DH and buying our first home

[Anonymous]

three way all day, whatta ya say?

[Anonymous]

Just like a common stripper, it is highly likely that your realtor only wants what’s in your husband’s pocket.

His wallet.

Is this a legit post??
I think I read one similar within the last month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn't that the real estate firm of Dewey, Cheatum, and Howe? Motto- 'We screw everybody- once!"

I think you mean CFM Realty, whose top producer, Ima Slut, sold herself over 500 times last year!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got annoyed after these 3 meetings with the realtor and told me DH that he should act in a polite, friendly but emotionally reserved way to woman he meets for business. I mean, especially if I am there. After that he started ccing me on all e-mails and surprisingly or not the realtor stopped writing in length with DH, stopped writing emotional things such as "sorry about the loss but we'll find the right one", and when I tried asking her a question for the first time through e-mail she gave me a very basic short answer.

Thoughts?

What’s the problem? She was being overly flirty with your DH and he was playing the game. You called it out with him and now he is to the point/not engaging and keeping you in the loop. What more are you looking for? If you wanted a realtor that would hold your hand thru the process and not your DH, you either didn’t pick the right realtor or as you said you didn’t begin the way you meant to go on by having your DH initiate all the initial contact/correspondence.

At the point, you need to make the best of working with this realtor. You made the decision to hire her same as your husband and you don’t want to come off like nothing will make you happy. If her very basic, short answer did not answer your question, either ask a follow-up question via email or pick up the phone and have a conversation to get the information you need. I remember with my first house I had questions about details in the settlement paperwork and the settlement attorney was trying to push me off with “oh this is standard language...” I was insistent that I needed to understand what I was signing because I was the one on the hook for what I sign. Not only could they not argue with that, I feel like that was part of the service they were being paid for. It wasn’t this dramatic thing, I was very matter of fact.

[Anonymous]

Sorry everyone’s being so rude OP.

I’d have a problem too. Being friendly and charming is one thing, flirty is another. I think it’s rude to flirt with a married man in front of his wife, I don’t care if you’re trying to sell him a piece of jewelry for his wife, just don’t do it.

I’d get a new realtor and ask that DH not engage if something like that ever happened again. It’s not about insecurity, it’s about respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry everyone’s being so rude OP.

I’d have a problem too. Being friendly and charming is one thing, flirty is another. I think it’s rude to flirt with a married man in front of his wife, I don’t care if you’re trying to sell him a piece of jewelry for his wife, just don’t do it.

I’d get a new realtor and ask that DH not engage if something like that ever happened again. It’s not about insecurity, it’s about respect.

Thanks to any reasonable answers and sympathy. I agree, it's about respect. I can't understand why any business professional would act in that way towards a married man. At the end of the day I realized that I need to communicate to my DH my concerns and expectations. Prior to this experience, most women I've/we've worked with were very respectful and had strong boundaries....pediatricians, doctors, teachers, even the damn cashiers are emotionally reserved. Our realtor is loosey goosey, flirtatious, emotional supportive towards men and very available. Really, if I think about it her job sets up a situation where an emotional affair or an affair could easily happen for her. All these e-mails back and forth, being constantly available to meet up at all times to show homes, being flirty and laughing at everything, dressing sexy, ugh. Over it.

[Anonymous]

You sound incredibly insecure and controlling. Maybe hold off on buying a home for now because if you’re this wacko when there’s a female around doing her job I don’t see it lasting too long.

[Anonymous]

This is the biggest purchase you are going to make. You both need to be able to trust the person who is selling you the property. Just because you have invested some time with this agent, you can interview other people and find someone you mutually agree on. This can be a stressful process, but there are some stresses that you can greatly reduce or eliminate. If you are sensing flags, I think it is important to get a new realtor.