Settling at 32.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The other threads are making me wonder about my situation. I just 32 and still single. I broke up with a guy a couple of months ago because I didn't see a future with him. I am starting to wonder if I have to settle because I don't feel like I am meeting the right guy I want to marry. I am cute and think I am a good catch, but I could be wrong. He wants to get back with me and I am almost tempted because I feel my chances to marry and have children are dwindling.

What kind of guy do you want to marry?

Op here. I want a guy who is 30's, makes at least 5-6 figure salary, white ( my preference), ideally tall, mostly Republican values ( not a total liberal), clean cut ( I hate the facial hair trend), in good shape ( I'm a health nut), and wants a family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The other threads are making me wonder about my situation. I just 32 and still single. I broke up with a guy a couple of months ago because I didn't see a future with him. I am starting to wonder if I have to settle because I don't feel like I am meeting the right guy I want to marry. I am cute and think I am a good catch, but I could be wrong. He wants to get back with me and I am almost tempted because I feel my chances to marry and have children are dwindling.

What kind of guy do you want to marry?

Op here. I want a guy who is 30's, makes at least 5-6 figure salary, white ( my preference), ideally tall, mostly Republican values ( not a total liberal), clean cut ( I hate the facial hair trend), in good shape ( I'm a health nut), and wants a family.

It might be time to modify your list . Keep only the things that are truly important. A wise person told me your must have list should be no longer than 3 things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The other threads are making me wonder about my situation. I just 32 and still single. I broke up with a guy a couple of months ago because I didn't see a future with him. I am starting to wonder if I have to settle because I don't feel like I am meeting the right guy I want to marry. I am cute and think I am a good catch, but I could be wrong. He wants to get back with me and I am almost tempted because I feel my chances to marry and have children are dwindling.

What kind of guy do you want to marry?

Op here. I want a guy who is 30's, makes at least 5-6 figure salary, white ( my preference), ideally tall, mostly Republican values ( not a total liberal), clean cut ( I hate the facial hair trend), in good shape ( I'm a health nut), and wants a family.

How many of those requirements does the ex who wants you back meet?

As an aside -- facial hair is a weird reason to rule people out when you're looking for a future husband. A clean cut guy can grow a beard and vice versa.

[Anonymous]

I call troll.

[Anonymous]

All of these things are superficial. Being kind, employed, good company, and attractive to you--that's a better foundation for a relationship. I think your list is part of the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The other threads are making me wonder about my situation. I just 32 and still single. I broke up with a guy a couple of months ago because I didn't see a future with him. I am starting to wonder if I have to settle because I don't feel like I am meeting the right guy I want to marry. I am cute and think I am a good catch, but I could be wrong. He wants to get back with me and I am almost tempted because I feel my chances to marry and have children are dwindling.

What kind of guy do you want to marry?

Op here. I want a guy who is 30's, makes at least 5-6 figure salary, white ( my preference), ideally tall, mostly Republican values ( not a total liberal), clean cut ( I hate the facial hair trend), in good shape ( I'm a health nut), and wants a family.

How many of those requirements does the ex who wants you back meet?


As an aside -- facial hair is a weird reason to rule people out when you're looking for a future husband. A clean cut guy can grow a beard and vice versa.

Op here. He met most expect he was a liberal ( created some issues) and the facial hair. I know it's trivial but having a a dad who had facial hair, I just can't get into it. I don't like the unkempt look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of these things are superficial. Being kind, employed, good company, and attractive to you--that's a better foundation for a relationship. I think your list is part of the problem.

Op here. I do want a kind, respectful, and loyal man, but I also want a guy who makes comparable to my salary. I came from a poor and then middle income family growing up. My family was once homeless when I was about 7 years old, and lived in a poverty stricken area. I don't want to live paycheck to paycheck. I want better for my future children.

[Anonymous]

Trust me. I settled at 28, had a baby at 29, another at 32... I wish with all of my heart that I wouldn't have settled and waited for the right one. Please spare yourself and don't do it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I call troll.

I agree. I admit she had me until the facial hair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of these things are superficial. Being kind, employed, good company, and attractive to you--that's a better foundation for a relationship. I think your list is part of the problem.

Op here. I do want a kind, respectful, and loyal man, but I also want a guy who makes comparable to my salary. I came from a poor and then middle income family growing up. My family was once homeless when I was about 7 years old, and lived in a poverty stricken area. I don't want to live paycheck to paycheck. I want better for my future children.

Okay is $60,000 enough for you?

Also salary is only a fraction of things it's also how you plan, budget and manage money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The other threads are making me wonder about my situation. I just 32 and still single. I broke up with a guy a couple of months ago because I didn't see a future with him. I am starting to wonder if I have to settle because I don't feel like I am meeting the right guy I want to marry. I am cute and think I am a good catch, but I could be wrong. He wants to get back with me and I am almost tempted because I feel my chances to marry and have children are dwindling.

What kind of guy do you want to marry?

Op here. I want a guy who is 30's, makes at least 5-6 figure salary, white ( my preference), ideally tall, mostly Republican values ( not a total liberal), clean cut ( I hate the facial hair trend), in good shape ( I'm a health nut), and wants a family.

How many of those requirements does the ex who wants you back meet?


As an aside -- facial hair is a weird reason to rule people out when you're looking for a future husband. A clean cut guy can grow a beard and vice versa.

Op here. He met most expect he was a liberal ( created some issues) and the facial hair. I know it's trivial but having a a dad who had facial hair, I just can't get into it. I don't like the unkempt look.

Why would you even think of your dad in that context? I mean I assume your dad is white, but you haven't taken white guys off the table.

You have issues.

[Anonymous]

Yeah some of your list is fairly superficial. My friends with lists like that are single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Trust me. I settled at 28, had a baby at 29, another at 32... I wish with all of my heart that I wouldn't have settled and waited for the right one. Please spare yourself and don't do it

You've expired like milk. No way you could do better.

[Anonymous]

Marriage and kids are long term and get hard at points no matter what, if you start out ambivalent about your spouse I imagine you would be totally unhappy within a few years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The other threads are making me wonder about my situation. I just 32 and still single. I broke up with a guy a couple of months ago because I didn't see a future with him. I am starting to wonder if I have to settle because I don't feel like I am meeting the right guy I want to marry. I am cute and think I am a good catch, but I could be wrong. He wants to get back with me and I am almost tempted because I feel my chances to marry and have children are dwindling.

What kind of guy do you want to marry?

Op here. I want a guy who is 30's, makes at least 5-6 figure salary, white ( my preference), ideally tall, mostly Republican values ( not a total liberal), clean cut ( I hate the facial hair trend), in good shape ( I'm a health nut), and wants a family.

Are you from around DC or elsewhere?

A five figure salary should be easy since it’s only $10,000.