Where do all the successful, financially secure men hang out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I "caught" my sane, handsome, kind, and financially secure DH in my 30's - online. He's introverted with few social ties, which is why no one snapped him up sooner.

Meant to add that he didn't marry a woman from grad school because it was a very male-dominated STEM program.

[Anonymous]

Work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most of them were in serious relationships coming out of grad school. They became financially secure after becoming married. The best time to catch one is when they are young.

If you want the still single late 20s early 30s attractive financially successful, normal man, you are competing heavily for them. They are rare and they know it.

The most successful men I know (the ones I'd actually want to be married to, not the rich assh*les) were married young. Few of them seem to look to their personal lives for adventure, they get enough stress from their jobs. Most of these guys wanted just someone attractive and supportive, which is why so many women look at the wives of these guys and are stumped as to why Successful Guy is so happy with his lovely, but largely unremarkable, SAHM. Women tend to think that successful men should be reserved for female professional powerhouses, when most truly successful men just don't care about that stuff.

Yes, your average $200,000/year striver type guy might care what his future wife does, but virtually none of the seven figure earners I know see to care one bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of them were in serious relationships coming out of grad school. They became financially secure after becoming married. The best time to catch one is when they are young.

If you want the still single late 20s early 30s attractive financially successful, normal man, you are competing heavily for them. They are rare and they know it.

The most successful men I know (the ones I'd actually want to be married to, not the rich assh*les) were married young. Few of them seem to look to their personal lives for adventure, they get enough stress from their jobs. Most of these guys wanted just someone attractive and supportive, which is why so many women look at the wives of these guys and are stumped as to why Successful Guy is so happy with his lovely, but largely unremarkable, SAHM. Women tend to think that successful men should be reserved for female professional powerhouses, when most truly successful men just don't care about that stuff.

Yes, your average $200,000/year striver type guy might care what his future wife does, but virtually none of the seven figure earners I know see to care one bit.

Lol wow. You don't even know how you're insulting yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of them were in serious relationships coming out of grad school. They became financially secure after becoming married. The best time to catch one is when they are young.

If you want the still single late 20s early 30s attractive financially successful, normal man, you are competing heavily for them. They are rare and they know it.

The most successful men I know (the ones I'd actually want to be married to, not the rich assh*les) were married young. Few of them seem to look to their personal lives for adventure, they get enough stress from their jobs. Most of these guys wanted just someone attractive and supportive, which is why so many women look at the wives of these guys and are stumped as to why Successful Guy is so happy with his lovely, but largely unremarkable, SAHM. Women tend to think that successful men should be reserved for female professional powerhouses, when most truly successful men just don't care about that stuff.

Yes, your average $200,000/year striver type guy might care what his future wife does, but virtually none of the seven figure earners I know see to care one bit.

Lol wow. You don't even know how you're insulting yourself.

This has nothing to do with me? How am I insulting myself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And at the office, doing what made them successful and financially secure.

I was going to say that. It's what I am doing today. lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of them were in serious relationships coming out of grad school. They became financially secure after becoming married. The best time to catch one is when they are young.

If you want the still single late 20s early 30s attractive financially successful, normal man, you are competing heavily for them. They are rare and they know it.

The most successful men I know (the ones I'd actually want to be married to, not the rich assh*les) were married young. Few of them seem to look to their personal lives for adventure, they get enough stress from their jobs. Most of these guys wanted just someone attractive and supportive, which is why so many women look at the wives of these guys and are stumped as to why Successful Guy is so happy with his lovely, but largely unremarkable, SAHM. Women tend to think that successful men should be reserved for female professional powerhouses, when most truly successful men just don't care about that stuff.

Yes, your average $200,000/year striver type guy might care what his future wife does, but virtually none of the seven figure earners I know see to care one bit.

Whilst it is true that many don't care about having a wife with a successful professional career, many men DO care about having a nice, loving, super supportive SAHM who raises the kids, runs the household, and let's him focus on his office work.
Especially the divorced ones with kids, they learned the hard way that they need a woman at home doing everything and liking it.

[Anonymous]

You are all so quick to judge. Maybe when the OP wrote "successful and financially secure" she meant a regular guy with a good job and not alot of debt. That phrase can mean a lot of different people. You all jumped to the conclusion that her friend is a gold digger. Maybe she is an educated woman who does not want to be the sole breadwinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of them were in serious relationships coming out of grad school. They became financially secure after becoming married. The best time to catch one is when they are young.

