Self-regulation and Senior Year

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Like PP, I plan to keep tabs on my senior and will only interfere if something is terribly wrong.

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My senior will have no curfew and very little interference from me.

I found something terribly wrong for you.

OH please. Honestly, there's only so late anything is even open for them to be out doing. They'll either come home or go to a friend's house for the night by midnight.

Agreed. My parents never gave me a curfew but I was always home by 11. or 11.30 at the latest. The Burbs are not that wild that much goes on beyond midnight!

So you are fine with them staying out all night?

The point is they CAN'T stay out all night. Restaurants and stores and movie theatres close. They can't get into bars. They will be able to stay out til max12:00 and then will have to find someone's house to retreat to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like PP, I plan to keep tabs on my senior and will only interfere if something is terribly wrong.

Anonymous wrote:
My senior will have no curfew and very little interference from me.

I found something terribly wrong for you.

OH please. Honestly, there's only so late anything is even open for them to be out doing. They'll either come home or go to a friend's house for the night by midnight.

Agreed. My parents never gave me a curfew but I was always home by 11. or 11.30 at the latest. The Burbs are not that wild that much goes on beyond midnight!

So you are fine with them staying out all night?

The point is they CAN'T stay out all night. Restaurants and stores and movie theatres close. They can't get into bars. They will be able to stay out til max12:00 and then will have to find someone's house to retreat to.

So you'd be fine with their staying out overnight as long as they were in random peoples' houses?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like PP, I plan to keep tabs on my senior and will only interfere if something is terribly wrong.

Anonymous wrote:
My senior will have no curfew and very little interference from me.

I found something terribly wrong for you.

I'm not the poster you quoted. My senior has never had a curfew. If he's out and about he's always come home at an acceptable time. If he's going to an evening activity we just agree on a reasonable time he should be home depending on how far away he will be and the actual activity. My kid will be a senior this year and 18 in 6 months. Never had a problem once with this arrangement.

That's a curfew.

Bingo. Unless you're truly fine with your child being gone from 6 PM until 6 AM the following morning on a nightly basis, your child has a curfew. As they should.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like PP, I plan to keep tabs on my senior and will only interfere if something is terribly wrong.

Anonymous wrote:
My senior will have no curfew and very little interference from me.

I found something terribly wrong for you.

I'm not the poster you quoted. My senior has never had a curfew. If he's out and about he's always come home at an acceptable time. If he's going to an evening activity we just agree on a reasonable time he should be home depending on how far away he will be and the actual activity. My kid will be a senior this year and 18 in 6 months. Never had a problem once with this arrangement.

That's a curfew.

Bingo. Unless you're truly fine with your child being gone from 6 PM until 6 AM the following morning on a nightly basis, your child has a curfew. As they should.

No, it doesn't. Why would DC want to be away on a nightly basis?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like PP, I plan to keep tabs on my senior and will only interfere if something is terribly wrong.

Anonymous wrote:
My senior will have no curfew and very little interference from me.

I found something terribly wrong for you.

I'm not the poster you quoted. My senior has never had a curfew. If he's out and about he's always come home at an acceptable time. If he's going to an evening activity we just agree on a reasonable time he should be home depending on how far away he will be and the actual activity. My kid will be a senior this year and 18 in 6 months. Never had a problem once with this arrangement.

That's a curfew.

Bingo. Unless you're truly fine with your child being gone from 6 PM until 6 AM the following morning on a nightly basis, your child has a curfew. As they should.

No, it doesn't. Why would DC want to be away on a nightly basis?

That's irrelevant. By virtue of the fact that you expect your child home each night by a time you find reasonable, you are enforcing a curfew; you just don't want to call it one for some strange reason. Perhaps to be able to pat yourself on the back for having a "mature" son who you don't have to curfew, even though you do.

[Anonymous]

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/662732.page

^ That thread shows what happens to teens without curfews.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like PP, I plan to keep tabs on my senior and will only interfere if something is terribly wrong.

Anonymous wrote:
My senior will have no curfew and very little interference from me.

I found something terribly wrong for you.

I'm not the poster you quoted. My senior has never had a curfew. If he's out and about he's always come home at an acceptable time. If he's going to an evening activity we just agree on a reasonable time he should be home depending on how far away he will be and the actual activity. My kid will be a senior this year and 18 in 6 months. Never had a problem once with this arrangement.

That's a curfew.

Bingo. Unless you're truly fine with your child being gone from 6 PM until 6 AM the following morning on a nightly basis, your child has a curfew. As they should.

No, it doesn't. Why would DC want to be away on a nightly basis?

That's irrelevant. By virtue of the fact that you expect your child home each night by a time you find reasonable, you are enforcing a curfew; you just don't want to call it one for some strange reason. Perhaps to be able to pat yourself on the back for having a "mature" son who you don't have to curfew, even though you do.

I don't expect DC home every night or at a reasonable time and it has nothing to do with being "mature", I just don't find it useful at all. By your definition I have a curfew, as my family expects me home every night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/662732.page

^ That thread shows what happens to teens without curfews.

18 yo. Not a kid. The luxury of extending the trip, I miss those days. Clearly, he has the right idea.

[Anonymous]

By senior year, our kids are ready to make their own choices and responsible for their own lives. I never wanted their first year of college to be their first taste of freedom so we have been increasing responsibility and lessening the "rules" every year.

