Custody-Does the parent who can afford the house and hence same schools get the kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:there are two separate issues (I think?)
one is division of assets and the other is custody and school.

As long as the kids have one parent in the school district, I'm pretty sure the kids can go to that school. I dont think it means that the kid has to be at the house with the parent who has greater custody. So, you could have split custody in a variety of ways and days and the kids remain in the school that they're in now, if their dad stays in the house or if either of you has a place in the same school district.


If 50% of the assets are in the house. and you dont want it, you can give him the house and you take the other 50% in whatever form those assets are, and then find a cheaper place. BUT, you will be responsible for financing that place--big enough for you and your kids assuming that you want them part of the time, too. And, you have to think about the commute for them to schools, etc. So, even if their dad stays in the house and they stay in the school, if you move far away, you're going to have to figure out how the kids get to school from your place, etc, and the impact on their lives.

This is true. So if you or he rents or owns in the school district, your kids can attend that school. It has nothing to do with your custody agreement. Unless...

Some places say that you have to have the kids 51 percent of the time to have your kids attend school there (I think Fairfax does that), but I doubt that is ever enforced, unless school officials camped out outside your house.

[Anonymous]

So many people here who don't know what they are talking about.

Both parents do not have to live in the school district. Just one. So whoever can afford it, stay there.

The kids don't have to be there all week. Just someone in your household must be able to show the school system proof of residence.

[Anonymous]

My ex moved five miles down the road. His house zones to different schools so he drives the kids and drops them off when he has them. They take the bus to my house in the afternoons and he picks them up here, just in case he gets out of work a little late or traffic is bad. There are two mornings every two weeks where I have to get them from his place and drive them in or bring them to my house to take the bus because my ex leaves early those days to go to work.

For the buy out, I took the equity and “paid him out” via a trade over money I wasn’t entitled to from his retirement accounts. That’s how I was able to stay in my house.

But we are very amicable and get along well. Not sure our arrangement would work for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Was entitled to, not wasn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex moved five miles down the road. His house zones to different schools so he drives the kids and drops them off when he has them. They take the bus to my house in the afternoons and he picks them up here, just in case he gets out of work a little late or traffic is bad. There are two mornings every two weeks where I have to get them from his place and drive them in or bring them to my house to take the bus because my ex leaves early those days to go to work.

For the buy out, I took the equity and “paid him out” via a trade over money I wasn’t entitled to from his retirement accounts. That’s how I was able to stay in my house.

But we are very amicable and get along well. Not sure our arrangement would work for everyone.

We do something similar. It helps to live near the schools for dropoff/pickup purposes, but only one of you needs to be within the school district. And you should be able to do any kind of visitation schedule you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ex moved five miles down the road. His house zones to different schools so he drives the kids and drops them off when he has them. They take the bus to my house in the afternoons and he picks them up here, just in case he gets out of work a little late or traffic is bad. There are two mornings every two weeks where I have to get them from his place and drive them in or bring them to my house to take the bus because my ex leaves early those days to go to work.

For the buy out, I took the equity and “paid him out” via a trade over money I wasn’t entitled to from his retirement accounts. That’s how I was able to stay in my house.

But we are very amicable and get along well. Not sure our arrangement would work for everyone.

We do something similar. It helps to live near the schools for dropoff/pickup purposes, but only one of you needs to be within the school district. And you should be able to do any kind of visitation schedule you want.

Op here, yes I can live close by.

What do you mean by any kind of visitation schedule?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ex moved five miles down the road. His house zones to different schools so he drives the kids and drops them off when he has them. They take the bus to my house in the afternoons and he picks them up here, just in case he gets out of work a little late or traffic is bad. There are two mornings every two weeks where I have to get them from his place and drive them in or bring them to my house to take the bus because my ex leaves early those days to go to work.

For the buy out, I took the equity and “paid him out” via a trade over money I wasn’t entitled to from his retirement accounts. That’s how I was able to stay in my house.

But we are very amicable and get along well. Not sure our arrangement would work for everyone.

We do something similar. It helps to live near the schools for dropoff/pickup purposes, but only one of you needs to be within the school district. And you should be able to do any kind of visitation schedule you want.

Op here, yes I can live close by.

What do you mean by any kind of visitation schedule?

I mean where the kids are every day. 50/50, etc.

[Anonymous]

Not necessarily. I moved out of the house into an apartment 45 minutes away, and took the kids with me. ExDH stayed in the house.

[Anonymous]

By the way, you should stipulate in your separation/divorce decree that unless there is an emergency situation, you want the kids to continue to go to school in that school system.
That way, he cannot move just to make you mad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not necessarily. I moved out of the house into an apartment 45 minutes away, and took the kids with me. ExDH stayed in the house.

So you have to drive them back and forth to school 45 minutes away from you?

[Anonymous]

Op. My ex and I split our assets except the house. We both still own it. I will stay in it til the kids graduate.

You can get a roommate to help with bills.

You split the proceeds when you sell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not necessarily. I moved out of the house into an apartment 45 minutes away, and took the kids with me. ExDH stayed in the house.

So you have to drive them back and forth to school 45 minutes away from you?

Hell no! They changed schools.

[Anonymous]

Someone stay in the house and continue to use the address for school purposes. The other parent can live anywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not necessarily. I moved out of the house into an apartment 45 minutes away, and took the kids with me. ExDH stayed in the house.

So you have to drive them back and forth to school 45 minutes away from you?

Hell no! They changed schools.

The OP is talking about a totally different situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

We already live in the cheapest TH for this area. There are no apartments/condos that feed into our elementary school.
But there are apartments/condos that feed into same middle/high school and equally good other elementary schools.

Ideas?

You could also agree that one of you stays in the house until middle school, and sell it then. Split the other assets, and split the profits from the house when it sells.