"Great" guy - but a weird comment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Speaking as a guy, if it ends up he's way into his looks then she should run for the hills. I've worked my entire life in a male dominated career and have been around a few of these types. 99% are complete scum balls and as soon as he notices anything physical wrong with your sister (like getting older, weight, etc) he try to change her so she fits his idea of how she should look.

My first thought is that his humor is a little awkward.

My second thought is exactly what PP described.

[Anonymous]

I don't know, I might say it in a joking way (Because I know I'm not gorgeous). Depends on the way it was delivered.

[Anonymous]

He's probably really insecure and isn't feeling the love from your sister so he says that in an attempt to get her to respond in some way. That's my take.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I forgot how funny this show was!

Since you're concerned, why don't you meet your sister and him for coffee?

I just think his humor was misunderstood. You can't really tell unless you meet him in person.

[Anonymous]

To me it just sounds like he's been burned before by women who just wanted him because he was hot. I think someone who was narcissistic would capitalize on their attractiveness, not use it to rule women out.

There's no harm in continuing to date him and see how it goes.

[Anonymous]

It's an old Vulcan mind trick he's subliminally programming her to be enamored with him.

[Anonymous]

Id think the guy did not share my sense of humor. It's not a deal breaker comment, but not one to ignore, either. Need more information.

[Anonymous]

Next time, she should order something for the morbidly obsese - fried chicken, meatloaf & mashed, a big porterhouse - no salad - see what happens to that gorgeous face of his.

[Anonymous]

I actually think there's nothing wrong with what he said. He probably is gorgeous. It's ok to know that most people think so. It's ok to say it loud one time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe his humor is more deadpan and your sister misread his attempt at a joke as seriousness?

That's what I think, too!

[Anonymous]

I went on a date with a guy like this once, but the weird thing was he wasn't particularly good looking.* But he brought up how he "knew [he was] a good-looking guy," unprompted, twice. It was weird af and felt like he was trying to say he had really high standards for his partner's looks. I didn't see him again, but I'm not sure I would have cut him off for just that. He was also boring so there was nothing positive to weigh against his alarmingly high self esteem.

*(What he was was exceptionally tall, like 6'8" or something. Everyone looked at him when he walked into a place and he had turned that into "Good GOD I'm handsome!" in his head, but he had that weird borderline-giantism bone structure thing that people sometimes get when their super tall.)

[Anonymous]

*they're

[Anonymous]

He was joking. And maybe putting himself down a bit. Is your sister not good at reading social cues? Maybe go somewhere with her and him and see for yourself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He was joking. And maybe putting himself down a bit. Is your sister not good at reading social cues? Maybe go somewhere with her and him and see for yourself?

This was my initial reaction when reading it as well

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He was joking. And maybe putting himself down a bit. Is your sister not good at reading social cues? Maybe go somewhere with her and him and see for yourself?

This was my initial reaction when reading it as well

Mine too.