If your marriage rebounded from a dry spell.. how?

[Anonymous]

We are just coming out of a long dry spell. We both lost our sex drive and it coming back for us. We do it during toddler naps.

Just be prepared for it to be a little weird in the beginning.

[Anonymous]

Dear OP,
I think it is way normal when toddler season is in the family no matter how old you are! My husband was more anxioux to be more often than I was, but after awhile it all worked out for me too and went back to normal. We , like others below, usually find time sometime other than bedtime because usually when i start to recline I go to sleep immediately...and want to! haha
We always made time for a short trip at least every year, if not six months to "remember why we married"..that's what my husband calls it! It helps keep things in perspective. You have a will to do this... you'll find a way!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are just coming out of a long dry spell. We both lost our sex drive and it coming back for us. We do it during toddler naps.

Just be prepared for it to be a little weird in the beginning.

How long is long?

[Anonymous]

We're mid 30s DS is 4 y.o.
Schedule the sex. It sounds boring but from realistically from high school until moving out the dorm senior yr all the sex I had was scheduled around times parents/roommates weren't around.

Nighttime sex is hard after work and bedtime routines and one of us usually falls asleep in the DS bed. #adulting
More on that later.

What worked for us was mornings after daycare drop off but before work with a couple shower afterward or take a half day and meet at home or elsewhere.

Get family or friends to watch the child at their place. As much as love my little guy him not being home makes it easier for her to access her sexual self. Also same day hotel deals (Hotwire, Priceline, etc.) and play strangers at the bar. The first time we did that we actually just slept naked for like 10 HOURS!!! It was glorious.

Regular date nights at least twice month.

Me cleaning the house top to bottom usually earns me a really good time.

We sext sometimes during the day.

Sage advice: Kick the kids out of your bed!
It's gonna suck at first but once your little one learns to love their big boy/girl bed, it'll get better.

Becoming a parent is big change and can be really stressful especially on sexual part of your relationship. But if you do find that groove again you'll both be better for it.

Good luck!