Husband flipped out on me this morning

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OP here. My husband was a straight A student all throughout school. It never occurred to me he would fail the test! I only mentioned it to one of my close friends. My husband rarely ever meets my friends.

Just fyi there is more to the test day than just actually answering the correct number of questions. The interviewer reviews your entire application again so you could not pass for reasons unrelated to not having memorized the questions well enough. They could say, you answered Yes to question 46, come back for another interview with supporting documentation explaining your answer.

I don't think of any of us who went through the naturalization process thought of it as sure thing or done deal until we actually had our certificate in hands. There are just too many variables so it can be stressful and worry-inducing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Where do you live that the citizenship test and ceremony take place the same day? I work for USCIS and that is typically unheard of.

NP. Happened to both my parents in the D.C. area.

Happened to my sister somewhere in Fairfax. They told her to stick around. I had to wait 2 months. The interviewer even pointed out the pile of paperwork he had to go through and only then was my turn. there was a ceremony though the same day. my co-worker was on that ceremony. I guess I was sketchy and the had to reread my papers.
OP, you DH is a private person. The exam is not hard so I don't think he was worried about that.

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About a week ago he met one of my friends and she asked him how he liked his company. I am assuming he may be upset about that. That's why I mentioned that. Sorry I didn't explain it well! I do think the fact that he got his citizenship through me matters here. He yelled at me and it was very hurtful.

I think it's a little weird that you seem to feel like you gifted him citizenship and he is being ungrateful about it. Seems like the issue here is not what went on this morning but rather your possible feelings about being used vs. true love or whatever.

There is more under the surface here.

Op here. None of you were at my house this morning to see and hear the yelling. It was awful and our toddler was sleeping in the next room.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

About a week ago he met one of my friends and she asked him how he liked his company. I am assuming he may be upset about that. That's why I mentioned that. Sorry I didn't explain it well! I do think the fact that he got his citizenship through me matters here. He yelled at me and it was very hurtful.

I think it's a little weird that you seem to feel like you gifted him citizenship and he is being ungrateful about it. Seems like the issue here is not what went on this morning but rather your possible feelings about being used vs. true love or whatever.

There is more under the surface here.

Op here. None of you were at my house this morning to see and hear the yelling. It was awful and our toddler was sleeping in the next room.

Ignore him all day. Give him a taste of his own medicine. Yelling is never ok OP. Don't accept this.

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Send him this. " Green car or not... you'll always be a foreigner to me. "

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where do you live that the citizenship test and ceremony take place the same day? I work for USCIS and that is typically unheard of.

Really? I had mine the same day in Baltimore over 12 yrs ago and have relatives who did same more recently.

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I’m glad he passed OP. Go celebrate and let god water under the bridge evaporate or water roots to a good plant elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

About a week ago he met one of my friends and she asked him how he liked his company. I am assuming he may be upset about that. That's why I mentioned that. Sorry I didn't explain it well! I do think the fact that he got his citizenship through me matters here. He yelled at me and it was very hurtful.

I think it's a little weird that you seem to feel like you gifted him citizenship and he is being ungrateful about it. Seems like the issue here is not what went on this morning but rather your possible feelings about being used vs. true love or whatever.

There is more under the surface here.

Op here. None of you were at my house this morning to see and hear the yelling. It was awful and our toddler was sleeping in the next room.

I completely agree with everyone else and I think it's sad that you can't even contemplate the idea that you should have respected his feelings about this. If you didn't know he would react this way (and how could you), then fine, just say you're sorry; you didn't realize. You show absolutely no empathy for his position.

[Anonymous]

He needs therapy, OP. Find an AP to relieve your stress or divorce him

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As for naturalization ceremony, if they have on tha day, they will offer it. DW went in and they offered one two days later but she couldnt' do it then. So they gave her a new one in the mail -- July 4th and they had some high-level speakers and a band and the whole thing. Nice ceremony.

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He was nervous. Cut him some slack.
I hate when my spouse or others throw stupid comments at me when I'm stressed out or have a big thing at work.

You were tone deaf to your husband's stress. Don't blame it on him

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He was nervous. Cut him some slack.
I hate when my spouse or others throw stupid comments at me when I'm stressed out or have a big thing at work.

You were tone deaf to your husband's stress. Don't blame it on him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As for naturalization ceremony, if they have on tha day, they will offer it. DW went in and they offered one two days later but she couldnt' do it then. So they gave her a new one in the mail -- July 4th and they had some high-level speakers and a band and the whole thing. Nice ceremony.

Mine was like that at the District Court in DC. It was a big deal. It's not just another day. No idea why OPs husband would feel this way and especially why he would react that way. That is crazy.

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Anonymous wrote:Send him this. " Green car or not... you'll always be a foreigner to me. "

You’re an idiot. Green card and citizenship are two different things.

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He was super stressed about it and blew up as a result. Let it go, OP.