I just turned 40 and my DH tells me he loves me but doesn’t feel the same

[Anonymous]

You need to prioritize your marriage. Get babysitters to watch the kids and go out regularly. Dress up and groom yourself properly. Do things together, not just with mommy and daddy and kids. It’s easy to get complacent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My guess is that he has grown distant due to the nagging. Have you looked at yourself to see if you deserve to be treated the same way now as you did when you first met him?

My guess is you're a selfish man-child who resents having a family and now you're projecting it onto two people you don't know based on one comment. Sorry you suck, PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My guess is that he has grown distant due to the nagging. Have you looked at yourself to see if you deserve to be treated the same way now as you did when you first met him?

I bet after the kids came he felt completely ignored. Can you blame him for feeling different? He's being treated different. Make sense?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP. Did he explain what he meant?

We have been fighting a lot, have toddlers, and feels like we have grown apart a little. I didn’t expect this. I take it as he has fallen out of love with me and no longer had feeling .

Fighting about what? Why do people post and give zero details?

We relocated across the country, he has constant work travel and I gave up my job as a result of the move. We’re way better off financially but I miss my old life. He thinks I should be happy with our new lifestyle because of the money.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP. Did he explain what he meant?

We have been fighting a lot, have toddlers, and feels like we have grown apart a little. I didn’t expect this. I take it as he has fallen out of love with me and no longer had feeling .

Fighting about what? Why do people post and give zero details?

We relocated across the country, he has constant work travel and I gave up my job as a result of the move. We’re way better off financially but I miss my old life. He thinks I should be happy with our new lifestyle because of the money.

Looks like I was right about the nagging. Now how do you all like that?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP. Did he explain what he meant?

We have been fighting a lot, have toddlers, and feels like we have grown apart a little. I didn’t expect this. I take it as he has fallen out of love with me and no longer had feeling .

Fighting about what? Why do people post and give zero details?

We relocated across the country, he has constant work travel and I gave up my job as a result of the move. We’re way better off financially but I miss my old life. He thinks I should be happy with our new lifestyle because of the money.

Looks like I was right about the nagging. Now how do you all like that?

Crickets

[Anonymous]

Why are you people so mean?! OP, you need to communicate that you are unhappy with the move regardless of the money. It's not fair that you had to give up something your job and live because of what he valued (money). Now he's acting like it's your fault. Not cool.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My guess is that he has grown distant due to the nagging. Have you looked at yourself to see if you deserve to be treated the same way now as you did when you first met him?

I bet after the kids came he felt completely ignored. Can you blame him for feeling different? He's being treated different. Make sense?

yes because men are just big babies who need mommy's attention, like all babies do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP. Did he explain what he meant?

We have been fighting a lot, have toddlers, and feels like we have grown apart a little. I didn’t expect this. I take it as he has fallen out of love with me and no longer had feeling .

Fighting about what? Why do people post and give zero details?

We relocated across the country, he has constant work travel and I gave up my job as a result of the move. We’re way better off financially but I miss my old life. He thinks I should be happy with our new lifestyle because of the money.

red flags... make sure he is not having an affair.

[Anonymous]

Op, who wanted the kids more?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My guess is that he has grown distant due to the nagging. Have you looked at yourself to see if you deserve to be treated the same way now as you did when you first met him?

I bet after the kids came he felt completely ignored. Can you blame him for feeling different? He's being treated different. Make sense?

yes because men are just big babies who need mommy's attention, like all babies do.

So much not the woman's needs are important. Gotcha.
#womenlogic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My guess is that he has grown distant due to the nagging. Have you looked at yourself to see if you deserve to be treated the same way now as you did when you first met him?

I bet after the kids came he felt completely ignored. Can you blame him for feeling different? He's being treated different. Make sense?

yes because men are just big babies who need mommy's attention, like all babies do.

Wow! Someone who really doesn’t want a relationship is hanging out on a relationship forum for no damn good reason.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You need a babysitter and more time together away from the kids. And if the youngest child is at least 1 year old, more sex.

+1

+a million. This is always the case.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP. Did he explain what he meant?

We have been fighting a lot, have toddlers, and feels like we have grown apart a little. I didn’t expect this. I take it as he has fallen out of love with me and no longer had feeling .

Fighting about what? Why do people post and give zero details?

We relocated across the country, he has constant work travel and I gave up my job as a result of the move. We’re way better off financially but I miss my old life. He thinks I should be happy with our new lifestyle because of the money.

red flags... make sure he is not having an affair.

OP here. I’ve sowmtimes wondered this. If it’s not a physical affair maybe an emotional one. At home he sits in front of the TV, doesn’t interact with me beyond kids, and never inquired about my day or work.

[Anonymous]

sounds like you have a pretty toxic dynamic and maybe a counselor can help you guys sort through everything. my guess is that both of you have equal grounds to complain and both of you are equally in the wrong. this is important to internalize so that there is imbalance in coming up with a plan/way to get your marriage back on track.