b j love language I knew it was bunk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get a boobjob

No

[Anonymous]

3-way with escort of his choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

To answer this first, you need to know what his top 2 love languages are.

No, no, no, men don't care about that shit.

Initiate sex yourself. Enthusiastically accept when he initiates.

+1 We don't have a frickin "love language."

+2

When my wife told me that there's no sex and b j love language I knew it was bunk.

That would be the “physical touch” love language. So yes, it exists. My love languages are quality time and physical touch is second. Both are incredibly important to me (and yes, sex is important to me and I’m female).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:to show my man that I regret being a moody wench for the past year (while I was dealing with major health issues and being ungrateful while balancing our kids) now that I can exhale and see just how lucky I am. Yes, frequent sex and all the extra trappings. I know that part. Got that down. I am in good shape, so we are ok there too. I am looking for other ways. What really makes you feel awesome from your wife? What do you wish she would do (other than the sex arena) that she does not do currently or often enough? Want to be a bit more creative. He deserves it.

I think just frequent sex and blow mobs would do the trick. If you’re doing that, you’re good.