| sorry- students from other community organizations* |
| I'm curious OP - why continue on with RDs at other institutions if you got in SCEA Harvard? It's expensive, time-consuming, nail-biting, an enormous hassle and a stressor on your kid. I don't get it. |
I see nothing wrong with a successful senior benchmarking that success by applying to other Top Ivies. |
| Except if your kid was a classmate who really wanted to go to one of those other schools. Sometimeys it is kind to be considerate of others. |
| 5 to Williams from our class of 120 and all athletes |
That's the kid who will end up without close friends and other families for future recommendations and network. What people don't think about is greediness leads them to be viewed as selfish, inconsiderate and either not very smart about or blundering their social collateral. With all the early hooks, seldom would most view entry as the sign of a senior being successful purely on academic merit so what is that benchmark worth? What will be noted and remembered is the lack of character. Families who do this are forever remarked upon as lacking graciousness and not to be trusted. And in your case it didn't work so your DC's H success is not going to be attributed to merit at all on her part. The most successful families we know do not do this. |
Without info on your race, socioeconomics, first-gem status, geographic location and more details on your national awards, no one can say for sure if this is brutal or not. Also there are all sorts of types of national awards, some super legit and incredibly hard to get, others kinda meh. |
Hm, if you cannot pay for several applications, then you probably cannot pay for ivy. My kid applied to 16 colleges, got to two Ivies so far. It is not stressful for a smart child to submit that amount of applications. If it is causing stress and nail biting, maybe it is not the right place for your child. As to the time consuming, most preparation is done in summer. All tests wwere completed at 11 grade. |
Trust me, no one will even remember, let alone nurse a grudge. Do you remember who applied to which college back in High school? If you do, I would think you were a bit psycho. |
| Believe me, if I had my heart set on Yale, for example, and one of my classmates got into Harvard SCEA and wanted to “benchmark his success” by applying to Yale also, even though he had no intention of going there, and he was the only one accepted to Yale out of my entire school, you can be darned sure I would remember that and think he was a jerk whenever his name came up forever after. |
| I am surprised that the counselors allowed it. Had a kid in our class who got into HYP during SCEA and wanted to apply to all ivies during RD - counselor put a stop to it and only allowed one IVY as kid wanted to compare financial aid. |
The families of the class remember their impress of the kid and the family. And it's not years down the road. It's early as internships and first jobs out of college. |
Depends on school policy. At our school it is discouraged but they won't intercede if a parent is insistent. |
| Can people stop with the “we” ... your child is going to college not you. I went to college in the late 90s and there is no way in hell my parents or my friends parents would ever have used “we.” Are you besties with your kids too? |
+1. That's the point behind SCEA. |