My husband keeps going on camping vacations by himself.

[Anonymous]

Does he have a camper/RV, or is this in a tent?

[Anonymous]

OR maybe he just wants to get away from it all

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/travel/comment/why-being-bored-is-the-new-travel-trend/

[Anonymous]

As a guy, I'd love that idea of going away to camp and escape life

It does not necessarily mean he is cheating

Is he withdrawing a lot from ATMs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a guy, I'd love that idea of going away to camp and escape life

It does not necessarily mean he is cheating

Is he withdrawing a lot from ATMs?

Do you have children?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know. I'm suspicious, especially since he's announced he's spending next week at a state park in Florida. He's gone on several camping trips solo or with male friends in the past year. I'm not invited. He's not into hunting or fishing. He shows no interest in planning shared vacations and frankly, I'm getting tired of topping up our checking account after every one of these trips, which run up expenses, even though he's camping. He pays no attention whatsoever to the costs and ran account dry during his long trip last August. So what would you do?

OP, do you have children with this man? And/or are they all grown?

[Anonymous]

Well, don't you two talk about it? Does he understand that usually couples take vacations together, and that a marriage means togetherness? You need to have a hard conversation with him, no necessarily about what he does when he's by himself, but why he thinks it's OK to spend so much time without you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a guy, I'd love that idea of going away to camp and escape life

It does not necessarily mean he is cheating

Is he withdrawing a lot from ATMs?

Do you have children?

No but I'm married. I don't see myself wanting to do it this often without my wife though

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Camping was the excuse to head up to Brokeback Mtn.

+1000 I thought this was the obvious reference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know. I'm suspicious, especially since he's announced he's spending next week at a state park in Florida. He's gone on several camping trips solo or with male friends in the past year. I'm not invited. He's not into hunting or fishing. He shows no interest in planning shared vacations and frankly, I'm getting tired of topping up our checking account after every one of these trips, which run up expenses, even though he's camping. He pays no attention whatsoever to the costs and ran account dry during his long trip last August. So what would you do?

OP, do you have children with this man? And/or are they all grown?

Our children are grown. We have grandchildren.

[Anonymous]

If he's gone all the time, there's your chance to start figuring out a more satisfying social life without him. If you like your couples friends, invite them to go out when he's not around, or just invite the women. Or, make new friends. That will be good for you whether you decide to stay married or eventually leave.

[Anonymous]

Dementia?

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP. Find your own hobbies. Prioritize yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are the expenses?

Either he is really into solitude...or he has another missus.

Or mister.

+1

[Anonymous]

Hire a PI to follow him on your next trip.

[Anonymous]

OP, why would you assume that your DH is going to happy with the status quo forever? Brokeback Mountain, or Gov. Sanford on the Appalachian Trail, notwithstanding, this is not the 1950s and presumably your DH isn't a governor worried about the next election. At some point, maybe your DH decides the hell with camping, he wants whatever he's getting to be his normal, everyday life, not just his vacation fling.

You would be well-advised to figure out what his and your assets and consult a divorce attorney. It's not going to get any better if you wait until he makes a decision and springs something on you.

You don't have to get divorced, or even confront your husband, just because you talk to an attorney and get a picture of what your rights and obligations would be in a divorce, and how you might go about acting now to protect yourself in that eventuality.

I'd also go to your gynecologist and get a full STD panel, assuming you and your husband still have sex when he's not off "camping."

But you do need to take your head out of the sand and make decisions. It's your life, and you need to take charge of it.