If you want the still single late 20s early 30s attractive financially successful, normal man, you are competing heavily for them. They are rare and they know it.

The most successful men I know (the ones I'd actually want to be married to, not the rich assh*les) were married young. Few of them seem to look to their personal lives for adventure, they get enough stress from their jobs. Most of these guys wanted just someone attractive and supportive, which is why so many women look at the wives of these guys and are stumped as to why Successful Guy is so happy with his lovely, but largely unremarkable, SAHM. Women tend to think that successful men should be reserved for female professional powerhouses, when most truly successful men just don't care about that stuff.

Yes, your average $200,000/year striver type guy might care what his future wife does, but virtually none of the seven figure earners I know see to care one bit.

I met my DH when we were both in grad school. I was paid more at my first job out of school and earned more than him when we got married. He now earns seven figures and I'm a SAHM with help.

[Anonymous]

In my case my DH is either in the office, on a plane, home, at a soccer field or on the golf course. I'm willing to be that there aren't' a lot of successful, financially and emotionally secure men on the loose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of them were in serious relationships coming out of grad school. They became financially secure after becoming married. The best time to catch one is when they are young.

If you want the still single late 20s early 30s attractive financially successful, normal man, you are competing heavily for them. They are rare and they know it.

The most successful men I know (the ones I'd actually want to be married to, not the rich assh*les) were married young. Few of them seem to look to their personal lives for adventure, they get enough stress from their jobs. Most of these guys wanted just someone attractive and supportive, which is why so many women look at the wives of these guys and are stumped as to why Successful Guy is so happy with his lovely, but largely unremarkable, SAHM. Women tend to think that successful men should be reserved for female professional powerhouses, when most truly successful men just don't care about that stuff.

Yes, your average $200,000/year striver type guy might care what his future wife does, but virtually none of the seven figure earners I know see to care one bit.

Whilst it is true that many don't care about having a wife with a successful professional career, many men DO care about having a nice, loving, super supportive SAHM who raises the kids, runs the household, and let's him focus on his office work.
Especially the divorced ones with kids, they learned the hard way that they need a woman at home doing everything and liking it.

Vomit

[Anonymous]

OP - you seem really naive. The men you describe were not always wealthy - presuming that is what you mean to say. Any man who is wealthy and divorced is paying a ton of alimony and child support - you would be smart to avoid that mess because there will benothing left for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my case my DH is either in the office, on a plane, home, at a soccer field or on the golf course. I'm willing to be that there aren't' a lot of successful, financially and emotionally secure men on the loose.

That is correct. My one successful male friend who got divorced was very quickly taken off the market by a smart younger Asian woman. I doubt he was technically single for more than 15 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of them were in serious relationships coming out of grad school. They became financially secure after becoming married. The best time to catch one is when they are young.

If you want the still single late 20s early 30s attractive financially successful, normal man, you are competing heavily for them. They are rare and they know it.

The most successful men I know (the ones I'd actually want to be married to, not the rich assh*les) were married young. Few of them seem to look to their personal lives for adventure, they get enough stress from their jobs. Most of these guys wanted just someone attractive and supportive, which is why so many women look at the wives of these guys and are stumped as to why Successful Guy is so happy with his lovely, but largely unremarkable, SAHM. Women tend to think that successful men should be reserved for female professional powerhouses, when most truly successful men just don't care about that stuff.

Yes, your average $200,000/year striver type guy might care what his future wife does, but virtually none of the seven figure earners I know see to care one bit.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I "caught" my sane, handsome, kind, and financially secure DH in my 30's - online. He's introverted with few social ties, which is why no one snapped him up sooner.

This is the route I plan on taking once I feel ready for dating. My friends see me aiming too high in the age range, but I don't see it as a problem. I want security, and part of that is a man who knows himself and has lived a life. Financial success may come with that.

I married a very working class man that first time around, thinking shared values would see us through. He was so busy trying to make money for himself that I was of little value to him.

I bring a lot with me. I want a man who is comfortable in himself, and for men that often translates into financial success. So be it. But, I won't take on another dreamer. I need a man who's demonstrated his plans for life. No more competition in marriage for me, thanks.