Unimpressed with dating sites

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where are the not-fat 40- and 50-year-old women who don't whine?

Again, I am not fat or whiny. I am reading the profiles (unlike the guys who have messaged me and are the opposite of what I am seeking) but just not finding anyone that is sparking my interest.

And I am open to all races, average build, etc.

I think "married" is indeed the problem. As in, already taken.

You are "open to"? No no no. If you want a tall adventure seeking yachtsman, you get your ass to Everest base camp or Manchu Pichu. Take some responsibility for finding this unicorn you're holding out for.

LOL. Love it. Thanks for the advice. I guess dating sites are just not the right way to do this.

[Anonymous]

OP- While I've never tried online dating myself (I got married before it was popular), I know many, many people, including two of my cousins, who have met someone online. You have to weed through a lot of frogs to find a prince.

[Anonymous]

Two friends of mine are the kind of men you are looking for. First friend has inherited wealth, so much that he spent a few terms in DC as a "public servant". He has a sailing yacht and his compound back home is so large it has its own lake. He has a wife and a mistress (no, he is not John Kerry). The wife doesn't sail, the mistress does. He also has access to boat bunnies at his home marina. He doesn't do round-the-world sailing trips anymore but does sail from the East Coast to the Caribbean and the Med. You'd never find him on an online dating site.

Second friend is an Air Force fighter pilot. But he is now high ranking so rarely flies. He spent half his childhood in Hawaii and he is back there often to surf dangerous waves. He is also a huge opera aficionado. His wife is skinny, Asian, and hot. He tells me that in Hawaii he always attracts a lot of surfer girls, but he's very devoted to his wife. If he were to become single, he'd never be on a dating site.

[Anonymous]

Yes, most of the ones you want are taken, i.e., married. True, divorces happen all the day and with the transience of DC, there are few new ones often. But in general online daitng is geared to those in their 20s/early 30s, or the unbelievably photogenic. If you want. an active guy, go be active.

[Anonymous]

Supply and demand. Every woman your age on the market is holding out for the same few astronauts. You have a lot of competition, so you better have a plan for outcompeting.

[Anonymous]

I met my husband online when I was 36 and he was 45 - it took about a year of meeting various guys for drinks or dinner before I met my husband. He is handsome, brilliant, very funny and he's my best friend. At first I was pretty narrow in my parameters (age, religion, body type, zip code, etc). About 6 months in I broadened my search and that made a huge difference. Be as open minded as you can possibly be - in my case it really helped. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

News flash .

Only 5 percent of the human population is dateable.

It's ugly out there. The Earth is a huge dissapointment. Thank goodness I'm born again and leaving this sewer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two friends of mine are the kind of men you are looking for. First friend has inherited wealth, so much that he spent a few terms in DC as a "public servant". He has a sailing yacht and his compound back home is so large it has its own lake. He has a wife and a mistress (no, he is not John Kerry). The wife doesn't sail, the mistress does. He also has access to boat bunnies at his home marina. He doesn't do round-the-world sailing trips anymore but does sail from the East Coast to the Caribbean and the Med. You'd never find him on an online dating site.

Second friend is an Air Force fighter pilot. But he is now high ranking so rarely flies. He spent half his childhood in Hawaii and he is back there often to surf dangerous waves. He is also a huge opera aficionado. His wife is skinny, Asian, and hot. He tells me that in Hawaii he always attracts a lot of surfer girls, but he's very devoted to his wife. If he were to become single, he'd never be on a dating site.

They’re married. Why would op be looking for them? And obviously they don’t use dating sites.

[Anonymous]

OP here....true, I am not interested in being a side piece for a married man. And, I don't want to get married -- just have a nice relationship with a kind, fun, intellectual man who is great in bed. Wealth is not a priority but solvency and motivation is. I guess that narrows it to like .02 percent.

Coincidentally, a friend of a friend just posted this morning on FB that they met their wife on a major mountain out West...so yeah, guess I'll hit the trails....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:News flash .

Only 5 percent of the human population is dateable.

It's ugly out there. The Earth is a huge dissapointment. Thank goodness I'm born again and leaving this sewer.

That's an interesting comment. How do you define dateable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:News flash .

Only 5 percent of the human population is dateable.

It's ugly out there. The Earth is a huge dissapointment. Thank goodness I'm born again and leaving this sewer.

That's an interesting comment. How do you define dateable?

Looks vaguely like Ryan Reynolds, and drives a Beemer, I'm guessing is her definition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here....true, I am not interested in being a side piece for a married man. And, I don't want to get married -- just have a nice relationship with a kind, fun, intellectual man who is great in bed. Wealth is not a priority but solvency and motivation is. I guess that narrows it to like .02 percent.

Coincidentally, a friend of a friend just posted this morning on FB that they met their wife on a major mountain out West...so yeah, guess I'll hit the trails....

I find that women who say they don't want to get married are either lying, or not serious about having a long-term relationship. I'd never be exclusive with a woman who isn't interested in going the distance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two friends of mine are the kind of men you are looking for. First friend has inherited wealth, so much that he spent a few terms in DC as a "public servant". He has a sailing yacht and his compound back home is so large it has its own lake. He has a wife and a mistress (no, he is not John Kerry). The wife doesn't sail, the mistress does. He also has access to boat bunnies at his home marina. He doesn't do round-the-world sailing trips anymore but does sail from the East Coast to the Caribbean and the Med. You'd never find him on an online dating site.

Second friend is an Air Force fighter pilot. But he is now high ranking so rarely flies. He spent half his childhood in Hawaii and he is back there often to surf dangerous waves. He is also a huge opera aficionado. His wife is skinny, Asian, and hot. He tells me that in Hawaii he always attracts a lot of surfer girls, but he's very devoted to his wife. If he were to become single, he'd never be on a dating site.

Yeah, he just "surfing" waves...lol...he just leaves a credit card for his obedient "Asian wife" so she can visit Saks, Shiseido & designer stores....Seen it before, many times

[Anonymous]

You only need one. People give websites/apps a chance for a month or two. They either find someone or take a break. It's not a catalogue that you can order from, it's more of an auction, that have new items all the time, but the one you attended didn't have the item you wanted, hut the one you missed had it. I had good luck with one, but nothing anywhere else.

[Anonymous]

OP, you could just be like my STBXW and screw every man who sends her a message on Tinder or Match. 3-5 different guys a week lately. Makes her 'happy'...