Bad teen party with my cousin 30 years ago

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I want my cousin to have some clarity that if her teen daughter calls her at a horrible party where people are getting high and drunk and she asks to pick her up, that she will get her.

If you think your cousin won't do that, can you give her daughter your number and tell her she is always welcome to call you? You are a good cousin to be concerned about her.

This, notice you called your aunt not your mom. Let her daughter call YOU.

I called my aunt because I was spending the weekend at my cousin's house. My aunt is my cousin's mother. My aunt was supposed to be the adult responsible for watching me, my cousin (her daughter ) and another girl cousin.

My mother would have jumped in her car to get us if I called her but my parents lived 45 minutes away. This was before cell phones. I was only 15. You're right. I should have called my mother to get us when my aunt didn't take me seriously.

[Anonymous]

This has to be a joke.

[Anonymous]

What is your point, OP?

[Anonymous]

This post makes zero sense. Did I miss something about the party story, like someone dying or ruining their life and going to jaul because of OP or the cousin? It was 30 years ago!

[Anonymous]

Op, she may very well think what her mom did was wrong. Especially now that she's older and has a kid. But some people arent the type to say bad things about a parent. She may agree with you, but feels she has to defend her mom so acts like she doesn't think it's a big deal.

You sound oddly hung up on something that happened 30 years ago. I'm sorry about that.

[Anonymous]

The party had great magnitude/left a huge mark on OP. OP needs to process that. That is happening here.

[Anonymous]

Freak.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I want my cousin to have some clarity that if her teen daughter calls her at a horrible party where people are getting high and drunk and she asks to pick her up, that she will get her.

If you think your cousin won't do that, can you give her daughter your number and tell her she is always welcome to call you? You are a good cousin to be concerned about her.

This, notice you called your aunt not your mom. Let her daughter call YOU.

I called my aunt because I was spending the weekend at my cousin's house. My aunt is my cousin's mother. My aunt was supposed to be the adult responsible for watching me, my cousin (her daughter ) and another girl cousin.

My mother would have jumped in her car to get us if I called her but my parents lived 45 minutes away. This was before cell phones. I was only 15. You're right. I should have called my mother to get us when my aunt didn't take me seriously.

Really, 45 minutes away, such a horror. Tell us the real reason you didn't call your parents. If it was absolutely bad then you knew how to dial 911. If it was kind of bad, you could have called your parents. You decided to call a convenient adult, so you don't get in trouble with your parents or look like the "bad guy" who called 911. Take responsibility and stop creating drama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The party had great magnitude/left a huge mark on OP. OP needs to process that. That is happening here.

Hi, OP.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why everyone is giving OP such a hard time. She is bothered by this crazy party that happened a long time ago because she was a kid and she had to behave like an adult, and the adult who was in her family who was supposed to take care of her refused. Give her a break.

OP, I would not have known what to do in a situation like that, and you did a great job protecting your cousin. I hope you feel good about that.

[Anonymous]

Oh my goodness, get over it. Tell the young cousin if she ever has a problem, call and you will always come if you can. You should have called your Mom when aunt said no. Aunt was not being a responsible parent to supervise where you went and to go get you. If you were close by, walk home.

[Anonymous]

Why were the boys from your neighborhood mad at you for going to the party?

[Anonymous]

OP, it is my considered opinion that you are cray-cray.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why everyone is giving OP such a hard time. She is bothered by this crazy party that happened a long time ago because she was a kid and she had to behave like an adult, and the adult who was in her family who was supposed to take care of her refused. Give her a break.

OP, I would not have known what to do in a situation like that, and you did a great job protecting your cousin. I hope you feel good about that.

OP wants her cousin to be bothered too and OP didn't behave like an adult.

[Anonymous]

OP - I got myself in some crazy situations as a teen and in my early 20s. Situations at parties or with guys I barley know where I would FLIP OUT if I knew my kids were in a similar situation.
Thankfully I got myself through all those situations without being assaulted or arrested or injured. While it was stupid to get into the situations in the first place, I’d like to think it’s because my parents raised me well that I had the sense to figure out what needed to be done and get myself sober / home / etc.

When I think about the crazy shit my kids will do without my knowledge, I remember all the crazy shit I did and how I was able to handle it on my own and how my kids will also need to figure stuff out on their own.