My last child is a senior this year. He does he own laundry, cleans his own room, wakes himself up (if he oversleeps he misses class), plans his own schedule and comes home when he feels it is time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like PP, I plan to keep tabs on my senior and will only interfere if something is terribly wrong.

Anonymous wrote:
My senior will have no curfew and very little interference from me.

I found something terribly wrong for you.

OH please. Honestly, there's only so late anything is even open for them to be out doing. They'll either come home or go to a friend's house for the night by midnight.

Agreed. My parents never gave me a curfew but I was always home by 11. or 11.30 at the latest. The Burbs are not that wild that much goes on beyond midnight!

So you are fine with them staying out all night?

The point is they CAN'T stay out all night. Restaurants and stores and movie theatres close. They can't get into bars. They will be able to stay out til max12:00 and then will have to find someone's house to retreat to.

IMO this is just a different way of looking at growing up in the burb. I did and because there wasn't anything really open late, the few times I actually "went out" it was to someone's home who's parents had left (actually pretty rare in my HS) or to a random field/ park/ trail area that was wooded to party in the woods, which obviously doesn't have a last call. We could have absolutely stayed out all night doing that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like PP, I plan to keep tabs on my senior and will only interfere if something is terribly wrong.

Anonymous wrote:
My senior will have no curfew and very little interference from me.

I found something terribly wrong for you.

I'm not the poster you quoted. My senior has never had a curfew. If he's out and about he's always come home at an acceptable time. If he's going to an evening activity we just agree on a reasonable time he should be home depending on how far away he will be and the actual activity. My kid will be a senior this year and 18 in 6 months. Never had a problem once with this arrangement.

That's a curfew.

Bingo. Unless you're truly fine with your child being gone from 6 PM until 6 AM the following morning on a nightly basis, your child has a curfew. As they should.

No, it doesn't. Why would DC want to be away on a nightly basis?

That's irrelevant. By virtue of the fact that you expect your child home each night by a time you find reasonable, you are enforcing a curfew; you just don't want to call it one for some strange reason. Perhaps to be able to pat yourself on the back for having a "mature" son who you don't have to curfew, even though you do.

She's a cool mom. Not a regular mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like PP, I plan to keep tabs on my senior and will only interfere if something is terribly wrong.

Anonymous wrote:
My senior will have no curfew and very little interference from me.

I found something terribly wrong for you.

OH please. Honestly, there's only so late anything is even open for them to be out doing. They'll either come home or go to a friend's house for the night by midnight.

Agreed. My parents never gave me a curfew but I was always home by 11. or 11.30 at the latest. The Burbs are not that wild that much goes on beyond midnight!

So you are fine with them staying out all night?

The point is they CAN'T stay out all night. Restaurants and stores and movie theatres close. They can't get into bars. They will be able to stay out til max12:00 and then will have to find someone's house to retreat to.

IMO this is just a different way of looking at growing up in the burb. I did and because there wasn't anything really open late, the few times I actually "went out" it was to someone's home who's parents had left (actually pretty rare in my HS) or to a random field/ park/ trail area that was wooded to party in the woods, which obviously doesn't have a last call. We could have absolutely stayed out all night doing that.

They could hang out all night in the city too, pp is a little naive with her places close and they can't into bars

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:By senior year, our kids are ready to make their own choices and responsible for their own lives. I never wanted their first year of college to be their first taste of freedom so we have been increasing responsibility and lessening the "rules" every year.

My last child is a senior this year. He does he own laundry, cleans his own room, wakes himself up (if he oversleeps he misses class), plans his own schedule and comes home when he feels it is time.

It's odd to me that you view the bold as a huge deal for a 17 year old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By senior year, our kids are ready to make their own choices and responsible for their own lives. I never wanted their first year of college to be their first taste of freedom so we have been increasing responsibility and lessening the "rules" every year.

My last child is a senior this year. He does he own laundry, cleans his own room, wakes himself up (if he oversleeps he misses class), plans his own schedule and comes home when he feels it is time.

It's odd to me that you view the bold as a huge deal for a 17 year old.

I don't view it as a huge deal - that is why we have been working up to this since he started high school. And since the point is no curfew by senior year, I think my response is in line with the thread. Sorry that you feel it is odd to answer the question asked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like PP, I plan to keep tabs on my senior and will only interfere if something is terribly wrong.

Anonymous wrote:
My senior will have no curfew and very little interference from me.

I found something terribly wrong for you.

I'm not the poster you quoted. My senior has never had a curfew. If he's out and about he's always come home at an acceptable time. If he's going to an evening activity we just agree on a reasonable time he should be home depending on how far away he will be and the actual activity. My kid will be a senior this year and 18 in 6 months. Never had a problem once with this arrangement.

That's a curfew.

Bingo. Unless you're truly fine with your child being gone from 6 PM until 6 AM the following morning on a nightly basis, your child has a curfew. As they should.

No, it doesn't. Why would DC want to be away on a nightly basis?

That's irrelevant. By virtue of the fact that you expect your child home each night by a time you find reasonable, you are enforcing a curfew; you just don't want to call it one for some strange reason. Perhaps to be able to pat yourself on the back for having a "mature" son who you don't have to curfew, even though you do.

She's a cool mom. Not a regular mom.

You like curfew, I focus on sports. No sports would be an issue. Probably similar to yours, when it comes to curfew.