Spouse Survey

[Anonymous]

Man or Woman: Female
Age: 33
Years Married: 7

On a scale of 1 (bad) to 10 (good):

My spouse respects me and appreciates what I contribute to the family: 8.5?
My spouse compliments me / validates me / expresses appreciation to me: 10
My spouse has a good sense of how I feel and think about things: 10
My spouse is responsive to how I feel / think and supports me: 8 (he's not a mind-reader)
My spouse builds me up and makes me a better person: 10

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious about how people perceive their spouses given all the threads on this forum.

You are:
Man or Woman: woman
Age: 39
Years Married: 7 years

On a scale of 1 (bad) to 10 (good):

My spouse respects me and appreciates what I contribute to the family: 10
My spouse compliments me / validates me / expresses appreciation to me: 10
My spouse has a good sense of how I feel and think about things: 7
My spouse is responsive to how I feel / think and supports me: 7
My spouse builds me up and makes me a better person: 5- we make a great team but are very independent in many ways. He is not my crutch nor am I his.

IMHO You only really need the top two on this list. I can't believe how lucky we got, especially when I read about the problems on here. Some of the guys I dated (and almost married) I would absolutely be in the shoes of those unhappy posters, I know it was sheer luck I'm not. I wish there was a better way to judge compatibility before kids/marriage. I think many ideas about romance really obscure an understanding of true compatibility.

[Anonymous]

You are: Woman
Age: 35
Years Married: 6

On a scale of 1 (bad) to 10 (good):

My spouse respects me and appreciates what I contribute to the family: 1
My spouse compliments me / validates me / expresses appreciation to me: 1
My spouse has a good sense of how I feel and think about things: 10 (and uses them against me)
My spouse is responsive to how I feel / think and supports me: 1
My spouse builds me up and makes me a better person: 1

[Anonymous]

This is too complicated.