I'm certain my son has a boyfriend, but he hasn't told me so. Don't know why.

[Anonymous]

They may still be trying to figure out what their relationship is.

Also, I wouldn't be comfortable with my child in bed with a romantic partner.

[Anonymous]

I could just ask him. I guess it's just standing out to me because it's always been our thing where he just comes to me with stuff. I've tried to let him have his space, and he's always just told me stuff, so this is new territory for me.

As for the bed thing, I didn't suspect they were more than friends until recently so I had no reason to talk to him about that, though he does know my feelings on sex and such.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because it's none of your business.

np why are you so hostile to the op? If he is living in her house and is her son and under 18 than it is her business.

[Anonymous]

Why not ask? Hey, whats going on with you and Larlo? I saw you kiss and hold hands. Just so you know I think he's a great kid and fully support what ever you choose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why not ask? Hey, whats going on with you and Larlo? I saw you kiss and hold hands. Just so you know I think he's a great kid and fully support what ever you choose.

This. Try not to take it personally he hasn't said anything. Teens are weird in general and especially about their love lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why not ask? Hey, whats going on with you and Larlo? I saw you kiss and hold hands. Just so you know I think he's a great kid and fully support what ever you choose.

I like this with just one change -

Hey, whats going on with you and Larlo? I saw you kiss and hold hands. Just so you know I think he's a great kid and [b]fully support you.

Saying you "fully support whatever you choose" makes it sound like you think sexuality is a choice - and its pretty clear that its not. So, don't say that.

[Anonymous]

My son was out to the world for almost a year before he told us and we're gay. Kids just tell you things in their own time.

[Anonymous]

Kids do experiment at this age. From talking with my teens and other young people, I see they feel much freer to shift back and forth. I would let it be and respect his privacy.

[Anonymous]

Because talking about dating with your mom is weird, no matter what. Back off. Let him do things in his own time, in his own way.

[Anonymous]

To me your son being gay isn't the problem, it's you being ok with him most likely have sex at 16 in your house. Do you think the other boy's parents should know? You certainly have a responsibility to tell them seeing that this is happening under your roof.

This is no different then it being with a girl, just a little more difficult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because talking about dating with your mom is weird, no matter what. Back off. Let him do things in his own time, in his own way.

NP. That's true, but not when he's having sheepivers at 16. That kind of forces some kind of discussion, I think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because talking about dating with your mom is weird, no matter what. Back off. Let him do things in his own time, in his own way.

NP. That's true, but not when he's having sheepivers at 16. That kind of forces some kind of discussion, I think.

Sleepovers ^^

[Anonymous]

Talking about dating with your parents IS NOT WEIRD.

Mom: Hey Joe I saw you with Mary, are you two dating?
Joe: No we are just friends. or Yea sort of, we're just "talking" (that is their word for hooking up)
Mom: Oh, she seems nice. It's sad about her dad dying, it's nice she has somebody.

So just change Joe to your child's name and change Mary to the other boys names and change she to he.

[Anonymous]

Op where is your son"s father and what does he have to say about this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not ask? Hey, whats going on with you and Larlo? I saw you kiss and hold hands. Just so you know I think he's a great kid and fully support what ever you choose.

I like this with just one change -

Hey, whats going on with you and Larlo? I saw you kiss and hold hands. Just so you know I think he's a great kid and [b]fully support you.

Saying you "fully support whatever you choose" makes it sound like you think sexuality is a choice - and its pretty clear that its not. So, don't say that.

You fully support whatever your kid chooses?! Wow. Your job is to bra parent, you know. Not a best friend.