If you're a married man in an open relationship...

[Anonymous]

Is the dude good looking and how old is he. I mean, that’s sort of an important question.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your male friend was a fool for seeking out a single woman for NSA sex. That is mission impossible for most married men. Now that he's divorced, I bet he is easily finding 3 different women per week. So his problem is solved.

For a married man in open relationship, the only chance is with other married women. In fact these odds are quite good, because nearly every married woman is just like your friends ex-wife: not interested in sex with her husband. This boredom with her husband makes married women an easy target for any other man: just show her some attention that she's been craving and watch her sex drive bounce right back! For this reason, most married men have far better luck with random married women versus his own wife.

If a man has problems finding NSA sex, no wonder he has no sex at home.

Yes, they do have problems and they risk being outed by single people.

Outed? Open relationship, what's to be outed about? It's very easy to find NSA sex. If a person has a problem with it, maybe he/she should look at the root of the problem aka self. It is most likely the reason for no sex at home too.

They don't have open relationships, its a dadt policy. There are very few open relationships where the eife wouldnt be embarrassed by running into her husband and his mistress.

[Anonymous]

OP, it sounds like the guy isn't very appealing--some combination of physically unattractive, socially awkward/creepy, and without enough money/power to offset it.

He also may have overly high standards for partners. Women with good self esteem, ethics, and good mental health are unlikely to want to get involved with a married man, even if he shows them a signed note from his wife that he's free to play.

[Anonymous]

Even for those married men that are powerful, good looking, or have money, there is a trade off . . . And it is the exchange of money. Either he is bedding different women at each encounter, or he is paying for something; vacations, rent, tuition, etc. These arrangements aren't free.

[Anonymous]

And now that craigslist has shutdown their personals, these men will need an additional avenue to cheat. Tinder is full of scammers now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: For this reason, most married men have far better luck with random married women versus his own wife.

As a married woman with a dead bedroom, how do I let a man know I am interested without coming out and saying it?

Next time you are sitting next to a guy at a social occasion, rest your hand on his thigh. The message will be loud and clear.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your male friend was a fool for seeking out a single woman for NSA sex. That is mission impossible for most married men. Now that he's divorced, I bet he is easily finding 3 different women per week. So his problem is solved.

For a married man in open relationship, the only chance is with other married women. In fact these odds are quite good, because nearly every married woman is just like your friends ex-wife: not interested in sex with her husband. This boredom with her husband makes married women an easy target for any other man: just show her some attention that she's been craving and watch her sex drive bounce right back! For this reason, most married men have far better luck with random married women versus his own wife.

If a man has problems finding NSA sex, no wonder he has no sex at home.

Yes, they do have problems and they risk being outed by single people.

Outed? Open relationship, what's to be outed about? It's very easy to find NSA sex. If a person has a problem with it, maybe he/she should look at the root of the problem aka self. It is most likely the reason for no sex at home too.

They don't have open relationships, its a dadt policy. There are very few open relationships where the eife wouldnt be embarrassed by running into her husband and his mistress.

That's called "how to create a problem where it doesn't exist". Again, finding discrete NSA sex is easy, very easy. If one can't find it then he/she is either not looking or something is wrong with him/her and I suggest to spend time on fixing it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your male friend was a fool for seeking out a single woman for NSA sex. That is mission impossible for most married men. Now that he's divorced, I bet he is easily finding 3 different women per week. So his problem is solved.

For a married man in open relationship, the only chance is with other married women. In fact these odds are quite good, because nearly every married woman is just like your friends ex-wife: not interested in sex with her husband. This boredom with her husband makes married women an easy target for any other man: just show her some attention that she's been craving and watch her sex drive bounce right back! For this reason, most married men have far better luck with random married women versus his own wife.

If a man has problems finding NSA sex, no wonder he has no sex at home.

Yes, they do have problems and they risk being outed by single people.

Outed? Open relationship, what's to be outed about? It's very easy to find NSA sex. If a person has a problem with it, maybe he/she should look at the root of the problem aka self. It is most likely the reason for no sex at home too.

They don't have open relationships, its a dadt policy. There are very few open relationships where the eife wouldnt be embarrassed by running into her husband and his mistress.

