Would you care if your 15-17 yo daughter had 10k or 20k followers on instagram?
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Anonymous
| Maybe their parents are thinking that their DD’s are becoming adults and their own people separate from them ? Novel concept, I know. |
Anonymous
And why are we only discussing ‘daughters’ here? |
Anonymous
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Hell no. That's asking to be stalked or harassed or worse and objectified at a minimum.
The only girls who have that many followers allow anyone to follow them (accounts are not private) and are attention seeking for all the wrong reasons and in the wrong ways. I'd be pissed at myself that I had so f*ed up raising my daughter if she ended up like that. Same goes for younger girls with multiple thousands of followers - like an 8th grader I know who has 5,000 and constantly posts overly sexualized pics in bathing suits and other skimpy clothing. Noone is dumb , we all know what someone like that is all about and why. |
Anonymous
OMG this is exactly what they are. Perfect phrase. So yeah, Id be really really upset but I'd also be really really stupid and I'm not. I have full access to my teenage DD's account and she has all the privacy settings activated. |
Anonymous
| No, you shouldn't be. As long as there is no very revealing photo and she isn't posting the location of where you guys live it's totally fine. My daughter has an Instagram and has about a 1,000 followers when I asked her about it she says she has her account on private and she only lets people she knows to follow her or mutual friends. |
Anonymous
That was my thought too. I will qualify this by saying that I only have sons, no daughters, but NO, I would not be ok with that. I'm 43 years old and I wouldn't be ok with having 10k unknown followers, myself. |
Anonymous
| Yes. I don't want her to be so shallow as to want that. You can't put it on a college application either. |
Anonymous
Yes, some do. Particularly if they have an older, college-aged sister. I know a 15-year-old like this. Granddaughter of a well-known person, parents are very socially-active but have done little themselves besides inherit a name and some money. Known her since she was a (very sweet) little girl. Understand now why many scions of wealthy, famous families can have so many problems themselves. Very sad. |
Anonymous
+1. I'd be upset if my minor child's online presence involved age-inappropriate photos or risky behavior such as revealing their home address. Otherwise, it wouldn't bother me. If my kid can amass that much of a following, with appropriate content, good for them. Even better for them if they can monetize it. |
Anonymous
| No. My 15 year old started to have a big following and when I showed her the profiles of the men who were following her...lots of really unsavory looking older men, men with pages of dick pics etc...she was completely grossed out and decided to delete her page and make a new private one. |
Anonymous
I think it's important that kids that age understand the concept of having a pen name, and I'd try to make sure they understood the possible consequences of being famous for the wrong reasons. But the choice is really theirs to make; I don't think there's a practical, effective way for most parents in a big, modern city to control this. You can try to educate, but you can't control what happens on the computer in the public library. |
Anonymous
Good job mom! |
Anonymous
Lol! Well said. |
Anonymous
She knows 1,000 people as a teen? Very likely a thot. |
Anonymous
| People don’t follow her because they actually care. Kids get their numbers this high by following fake “follow for follow” accounts and other nonsense to appear that popular. The genuinely popular level headed teens I know are typically in the 800 range. |