How Much Allowance do you Give Your SAH?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW asked for monthly allowance so she didnt have to keep asking me for money all the time. She pays all of the house bills and kids’ bills with my credit card. The monthly payment is just spending money for her- so she can buy clothes, jewelry, entertainment, etc. We started at $7k 3 years ago and now she is saying her friends all get $10k a minth spending allowance. Our HHI exceeds 7 figures so going to $10k a month wouldnt make a difference. But I also wonder what in the world costs $10k a month. It seems excessive, no?

I hope she gives you a swift kick to your wrinkly sack

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW asked for monthly allowance so she didnt have to keep asking me for money all the time. She pays all of the house bills and kids’ bills with my credit card. The monthly payment is just spending money for her- so she can buy clothes, jewelry, entertainment, etc. We started at $7k 3 years ago and now she is saying her friends all get $10k a minth spending allowance. Our HHI exceeds 7 figures so going to $10k a month wouldnt make a difference. But I also wonder what in the world costs $10k a month. It seems excessive, no?

If this is just for the items you mentioned, it is absurdly excessive --unless you do the same. And the answer depends on if you make $1million or $1.8, 2.5, whatever and your ages, your other expenses like mortgage, and your savings. I am assuming no kids yet. Why not just have her "allowance" come out of a joint checking account from which all bills are paid (even if you put them on your credit card, you need to pay that bill each month). That way, she can see the relative costs of her purchases against the family necessities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t sound unreasonable to me. $120K/yr. I’ve always thought parents that give up their careers to raise kids should earn some sort of salary. Call it her just in case money. She can spend it on clothes, shoes, bags, etc and she can put some away just in case she ever needs her own money.

No, not unless the OP is doing the same. I can see a very small allowance for both of them --some privacy in their money --but most should be joint anyway unless they have some prenup or one has proven to be really recklessly wasteful.

[Anonymous]

How disappointing, I was expecting an offensive thread demeaning SAHMs and spewing the usual debate. Instead I got a weak troll post.

[Anonymous]

I don't get an allowance and we've never discussed one. I manage all of our expenses and know how much money is in our checking account and my DH knows that I'm financially smart and thrifty. If he wanted to have a conversation about putting me on an allowance I'd say "WTF are you talking about?!"

[Anonymous]

Some bored WOHM is really having a field day on DCUM lately.

[Anonymous]

Why does she need you to give her money? She has a credit card, no?

[Anonymous]

Troll. I’m a SAHM in a social circle of SAHMs with husbands who make very high 6 or 7 figures. We all have credit cards and the husbands are too busy to pay attention to statements or spending. They don’t care as long as it’s reasonable. Happy wife = happy life.

Point being, 10k is not a lot to spend on a HHI of over 1M. So if this was real, the OP wouldn’t even notice or care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Troll. I’m a SAHM in a social circle of SAHMs with husbands who make very high 6 or 7 figures. We all have credit cards and the husbands are too busy to pay attention to statements or spending. They don’t care as long as it’s reasonable. Happy wife = happy life.

Point being, 10k is not a lot to spend on a HHI of over 1M. So if this was real, the OP wouldn’t even notice or care.

^ forgot to add, no one has an allowance. Modern couples don’t do that.

[Anonymous]

I was looking for more MRA misogyny in this thread. How disappointing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She can go get a job.

Or a pool boy.

Ha. love it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Troll. I’m a SAHM in a social circle of SAHMs with husbands who make very high 6 or 7 figures. We all have credit cards and the husbands are too busy to pay attention to statements or spending. They don’t care as long as it’s reasonable. Happy wife = happy life.

Point being, 10k is not a lot to spend on a HHI of over 1M. So if this was real, the OP wouldn’t even notice or care.

^ forgot to add, no one has an allowance. Modern couples don’t do that.

My husband and I both have an allowance, we've done it since we got married and I worked and he was in law school and we still do it. Everything else in the joint. For all I know, he spends his on hookers and blow....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Troll. I’m a SAHM in a social circle of SAHMs with husbands who make very high 6 or 7 figures. We all have credit cards and the husbands are too busy to pay attention to statements or spending. They don’t care as long as it’s reasonable. Happy wife = happy life.

Point being, 10k is not a lot to spend on a HHI of over 1M. So if this was real, the OP wouldn’t even notice or care.

Or to you, or to their family.

[Anonymous]

Why do you assume that?

[Anonymous]

If the $10,000 is for "clothes, jewelry, entertainment" that's ridiculous even if you're making $1 million+. $120,000 is 12% of your gross income and likely 33% of your after tax and after fixed costs income. (mortgage, schools, household expenses). Our HHI has been at or above that level for over ten years and I can't imagine me spending $10,000 a month on "clothes, jewelry and entertainment". Give your wife a credit card that is only to be used for her "allowance" expenses and you will quickly see where the money is going. I would also suggest you tell her to stop hanging out with high maintenance friends.