That's called "how to create a problem where it doesn't exist". Again, finding discrete NSA sex is easy, very easy. If one can't find it then he/she is either not looking or something is wrong with him/her and I suggest to spend time on fixing it.

This only works for one-offs. This guy might want a relationship with a person outside of his marriage. A married woman might be able to provide more stability and frequent encounters, he clearly doesn't want that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your male friend was a fool for seeking out a single woman for NSA sex. That is mission impossible for most married men. Now that he's divorced, I bet he is easily finding 3 different women per week. So his problem is solved.

For a married man in open relationship, the only chance is with other married women. In fact these odds are quite good, because nearly every married woman is just like your friends ex-wife: not interested in sex with her husband. This boredom with her husband makes married women an easy target for any other man: just show her some attention that she's been craving and watch her sex drive bounce right back! For this reason, most married men have far better luck with random married women versus his own wife.

If a man has problems finding NSA sex, no wonder he has no sex at home.

Yes, they do have problems and they risk being outed by single people.

Outed? Open relationship, what's to be outed about? It's very easy to find NSA sex. If a person has a problem with it, maybe he/she should look at the root of the problem aka self. It is most likely the reason for no sex at home too.

They don't have open relationships, its a dadt policy. There are very few open relationships where the eife wouldnt be embarrassed by running into her husband and his mistress.

That's called "how to create a problem where it doesn't exist". Again, finding discrete NSA sex is easy, very easy. If one can't find it then he/she is either not looking or something is wrong with him/her and I suggest to spend time on fixing it.

This only works for one-offs. This guy might want a relationship with a person outside of his marriage. A married woman might be able to provide more stability and frequent encounters, he clearly doesn't want that.

I suggest to start with learning how to tie your shoes. You want problems, you get problems.

[Anonymous]

PP, your standards are low.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP, your standards are low.

My standards for NSA are good sex, good body, great chemistry and a normal human being. I am not building a life together. Looks like you are looking for a new spouse instead, while making the same mistakes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PP, your standards are low.

My standards for NSA are good sex, good body, great chemistry and a normal human being. I am not building a life together. Looks like you are looking for a new spouse instead, while making the same mistakes.

I am not the OP, nor the person that she was writing about. Congrats on finding exactly what you were looking for, so many married men cannot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP, your standards are low.

My standards for NSA are good sex, good body, great chemistry and a normal human being. I am not building a life together. Looks like you are looking for a new spouse instead, while making the same mistakes.

I am not the OP, nor the person that she was writing about. Congrats on finding exactly what you were looking for, so many married men cannot.

Maybe they should focus on their marriage then. People complain about everything now. It's a bizarre complaint: I want to cheat and can't find a partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your male friend was a fool for seeking out a single woman for NSA sex. That is mission impossible for most married men. Now that he's divorced, I bet he is easily finding 3 different women per week. So his problem is solved.

This. When I was married, I had permission but rarely opportunity other than a half dozen times or so while traveling.

Now that I'm divorced, have my own place and half the evenings free, it's never been easier.

[Anonymous]

It is NOT tat hard to find a woman for sex if you are a man with a pass. I was in that situation for nearly 8 years and it really surprised me. I've posted before that, I only went after woman who were attached and never tried to seduce a single woman or lie to anyone that I was married. What I found:

Of the 20 or so woman I was with half were single. The single women were the ones who approached me. A few of them made it very clear to me that there are plenty of single women who would be fine with my arrangement.

Of the married women I was with, the best situations were with woman who had more experience with this than I did. A few I was with had cheated through nearly their entire marriage. The first time cheaters can really present a problem, become too attached, too needy, and/or not very good at being discreet and covering their tracks.

I met a few women who told me right out that they did NOT like the fact that my marriage was open and it really turned her of that my wife knew if I was out with her. And a few that wouldn't even meet for the same reason. They preferred someone who was cheating. I came to understand that.

Bottom line for your "friend." Putting it out there that you are in an open marriage is going to make it tough. It's best to mention that later on. If he rejects getting with married or attached women, he is really cutting his chances of finding anyone and I'e really got to question that reasoning. That said, some single women are fine with this arrangement, for a short while anyway. As in in-between boyfriends.

No matter what you'e heard, AshleyMadison is still an ideal place to find someone. It's been better now than before their security breach.