question for the husbands

[Anonymous]

Besides all the fake answers about 3 ways, etc your getting, I think most guys would feel like your on the verge of having an affair not to mention being bisexual. No different then her cheating with another man. Won't end well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was in this situation with my ex-wife.

I found a bunch of lesbian porn on the computer, which she denied looking at. It took me finding more and more of it for her to finally admit that she was starting to feel sexually attracted to one of her friends.

She grew up in an abusive house with self-proclaimed religious folks. I considered that perhaps she was gay or bisexual and repressed it out of fear. We were in our twenties, so I gave her a one time hall pass. She could go figure out if that's what she wanted, and I wouldn't ask any questions. If it was something she wanted to keep doing, then we would need to have a new conversation.

I don't know if I felt threatened necessarily. I recognized early into the marriage that she had issues with self esteem and being herself instead of what she thought other people wanted her to be. Her revelation made me consider that maybe this attraction wasn't a new development and perhaps she'd been lying to herself about her sexuality for years. I loved her, so I wanted her to be happy even if it meant she wouldn't be with me anymore.

You, sir, are a good person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lads, how would you take it if your wife told you she was attracted to one of her girlfriends that she spends a lot of time with? the other woman being married with children as well and very low probability of anything happening. would you feel threatened? amused/intrigued? indifferent?

I would be fine with it only if I'm attracted to her DH with the same amount of feelings you have with her.

[Anonymous]

I'd put on a wig and take a trip downtown!

[Anonymous]

Why would your wife want to do a threesome with you? If she wants a lesbian experience she does not want your dick there. Also, most women need and emotional connection. She wants a relationship with the other woman not you.

[Anonymous]

Not a threesome, but my response would be she's free to go sleep with her, but I get to sleep with other women too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not a threesome, but my response would be she's free to go sleep with her, but I get to sleep with other women too.

+69

[Anonymous]

Wouldn't bother me, probably turn me on especially if she talked about what she would do with the OW while we fooled around. I wouldn't be worried about her going through with it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lads, how would you take it if your wife told you she was attracted to one of her girlfriends that she spends a lot of time with? the other woman being married with children as well and very low probability of anything happening. would you feel threatened? amused/intrigued? indifferent?

Having done this recently, my DH was intrigued and not threatened. He said he would have felt differently if the attraction was towards a guy, although he couldn't really explain why. However we have a relationship where it's safe to communicate things, even messy, complicated feelings. He thought it meant that I needed something that I wasn't getting already. He didn't exactly object to anything either, just left it open ended. Communicating feelings is different than actions, and really if DW trusts that DH can handle information about messy feelings, I think it indicates that the relationship is on pretty solid ground.

[Anonymous]

If my DW told me that I would definitely want to know more - why was she attracted, what was the nature of the attraction, did she hope it would be sexual. I'm sure I'd be very upset and angry but I'd want to know so I had a clue as to what to do about it. I have no desire to be married to a bi-sexual or a lesbian. I have no desire to stay married to someone who isn't exclusively attracted to me sexually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If my DW told me that I would definitely want to know more - why was she attracted, what was the nature of the attraction, did she hope it would be sexual. I'm sure I'd be very upset and angry but I'd want to know so I had a clue as to what to do about it. I have no desire to be married to a bi-sexual or a lesbian. I have no desire to stay married to someone who isn't exclusively attracted to me sexually.

So basically you would want to know more so you could decide whether to dump her or not.

If she has even a hint of how you feel about this 'subject' you sure as hell aren't going to get even a chance to ask the questions unless she is ready to dump your ass.

FWIW, I'm a man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If my DW told me that I would definitely want to know more - why was she attracted, what was the nature of the attraction, did she hope it would be sexual. I'm sure I'd be very upset and angry but I'd want to know so I had a clue as to what to do about it. I have no desire to be married to a bi-sexual or a lesbian. I have no desire to stay married to someone who isn't exclusively attracted to me sexually.

So basically you would want to know more so you could decide whether to dump her or not.

If she has even a hint of how you feel about this 'subject' you sure as hell aren't going to get even a chance to ask the questions unless she is ready to dump your ass.

FWIW, I'm a man.

Of course I'd want to know more! If she is no longer sexually attracted to me and really has a preference for other women why would I want to stay with her or why would she want to stay with me? If she's attracted to the other woman for reasons that are non-sexual I can live with that.

[Anonymous]

Someone has been watching Gypsy on Netflix....